How I cured my vulvodynia
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I see so many posts on here about constant or provoked vulva pain that I thought it might be useful if I explained vulvodynia and how I cured mine. Vulvodynia literally means vulvar pain and is a condition of the nerves in that area. The nerves have become hyperactive and hypersensitive due to trauma which can be chemical or physical in source or due to infection. I think mine was due to persistent thrush infection and the many remedies I tried to cure it, including home remedies such as bathing in a bath with some cider vinegar in - that made my soreness much worse (chemical trauma). Vulvodynia can cause itching, sore or burning sensation and this can be continuous or provoked (only happens when the area is touched). The nerves are so hypersensitive they register touch as pain and the usual way to diagnose it is to touch around the vulvar area with a cotton bud and where the touch registers as pain then that is the affected area. It can involve the whole of the vulvar area or can be in a horseshoe shape toward the posterior (which may also involve the perineum) or the anterior or can be offset to one side. The pain is a form of chronic neuropathic pain because it stems from nerve damage as opposed to nociceptive pain which is caused by tissue damage. Neuropathic pain can be very hard to get rid of. It took me 1.5 years of determination and the occasional disappointing set back to cure my vulvodynia. Probably more like 2 years to get back to normal.
Ok, ready for a long story about how I cured my vulvodynia:-
First I saw a gynaecologist. He took a biopsy of the painful area and confirmed no diseases or cancer. He put me on amitriptyline and steroid cream. These slowly worked for a while and made me comfortable enough to have a long overdue smear test. I had the smear test and the pain came back full force - back to square 1. By that time I had used the steroid cream for as long as is recommended and had stopped it (long term use not recommended). However, desperate to get rid of the pain I tired it again, but this time the cream stung me and made the pain worse. The gynaecologist gave me lynocaine cream to numb the area, but that stung me and made me worse. Nothing was working and in the end the gynae said that he could not cure me he could just help me managed the pain. Well, I wasn't going to put up with that for the rest of my life. So I did some investigating to find someone else who could help me and found a dermatologist consultant in Oxford who specialised in vulva pain. I also found some medication on the internet, made in Italy which is a gel is specifically for treating vulvodynia. It calms down the overactive and hypersensitive nerves. Saginil gel - you can order it direct from the suppliers, epitech, on their website. You can do this because it is not classed as a medicine because it is made of natural plant-based ingredients. It is expensive, as is the post from Italy, but I am so pleased I bought it because it was the only thing my skin could tolerate there and it did make a difference - it reduced the pain so that it was bearable and I could function better with daily life.
i saw the dermatologist and she told me all the things that she had found worked to get rid of the pain, but nerve pain is difficult to get rid of so she suggested I try them all and stick at it. i was surprised because, appears from upping the amitriptyline dose to 50-70mg a day (I was on 20), the rest of the things were what you would class alternative, or natural, cures. They were: western acupuncture, physiotherapy, chiropraction and manual desensitisation. Now, different things work for different people because there are different causes for the vulvodynia: infection, physical or chemical trauma, hormones, trapped nerve in back. I knew mine was caused by repeated and persistent thrush and the various treatments I tried to get rid of it (including cider vinegar - ouch! No!). So I didn't see a chiropractor because is didn't thing it stemmed from a pelvic nerve problem, however, from what you describe, yours might. I did do yoga exercises that free trapped pelvic nerves. I bought a book on pelvic floor exercises and did those, rather than see a physio. I did the manual desensitisation - this is where you stroke yourself very lightly in the painful area, using non-irritating lubricant (I used oil based lube by yes, or coconut oil), just once the first day. Then each day you gradually build up the strokes in number and pressure. The idea is that you are retraining the nerves to register touch as touch and not pain. So, massage yourself there just enough so as not to cause lasting pain afterwards. I built it up until I could do 100 strokes of fairly good pressure, then I moved into inserting a finger, then two, then the tip of my husband's penis and then gradually out him in a little further each time, until I could get most of him in, then starting moving with him in, again gradually building it up each time. I also found a GP that also ran a Western acupuncture clinic. Western means that they leave the meddles in and pass electricity through them. That was what really worked for me - each time I went I just got better and better. Apparently the amitriptyline and the acupuncture work well together to dampen down those hyperactive and oversensitive nerves. I upped the amitriptyline to 50mg as day, very gradually by 5mg every 1 or 2 weeks because it caused side effects so my body needed to adapt to each increase.
