How I cured my vulvodynia

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I see so many posts on here about constant or provoked vulva pain that I thought it might be useful if I explained vulvodynia and how I cured mine. Vulvodynia literally means vulvar pain and is a condition of the nerves in that area. The nerves have become hyperactive and hypersensitive due to trauma which can be chemical or physical in source or due to infection. I think mine was due to persistent thrush infection and the many remedies I tried to cure it, including home remedies such as bathing in a bath with some cider vinegar in - that made my soreness much worse (chemical trauma). Vulvodynia can cause itching, sore or burning sensation and this can be continuous or provoked (only happens when the area is touched). The nerves are so hypersensitive they register touch as pain and the usual way to diagnose it is to touch around the vulvar area with a cotton bud and where the touch registers as pain then that is the affected area. It can involve the whole of the vulvar area or can be in a horseshoe shape toward the posterior (which may also involve the perineum) or the anterior or can be offset to one side. The pain is a form of chronic neuropathic pain because it stems from nerve damage as opposed to nociceptive pain which is caused by tissue damage. Neuropathic pain can be very hard to get rid of. It took me 1.5 years of determination and the occasional disappointing set back to cure my vulvodynia. Probably more like 2 years to get back to normal.

Ok, ready for a long story about how I cured my vulvodynia:-

First I saw a gynaecologist. He took a biopsy of the painful area and confirmed no diseases or cancer. He put me on amitriptyline and steroid cream. These slowly worked for a while and made me comfortable enough to have a long overdue smear test. I had the smear test and the pain came back full force - back to square 1. By that time I had used the steroid cream for as long as is recommended and had stopped it (long term use not recommended). However, desperate to get rid of the pain I tired it again, but this time the cream stung me and made the pain worse. The gynaecologist gave me lynocaine cream to numb the area, but that stung me and made me worse. Nothing was working and in the end the gynae said that he could not cure me he could just help me managed the pain. Well, I wasn't going to put up with that for the rest of my life. So I did some investigating to find someone else who could help me and found a dermatologist consultant in Oxford who specialised in vulva pain. I also found some medication on the internet, made in Italy which is a gel is specifically for treating vulvodynia. It calms down the overactive and hypersensitive nerves. Saginil gel  - you can order it direct from the suppliers, epitech, on their website. You can do this because it is not classed as a medicine because it is made of natural plant-based ingredients. It is expensive, as is the post from Italy, but I am so pleased I bought it because it was the only thing my skin could tolerate there and it did make a difference - it reduced the pain so that it was bearable and I could function better with daily life.

i saw the dermatologist and she told me all the things that she had found worked to get rid of the pain, but nerve pain is difficult to get rid of so she suggested I try them all and stick at it. i was surprised because, appears from upping the amitriptyline dose to 50-70mg a day (I was on 20), the rest of the things were what you would class alternative, or natural, cures. They were: western acupuncture, physiotherapy, chiropraction and manual desensitisation. Now, different things work for different people because there are different causes for the vulvodynia: infection, physical or chemical trauma, hormones, trapped nerve in back. I knew mine was caused by repeated and persistent thrush and the various treatments I tried to get rid of it (including cider vinegar - ouch! No!). So I didn't see a chiropractor because is didn't thing it stemmed from a pelvic nerve problem, however, from what you describe, yours might. I did do yoga exercises that free trapped pelvic nerves. I bought a book on pelvic floor exercises and did those, rather than see a physio. I did the manual desensitisation - this is where you stroke yourself very lightly in the painful area, using non-irritating lubricant (I used oil based lube by yes, or coconut oil), just once the first day. Then each day you gradually build up the strokes in number and pressure. The idea is that you are retraining the nerves to register touch as touch and not pain. So, massage yourself there just enough so as not to cause lasting pain afterwards. I built it up until I could do 100 strokes of fairly good pressure, then I moved into inserting a finger, then two, then the tip of my husband's penis and then gradually out him in a little further each time, until I could get most of him in, then starting moving with him in, again gradually building it up each time. I also found a GP that also ran a Western acupuncture clinic. Western means that they leave the meddles in and pass electricity through them. That was what really worked for me - each time I went I just got better and better. Apparently the amitriptyline and the acupuncture work well together to dampen down those hyperactive and oversensitive nerves. I upped the amitriptyline to 50mg as day, very gradually by 5mg every 1 or 2 weeks because it caused side effects so my body needed to adapt to each increase. 

