How much is too much activity?

Bit of both haha he's finding out all about being a stay at home mum with a primary schooler, toddler & baby!! He's really good but if I see him feeling snowed under I'll get up and make a baby bottle or get a snack for the toddler just to receive a bit of pressure from one or the other. & he has some trouble sometimes telling the clothes apart all girls 😆 so i just sit on the couch and throw them into piles. What is it about mums I can't switch off the need to help!! Blessed to have such a good dad in the house though ?

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Yes you’re lucky, I’m separated and mine was hopeless when he was here!

Men often don’t have a clue being at home involves, Ive always worked so have to juggle work and Home and kids but he still felt the need to announce it to the world if he did the washing up! (Badly!)

I support young adults with autism in the community, who have no idea about road safety so if they bolt for the road I have to stop them!

I’ve had to point this out to my manager, that it wouldn’t be safe for me to be responsible for someone in the community, as I can’t chase after them!

The different advice is annoying, nurse at pre op assessment told I couldn’t”run for the bus” for at least -2 weeks due to the risk of damaging my pelvic floor, but others say you are virtually back to normal a month later!!

Yes hun it's so frustrating that we are told different things.

I have done so much reading on prolapse I think I could write a book lol but know that if we don't rest for 6 wks it can be weakness before you know it.

I think common sense and being in touch with your surgeon is key. They all say different timescales,so I use my head and really did nothing at all but rest and walks around house and garden for 6 wks. I felt really well after my tvh and anterior repair with no painkillers after day 2 and if course a supportive husband who took time off for 3 wks to look after me???? and lots of ? 😀😀😀

There is so much conflicting information!! Is there that many different ways to do the surgery?! My surgeon didn't put any emphasis on being up, actually said about every half hour I should be getting up & going for a little walk to help increase bloodflow to the healing muscles, & It doesn't say anything in my pamphlet about too much gravity but I thought I'd heard it somewhere, I saw 3 different specialists before I picked one and went ahead with the surgery & it's all just become a blurr of information now!!

I was off heavy pain killers within the first few weeks too, they made me nauseous & couldnt think of anything worse than vomiting full of stitches 😣 coped/coping well without them, most days I don't even reach for the Panadol I just lay down & take the pressure off for a while. How will we know if we are doing damage to the repair?

Any downward pressure is very bad..so no bending,lifting for 6 weeks.. Also straining on loo is a no no too.. That can rip your stitches inside.

If you think of standing it's pushing against your stitches..

Every hour I would have 10/15 minutes walk round garden and house which was fine. Also after 2 wks my husband would take me out in car just for change of scenery..

I know it's scary but it's important for successful outcome. Also do not lift to reach in a cupboard anything about waist level as you pull your stomach muscles which will affect area.

I have been over cautious and still am as I know how these repairs can fail for many reasons.

I am a young 50,slim and have had a text book surgery but my last one failed through no fault of my own,I believe it was the surgeon that didn't give me a strong repair . I have a new professor consultant and he fabulous!!

You will know hun if you have done damage as you will have pain and may be bleeding units early weeks.

Dont worry rest and no housework for a while😘😘

Good to think I haven't jeopardized the op without knowing 😥 I've not had much pain at all (except in the reconstructed perenium) almost makes me wonder if he's done it properly!! But my uterus & tubes are definitley gone & bowel movements are easy, left to wonder about the front though.... guess I'll have to wait for the swelling to go down to figure that one!! I'm so scared it will fail 🙈 I had 2 gynos try convince me not to do it due to the failure rate but the surgeon that did was quite confident it is a strong repair and will hold 🤞

I'm like you.I am petrified on a daily basis that my repair will drop again. I'm a slim lady,so it's not like I'm carrying a lot of weight but I just pray I'll stop worrying al l the time. I'm still boiling my water in a small pan s o o don't lift a kettle.. Stupid but I can't cope with the fear of what if so I don't do it.

I feel off in the front sometimes but I've had tvh too so may it getting used to not having my uterus half way down my vag. I'm doing my pelvic floor every day and still in movicol so I'm not straining at all. Can be too loose some days but if rather that than the other way.

Hope I look back on this next year and it be a distant memory🙏🙏🙏

My husband has taken 4 weeks off work to look after the kids, then my mum is coming to live in while he is at work & then my sister is coming to live in while he is at work, everyone taking it in turns lol I'm lucky to have such great support ? but it's so hard to just sit and watch everyone doing everything for me and my kids!! Doing just little things like making a bottle for the baby or getting a snack from the cupboard for the toddler to relieve the pressure when my hubby seems to be getting snowed under I thought Would be ok because my doc advised me to get up every half hour or so to keep the blood flowing to the healing muscles! I dont do any bending/lifting/stretching, but I think after reading these I might take it a bit easier & have a few more lay downs!

Very lucky 💓