How I cured my vulvodynia

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I see so many posts on here about constant or provoked vulva pain that I thought it might be useful if I explained vulvodynia and how I cured mine. Vulvodynia literally means vulvar pain and is a condition of the nerves in that area. The nerves have become hyperactive and hypersensitive due to trauma which can be chemical or physical in source or due to infection. I think mine was due to persistent thrush infection and the many remedies I tried to cure it, including home remedies such as bathing in a bath with some cider vinegar in - that made my soreness much worse (chemical trauma). Vulvodynia can cause itching, sore or burning sensation and this can be continuous or provoked (only happens when the area is touched). The nerves are so hypersensitive they register touch as pain and the usual way to diagnose it is to touch around the vulvar area with a cotton bud and where the touch registers as pain then that is the affected area. It can involve the whole of the vulvar area or can be in a horseshoe shape toward the posterior (which may also involve the perineum) or the anterior or can be offset to one side. The pain is a form of chronic neuropathic pain because it stems from nerve damage as opposed to nociceptive pain which is caused by tissue damage. Neuropathic pain can be very hard to get rid of. It took me 1.5 years of determination and the occasional disappointing set back to cure my vulvodynia. Probably more like 2 years to get back to normal.

Ok, ready for a long story about how I cured my vulvodynia:-

First I saw a gynaecologist. He took a biopsy of the painful area and confirmed no diseases or cancer. He put me on amitriptyline and steroid cream. These slowly worked for a while and made me comfortable enough to have a long overdue smear test. I had the smear test and the pain came back full force - back to square 1. By that time I had used the steroid cream for as long as is recommended and had stopped it (long term use not recommended). However, desperate to get rid of the pain I tired it again, but this time the cream stung me and made the pain worse. The gynaecologist gave me lynocaine cream to numb the area, but that stung me and made me worse. Nothing was working and in the end the gynae said that he could not cure me he could just help me managed the pain. Well, I wasn't going to put up with that for the rest of my life. So I did some investigating to find someone else who could help me and found a dermatologist consultant in Oxford who specialised in vulva pain. I also found some medication on the internet, made in Italy which is a gel is specifically for treating vulvodynia. It calms down the overactive and hypersensitive nerves. Saginil gel  - you can order it direct from the suppliers, epitech, on their website. You can do this because it is not classed as a medicine because it is made of natural plant-based ingredients. It is expensive, as is the post from Italy, but I am so pleased I bought it because it was the only thing my skin could tolerate there and it did make a difference - it reduced the pain so that it was bearable and I could function better with daily life.

i saw the dermatologist and she told me all the things that she had found worked to get rid of the pain, but nerve pain is difficult to get rid of so she suggested I try them all and stick at it. i was surprised because, appears from upping the amitriptyline dose to 50-70mg a day (I was on 20), the rest of the things were what you would class alternative, or natural, cures. They were: western acupuncture, physiotherapy, chiropraction and manual desensitisation. Now, different things work for different people because there are different causes for the vulvodynia: infection, physical or chemical trauma, hormones, trapped nerve in back. I knew mine was caused by repeated and persistent thrush and the various treatments I tried to get rid of it (including cider vinegar - ouch! No!). So I didn't see a chiropractor because is didn't thing it stemmed from a pelvic nerve problem, however, from what you describe, yours might. I did do yoga exercises that free trapped pelvic nerves. I bought a book on pelvic floor exercises and did those, rather than see a physio. I did the manual desensitisation - this is where you stroke yourself very lightly in the painful area, using non-irritating lubricant (I used oil based lube by yes, or coconut oil), just once the first day. Then each day you gradually build up the strokes in number and pressure. The idea is that you are retraining the nerves to register touch as touch and not pain. So, massage yourself there just enough so as not to cause lasting pain afterwards. I built it up until I could do 100 strokes of fairly good pressure, then I moved into inserting a finger, then two, then the tip of my husband's penis and then gradually out him in a little further each time, until I could get most of him in, then starting moving with him in, again gradually building it up each time. I also found a GP that also ran a Western acupuncture clinic. Western means that they leave the meddles in and pass electricity through them. That was what really worked for me - each time I went I just got better and better. Apparently the amitriptyline and the acupuncture work well together to dampen down those hyperactive and oversensitive nerves. I upped the amitriptyline to 50mg as day, very gradually by 5mg every 1 or 2 weeks because it caused side effects so my body needed to adapt to each increase. 