Finally, there are the changes to how you live. No tight clothes, no sex (until you are ready), no exercise (I gradually built that up too but walking just a short distance and gradually increasing it - never do an amount that cause she lasting pain). Go knicker free if you can - I work mainly from home so was able to go around with no knickers on and baggy jogging bottoms or a skirt. Sitting also caused problems (I work at a computer) so I got a ring shoved cushion form woman to use after they have given birth and sat in that so that there was no pressure at all on the sensitive area (dame for driving the car). Coconut oil was soothing (raw, cold pressed, organic coconut oil) so I applied that externally and internally with a clean finger after every time I went to the loo (I carried a little pot in my hand bag so I could apply it while out and about with an organic, pesticide and bleach free cotton pad). No scented products on that area, in fact I didn't wash there at all, I used coconut oil to clean the area and when showered I used organic, nasty chemical free and scent free body wash and shampoo and conditioner (because stuff runs down). I also washed my clothes in scent free, kind-to-skin laundry detergent and conditioner. Toilet paper has bleach in it, so I got some tissues that were bleach free and used those to wipe after doing a wee.

The key is to be persistent, try everything, gradually build things up, stick with what works, be determined, don't give in. The consultant dermatologist was very impressed with me because I was so determined and didn't give into urges. She said she had many women who just got fed up with how long it was taking and just went for a long walk / bike ride / horse ride or had sex and put themselves back at square one again. It does take a long time - it took me 1.5 years of all that stuff in my message above to get to being pain free. Even now, 5 years later, I still apply coconut oil after every time I go to the toilet, use tonnes of oil based lube during intercourse, go around the house wear no knickers. I don't want it to come back. I am also still on 50mg amitriptyline a day. At first I was afraid to come off it because the consultant dermatologist told me, you may be pain free, but if you come off it too soon, the pain can come back. So it is best to wait a few months after being pain free. Then menopause set in and I got hot flushes and my GP told me to stay on the  amitriptyline because it helps with hot flushes. My body has adapted to it now. I hope to reduce the dose sometime (gradually, by 5mg very 2 weeks, just like I built it up). I still do pelvic floor exercises - the book I got was called 7 steps to pain-free sex by Claudia Amherd. It is mainly about vaginismus, but the exercises apply to vulvodynia too - just don't do them sitting on a juggling ball (ouch) do them standing up first, then lying down, as it advises in the book. Gradually build up the exercises, doing more and more each time. Again, don't do so much that it causes an increase in pain or lasting pain - cut back if that happens.

Also, you need to get some organic, chemical free sanitary towels for when you have your period (no tampons). 

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    Have any of you experienced pain when you walk as well? It feels like it's about to shoot again so I walk really slow and carefully. I feel like the acupuncture helped a little bit with the worst shootings, but it is still there a little bit just waiting for me to mess up.

    I also feel like the donut pillow makes my but hurt. So I bought a pillow that has a hole in the middle, but it's flat on the sides instead of round. Hopefully that will help those nerves to relax a little bit more.

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      where is the pain when you walk ? is it in your lady parts or down your leg ?

      walking hasnt been a problem for me .

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      I saw a specialist and he said I should just use estrogen cream for the irritation. I was thinking about taking the blood test for estrogen when I was on my way home from the doctors office. I will ask him about that for my next appointment. Thanks for the names. Hopefully he will understand it more.

      The pain when I walk is down there were it hurts. Between vagina and urethra. I had it the first time as well, but it went away. It came back now because I massaged the area too much.

