How long to wait to sex after outbreak?

I have type 2

That is true, but genital Type 2 is quite infectious compared to genital Type 1 and sheds more often, even more so during the first year of infection, so it's possible to transmit the virus even without an outbreak. At the very least, I would wait until the skin is fully healed, even longer if it's a first outbreak, and use condoms, plus take daily suppressive meds (takes 5 days before it kicks in). Unless, of course, the other person has it, too. Then there's no need to take any special precautions.

So even I had been taking 1 acyclovir 400 mg for a week, plus if we used a condom plus if my mild ob that looked healed and was in such a awkward spot (upper butt crack area) I don't Understand how this could possibly spread so easy. I need to understand this shedding stuff more

How long have you had it? Is this your first outbreak? 400 mg once daily is not the correct dosage for a first outbreak or as daily suppressive therapy, just so you know.

Sure, if you are fully healed, use condoms and take the correct dosage daily (remember, it takes 5 days to kick in), then transmission is greatly reduced.

It doesn't matter where below the belt your outbreak is or how mild it is. Genital Type 2 can shed at random without symptoms from the anogenital tract. So, just because you had a mild outbreak near your upper butt crack does not mean that's the only place where you're shedding/infectious.

1st outbreak. Doctor never said how many to take a day she just said take when you need it. And since I don't have health insurance I didn't want to take so many a day especially when I didn't feel like my body needed it. It had scabbed over by day 3. Scabs had fallen off by day 5. By day 8 it seemed that it had healed (no open wound just a scar) I'm just afraid to even have sex hearing all of this. It's impossible to NOT spread this crap.

This is an unrelated question but, did uou have symptoms 2-14 days after your exposure to this virus or did you take months until you had your first ob? Not knowing when or who I got this from is killing me

It is possible to have sex without spreading herpes, but given that you have Type 2, and possibly a new infection, it is important to be extra careful. For daily suppressive therapy with acyclovir, it's 400 mg *twice* daily, incidentally. How were you diagnosed, out of interest?

To answer your other question, I know exactly who gave it to me, as I developed symptoms within 1-2 days afterwards. The majority of first outbreaks occur soon after infection. Did you have sex in the week before your outbreak?

I had protected sex with my ex boyfriend June 7th. I had stated dating someone new and we had unprotected sex June 11th (please don't judge me ) my first sign of an outbreak was June 18th. Went to the doctor Monday June 20 and doctor said it looked like herpes, she took a culture, she also prescribed me acyclovir that day. My doctor confirmed it was hsv 2 this Monday.

The new guy so claimed he was tested 45 days ago, for what, he didn't say. I'm not sure who to confront. The new guy I'm dating, the one I'm so worried about passing this to, may be the one who gave this to me.

I would put money on it being the new guy who gave it to you, so your fears are most likely unwarranted. Herpes typically appears within a week of infection for most people. Average time to symptoms is around 5-6 days.

I also suspect the new guy, because the sex was unprotected and the fact that he's new. I'm assuming you were with your ex for a while, but never had anything like this happen before, so the odds are it's not him. Even if the new guy was tested 45 days ago, I seriously doubt herpes was included. It rarely is, unless specifically requested.

Going back to your original post, *if* it is from your new bf, then you both have it, so you needn't worry about transmission via sex. Of course, he must be found to have it as well, but that will be a difficult talk to have and it requires him to get tested for HSV IgG antibodies.

P.S. The fact that you very likely got it from the one time when he presumably looked "clean" also goes to show why precautions are necessary with genital Type 2 (but not really with genital Type 1), even in the absence of an outbreak.

to be honest it was in the pitch black, and it was one of those cuddling sessions that turned into sex lol. So I didn't even get a chance to look at it, so who knows what was on it. 

Yeah me and my ex were together for 4+ years and I never experienced any thing like I did last week. The burning tingling rash, while mild in size...its something I never seen/felt on my butt or genitals before. its like when I saw it I just knew it was herpes.

I doubt he got tested for herpes myself but like you said, it is such an awkward convo to have, I have been trying to figure out what to say to him all week. I hate that I like someone so much that could of given me this. I just hope he sincerely didn't know he had it. Any advice on how to talk to him about this?

There's no easy way, I'm afraid. Best advice is to just find an appropriate time, take a deep breath and go for it! Be direct and try to discuss it rationally, but don't let him put the blame on you. I see too many women on here of all ages who: (a) feel guilty when it seems most likely that the guy gave it to them; and (b) allow the guy to take the upper hand in the blame game as a result. So not on.

What he needs to know is that genital herpes can cause outbreaks, but that it can also be carried and transmitted by a person without ever having had (recognisable) symptoms, and that you never experienced this before until a week after unprotected sex with him for the first time, which is a typical textbook case in terms of incubation period. Also, that you reliably tested positive for gHSV-2 during what is believed to be your first outbreak due to new infection.

If you want additional proof of the latter, you can do the HSV IgG test yourself now (remember, IgG *not* IgM). If this is a brand new infection, you will still test negative until around 2-3 months post-infection.

Main thing is to stick to the facts of the matter and suggest that he test specifically for HSV IgG antibodies, because it's important to know in terms of what precautions you both need to take going forwards, if any, should you stay together.