Finally, there are the changes to how you live. No tight clothes, no sex (until you are ready), no exercise (I gradually built that up too but walking just a short distance and gradually increasing it - never do an amount that cause she lasting pain). Go knicker free if you can - I work mainly from home so was able to go around with no knickers on and baggy jogging bottoms or a skirt. Sitting also caused problems (I work at a computer) so I got a ring shoved cushion form woman to use after they have given birth and sat in that so that there was no pressure at all on the sensitive area (dame for driving the car). Coconut oil was soothing (raw, cold pressed, organic coconut oil) so I applied that externally and internally with a clean finger after every time I went to the loo (I carried a little pot in my hand bag so I could apply it while out and about with an organic, pesticide and bleach free cotton pad). No scented products on that area, in fact I didn't wash there at all, I used coconut oil to clean the area and when showered I used organic, nasty chemical free and scent free body wash and shampoo and conditioner (because stuff runs down). I also washed my clothes in scent free, kind-to-skin laundry detergent and conditioner. Toilet paper has bleach in it, so I got some tissues that were bleach free and used those to wipe after doing a wee.
The key is to be persistent, try everything, gradually build things up, stick with what works, be determined, don't give in. The consultant dermatologist was very impressed with me because I was so determined and didn't give into urges. She said she had many women who just got fed up with how long it was taking and just went for a long walk / bike ride / horse ride or had sex and put themselves back at square one again. It does take a long time - it took me 1.5 years of all that stuff in my message above to get to being pain free. Even now, 5 years later, I still apply coconut oil after every time I go to the toilet, use tonnes of oil based lube during intercourse, go around the house wear no knickers. I don't want it to come back. I am also still on 50mg amitriptyline a day. At first I was afraid to come off it because the consultant dermatologist told me, you may be pain free, but if you come off it too soon, the pain can come back. So it is best to wait a few months after being pain free. Then menopause set in and I got hot flushes and my GP told me to stay on the amitriptyline because it helps with hot flushes. My body has adapted to it now. I hope to reduce the dose sometime (gradually, by 5mg very 2 weeks, just like I built it up). I still do pelvic floor exercises - the book I got was called 7 steps to pain-free sex by Claudia Amherd. It is mainly about vaginismus, but the exercises apply to vulvodynia too - just don't do them sitting on a juggling ball (ouch) do them standing up first, then lying down, as it advises in the book. Gradually build up the exercises, doing more and more each time. Again, don't do so much that it causes an increase in pain or lasting pain - cut back if that happens.
Also, you need to get some organic, chemical free sanitary towels for when you have your period (no tampons).
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em04260 Suki_girl
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hi is anyone still on this thread please
Suki_girl em04260
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I am! Sorry, I saw that you had private messaged me but you didn't ask a question so I wasn't sure that you were genuine. Please do private message if you have a question you don't want everyone to see.
LadyMercia em04260
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I am too!
ZiRyu Suki_girl
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Hi. I'm unsure if this is my problem, but I've had painful intercourse for over 3 years and what the doctors in my area are trying to tell me is that I'm a medical enigma.
I've seen a gyno and a physical therapist and a normal therapist. They're not sure what's wrong. The physical therapist had me doing the internal pressure thing and had me get a pelvic wand and ran me through all kinds of ways to relieve pain anywhere I had it, which worked for just the pain.
I first noticed it when I got pregnant with my first baby (not after I had him, but when I got pregnant). Sex had pain and pressure. No good feeling any more.
I've looked up everything I could think of to see what it could be and came up with either vulvodynia or vulvar vestibulitis.
No medical expert in my area has knowledge of this as far as I know. I get you had to find someone online, but I'm sure I'd have to go a really long way to see anyone that could help.
It wouldn't be so bad if I was just alone, but it's ruining my marriage. My sex drive is zero and I'm not sexually attracted to anything any more. My husband feels it's his fault, but it couldn't be. I don't know the cause of it but I highly doubt he did it to me.
I could use guidance..