Finally, there are the changes to how you live. No tight clothes, no sex (until you are ready), no exercise (I gradually built that up too but walking just a short distance and gradually increasing it - never do an amount that cause she lasting pain). Go knicker free if you can - I work mainly from home so was able to go around with no knickers on and baggy jogging bottoms or a skirt. Sitting also caused problems (I work at a computer) so I got a ring shoved cushion form woman to use after they have given birth and sat in that so that there was no pressure at all on the sensitive area (dame for driving the car). Coconut oil was soothing (raw, cold pressed, organic coconut oil) so I applied that externally and internally with a clean finger after every time I went to the loo (I carried a little pot in my hand bag so I could apply it while out and about with an organic, pesticide and bleach free cotton pad). No scented products on that area, in fact I didn't wash there at all, I used coconut oil to clean the area and when showered I used organic, nasty chemical free and scent free body wash and shampoo and conditioner (because stuff runs down). I also washed my clothes in scent free, kind-to-skin laundry detergent and conditioner. Toilet paper has bleach in it, so I got some tissues that were bleach free and used those to wipe after doing a wee.

The key is to be persistent, try everything, gradually build things up, stick with what works, be determined, don't give in. The consultant dermatologist was very impressed with me because I was so determined and didn't give into urges. She said she had many women who just got fed up with how long it was taking and just went for a long walk / bike ride / horse ride or had sex and put themselves back at square one again. It does take a long time - it took me 1.5 years of all that stuff in my message above to get to being pain free. Even now, 5 years later, I still apply coconut oil after every time I go to the toilet, use tonnes of oil based lube during intercourse, go around the house wear no knickers. I don't want it to come back. I am also still on 50mg amitriptyline a day. At first I was afraid to come off it because the consultant dermatologist told me, you may be pain free, but if you come off it too soon, the pain can come back. So it is best to wait a few months after being pain free. Then menopause set in and I got hot flushes and my GP told me to stay on the  amitriptyline because it helps with hot flushes. My body has adapted to it now. I hope to reduce the dose sometime (gradually, by 5mg very 2 weeks, just like I built it up). I still do pelvic floor exercises - the book I got was called 7 steps to pain-free sex by Claudia Amherd. It is mainly about vaginismus, but the exercises apply to vulvodynia too - just don't do them sitting on a juggling ball (ouch) do them standing up first, then lying down, as it advises in the book. Gradually build up the exercises, doing more and more each time. Again, don't do so much that it causes an increase in pain or lasting pain - cut back if that happens.

Also, you need to get some organic, chemical free sanitary towels for when you have your period (no tampons). 

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  • Posted

    Because my acupuncturist was also a GP she knew what vulvodynia was. You need to find a GP or physio who knows the condition and has also learned western acupuncture.
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      That’s going to be tough, but ill def try. 

      Thanks Stephani, I hope I feel better after a couple of sessions 

      Does anyone also have urinary symptoms?

      My pain won’t be present but once I pee, the burning lingers for a few hours sometimes. 

      Is this the vulvodynia? 

      Because the urine touches the painful area?

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      Hi Nisha, I am interested to hear how you get on with the acupuncture sessions, if they help you, I am thinking of trying it soon.  I used to get problems of dying to go to the loo and when I did nothing much was there but that seems to have settled a bit now.  I don't get pain when urinating but I do make sure I wash straight after with warm water each time.  As you can tell from my previous message, I am feeling very low at the moment, and depressed, do you get like that?  How long have you had your Vulvadynia?  I am hating life at the moment, just hope we can beat this condition some how.

    • Posted

      Yes, urine can aggravate the painful area. Many women find wetting the toilet tissue and dabbing the urine away with that helps. I used cold water because cold on that area can soothe the burning.
    • Posted

      Linda, 

      Something that helps me through the depressing mood is talking to my physical therapist. She’s had the same problem and has treated many people with it. Everyone she’s worked on has gotten better including herself. 

      Everytime you are feeling down, just think of the bright side. You have a diagnosis and now are already taking the right steps to treat it. 

      I’ve had this problem since September. I got my diagnosis on feb 1st..