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      I don't know if I should go off the pill since it gives me so much pain as well. I get black outs when it is on it's worst. I have been on the pill for several years so I don't know if it is that. However, I can ask my gynie if she has something else I can use instead of the pill.

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      that sounds awful . Maybe ask about the mini pill . if you are on that you dont have periods

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      I tried that and it worked for a while until it did not do anything anymore. That is why I'm on the "normal" pill.

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      i use a mirena coil to manage my endometriosis and although i'm not symptom free it does seem to help... I'm not sure if it effects my vulvodynia although that does seem hormone related as its much worse at certain points in my cycle...

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      I will ask my gynecologist about it. Thanks! We don't know if I have endometriosis for sure since we have not done the keyhole surgery. My gynecologist just think I have it due to the symptoms.

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      I use microgynon at the moment. It helps. I still get menstruation from time to time, but not as often. I'm fine with that. I don't see any difference when I have menstruation or not so that is why I don't think it is related to that. But again I can't be 100% sure.

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      I never had the shooting pains, although I know of others who have. I had the constant burning which got even worse with touch/ pressure / movement.

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    Hello!

    Your post was very helpful to me in trying to figure out treatment methods for myself.

    I have recently started western acupuncture. I was hoping you could tell me where did they place the needles for your treatment?

    Warmly,

    Mumu

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      in the area of my lower back / sacrum. afterwards i would always have a numbed feeling in the area of my privates, that numbness would have faded by the next day but the pain reduction increased gradually after each session.

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      I don't think I have the strength to fight anymore. I feel like I have nobody. I'm just mad inside and said. I have people I was close to and loved. The only thing that is keeping me alive right now is my age and the fact that I might have a future. But it is so hard when I feel like I'm just losing everything in the process.

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      i was so very sad to see your comment and how much you are suffering . There were times when i felt low too. You need to have a plan of action .

      Try to get your ami increased , try coming off the contraceptive pill . can you see a psychiatrist to talk about how low you are and see if you can get them to prescribe ami at a much higher dose to act as an antidepressant as well as for nerve psin ?

      This is what i did and it really helped me .

      Do you live st home with your family ?

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      I agree with Susan. You need a plan of action and you need to stick to it. Like she said, increase your amitriptyline, do mindfulness, see a councellor, try coming of the pill and see what that does, continue with the acupuncture, try manual densitisation, try pelvic floor exercises. If any of these things dont increase your pain (or increase it slightly for only a short period afterwards), carry on with them. It does take time, there is no quick fix, you need great patience and determination. It took me 1.5 years to be pain free and another 6 months before I could have sex again. Having a plan focuses your mind in a positive direction. View it as a fight, if you like, as a battle - you refuse to let this condition rule your life!

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      I'm having small break downs that disappear really quickly. Sorry for bothering you guys with my mess. I don't have a lot of people to talk to about my condition. I know they would not understand it.

      My doctor just sent in an application to a psychiatrist. He said it will take a long time before I could get an appointment since it is so many people who needs help now. He is doing everything he can to make sure it happens as fast as possible, but he told me it sadly will take some time. I also have an appointment to see a vulva clinic. However the waiting list is so long. My doctor tried to call them, but I could not get an appointment before November or December.

      I know the acupuncture works it just takes time. I don't understand why I have mood swings. In one moment I'm sad and then all of a sudden I'm okay. I have not had menstruation since April 3 and I don't really want to have it again. That's why I probably hold back on the contractive pill.

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      It's ok. Thats why I created this forum. So women could get support from others who have been through vulvodynia and are now pain free. I feel it is important for people to hear the positive stories - there are so many negative ones on the internet - and to have hope. Because positive thinking plays a crucial part of getting better. And i seriously recommend not reading the negative stories.

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      I have not read any negative stories, but I was on a facebook group for vulvodynia. However I choose not to look at it anymore. I felt like the people who were in the group were not there to get better. It was a little bit depressing to read how awful they were feeling and people was just saying I know I had it for ten years and so on. Not any positive thinking on how to get rid of it.

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