Suki_girl ZiRyu
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so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Vulvodynia is much more than pain - it damages your whole quality of life. If you are serious about getting better you need to try everything I did and anything else that helps (anything the physio taught you). But it is a slow and long process - it takes a long time to calm the nerves down and get them responding correctly. And during recovery you must not do anything that aggravates the nerves, so no sex at all until you are pain free. You definitely need to start taking amitriptyline asap.
ZiRyu Suki_girl
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Telling my husband is the part I was dreading because he's a very sexual being. But he knows it'll be for not just me, but both of us.
I'm glad I found your post on here or I would still be at a complete loss of what's going on with me.
Thank you.
Suki_girl ZiRyu
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It is worth abstaining in order to be able to have pain free sex again. I have advised others who were on the road to recovery but couldn't wait, had sex and put themselves right back to square one. All the subsequent pain and frustration of having to start the whole process again - it just isn't worth it. I would hope that your husband wants you to enjoy sex as much as he does and would not want you to be in pain..
Have you tried the cotton bud test? Using a mirror to see what you are doing touch lightly all around the vulva area with a cotton bud, if you feel the touch as pain, it is vulvodynia. You can also use this method to identify the area affected.
em04260 ZiRyu
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im the same hope you get sorted this forum has been amazing xx
Clariver Suki_girl
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hello again. I've had a bad flare up recently due to getting cystitis, and almost back to square one after five years! something I heard recently triggered a thought, and that is skin allergy, which is about the only avenue I haven't followed up despite seeing a consultant dermatologist who specialises in vulval problems, she told me that it was definitely vd, and nothing to do with an allergic reaction.however I've suffered all my life with ultra sensitive skin, excema patches etc, and have to be very careful what I use on my face, using avene which is totally pure. as I had some benedryl in the cupboard I thought I'd try it, as it says for skin allergies as well as hay fever. will give this a go for a few weeks and see if this helps. has anyone else used an antihistamine for vd?? if so would love to hear if its been helpful. I also use dermol, but not on the vulval parts. its great for legs and arms etc as a body wash. basically best only to use water down below. I use gabapentin cream via a pain doc in london, which helps but is very expensive., I also find diazepam very helpful for the vd, which is a muscle relaxant, and helps my back pain.
Suki_girl Clariver
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I tried antihistamines but didnt make any difference. That doesn't mean it wont work for you though.
Clariver Suki_girl
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just wondering if anyone has tried CBD oil? it has some good reviews for vulvodynia. I have a phone consultation with pain doctor in two weeks time and will ask to trial it and report back!
Suki_girl Clariver
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sorry, I didn't try that one
candace83425 Suki_girl
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hi Suki girl! I'm so glad to see you are still on this board. I would really like chat with you about my experience.I private messaged you!
sarah1212 Suki_girl
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I just wanted to come on here and say I am back to normal and symptom free of vulvodynia. I know how inspiring this news would be to me if I had seen it on the forum a year ago. I would say it took my nerves to calm down about 1 year and 9 months. Quite long, don't feel discouraged by the long time it takes for nerves to go back to normal. Its so worth it in the end. My cause was hypersensitive nerves, if this is your case, my advice to you would be coconut oil in the area that hurts (takes the friction away and eased pain). Lots of rest, no sex until pain free, no wiping, comfy clothes. I would say my biggest set back was sex, please try and hold off of it. It's hard I know, but the relief of knowing that holding off on it will get you better sooner is worth it. My BIGGEST form of treatment was manual desensitisation. It was my holy grail. Follow Suki's instructions on how to get started. Good luck, I wish everyone healing.
Suki_girl sarah1212
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I am so pleased to see this. Well done. I know how much will power, patience and determination it takes. I know people expect short term solutions these days but that just cannot be applied to nerves. As you say, there are some things that are difficult to give up, but it is worth giving them up for a couple of years in order to be able to do them pain free once again, rather than live in pain for the foreseeable future.
One thing I will say is not everyone gets on with coconut oil - it stings some women. But there are other natural oils - I also used Yes oil based lubricant. It is important to reduce friction as this can aggravate the nerves.
LadyMercia sarah1212
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This is great news - well done!
I'm 10 months into my journey & for the last 3 was beginning to hope I was on the road to recovery, but a UTI has knocked me backwards somewhat.
Your positive news & Suki's advise will help me continue towards a life symptom free.
Thank you & best wishes.