      It’s a lot of ups and downs with my pain 

      Accupuncture doesn’t seem to have any direct effects so far

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      The people who don’t get better are those who don’t even get a diagnosis for years or don’t do anything to help it. 
    • Posted

      I guess the answer is trying to find good therapists and acupuncturist, which is difficult as you don't know until you try.  So glad to hear your therapist has treated lots of others with this condition and all got better, that is reassuring. So nice to chat to others going through the same thing, as people who haven't experienced it just don't understand.  Sure they think I am making it all up. I got my diagnosis about same time as you, has it over 2 months by then.  Mine seems up and down too.  Had great weekend but yesterday and today sore and stinging again, not all day but all morning yesterday and all afternoon today.  Looking into acupuncture at the moment as trying to find a female one.  Let's all keep each other strong 

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      Yes. I saw a psychosexual therapist - talking to her helped me sort out things in my head about how I got the vulvodynia. Stress can play a part too.
    • Posted

      Very true. Many women just suffer in silence thinking they are the only ones.
    • Posted

      Linda, why do you want a female acupuncturist? Is it because you feel that she will be more understanding about your problem? If so, that is understandable. I just wanted to reassure you that they do not stick the needles in private places, they stick them at the base of your spine.
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      Hi Suki, yes, I just prefer to speak about the problem to a female acupuncturist as it's easier to explain for me, men don't know what it feels like down below.  I saw a female GP and a female gynaecologist.  I saw a male gynaecologist several years ago, with a similar problem, it wasn't Vulvadynia as no pain, but think it was the discomfort at the time, I thought I may have had a prolapse womb.  The male gynaecologist was awful, very unsympathetic and abrupt.  Completely put me off, whereas all the females I have seen have been wonderful.  In a lot of pain at the moment, stinging and discomfort, got so bad again.  I will try the yoga poses you mentioned tomorrow, will look up on line how to do them.  I think will also try the ice packs too.

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      Take care of yourself. I know it may seem lazy but, honestly, you just need to rest. Rest and give those nerves time to recover. That’s what I did. Yes, I put on weight but now I am better I am working at getting fitter again. Getting a good nights sleep really helps, not in terms of reducing the pain, but just in terms of giving you the mental strength to carry on and get determined to get better. That’s what the amitriptyline did for me - getting a good nights sleep really helped me to face each day of pain with optimism for the future.
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      Hi nisha. I have a similar timeline to yourself. My physical therepist also said shes treated loads and it goes away. So the stuff we read on the internet isnt really accurate because some people may not be getting the right treatment. This condition does go away when the cause is found and treated appropriately. Did she tell u you too would recover. Did she give u a timephrame x
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      What is the name of the physio therapist and where are they please 
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    Hi everyone.... also a current suffer and fairly new to having this condition 4 months now but trying to stay positive and determined to beat this!!

    ​Does anyone experience unprovoked vulvodynia? I have provoked and unprovoked but noticed the last few days especially ive had a constant pain like a dull ache when I am not even doing anything to it and was wondering if people have any remedies or use anything that reduces this pain? I wonder if its because its dry and maybe that causes soreness?

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      Mine was birth provoked and unprovoked. The product I found to be most soothing was the saginil gel I’ve mentioned before. Coconut oil or yes oil based lube also felt good.
    • Posted

      Hi bearbear sounds like you have had it similar time to me, mine is 3 months now, and getting me down so much.  I am trying to stay positive but it's so hard, I get very weepy niw and again, if someone told me it would definitely go eventually I could cope better but it's the unknown that gets me down, plus my life style at the moment is just rubbish, lying around reading, getting weaker by the day.  Mine I think is unprovoked Vulvadynia as it occurs any time without touch.  Yesterday evening I too had a dull ache, for about 2 hours, like a drawing pain, pulling, but I prefer that to the stinging pain.  I am using Dermot 500 after every loo visit, Yes lube every morning, Vagifem every evening, Nortriptyline 10mg at moment, yoga every day at home, meditation tape every day, weekly counselling for the anxiety, lots of water, no potato or tomatoe, no tea or coffee, and am now looking into acupuncturist.  I think I have Vulvadynia plus dryness too, hence the Vagifem and Yes.  Are you still managing to work, get about and function normally?

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      Hi Linda and Bearbear, hang in there ladies. The fact that you are even on here, discussing it, seeking advice and trying things means that you are serious about getting better and are taking positive action. Those who don’t get better are those who just accept it and don’t do anything about it or try things for a bit then give up. It is a long slow haul back to being pain free. I know it is frustrating because this debilitating pain can just suddenly appear  from nowhere and then it takes months or even years to get rid of it.  Linda, don’t feel guilty about lying about all day - you are unwell, you need to take it easy and relax.
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      Hi Bearbear, been ages since I have been on here now, I feel so good.  I am now down to 20 mg of Nortryptyline and all is well, desperate to get off it as so constipated and gained a lot of weight.  How are you doing, hope you have had the same success as me.  It all feels like a distant dream now.
    • Posted

      Hi Linda. Thank you for sharing your success story. It might be useful if you provide a summary of what you did in order to become pain free and how long it took.

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