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tanya99
tanya99

Sorry again, but I find myself constantly worrying about weird weird stuff. Very detached from reality feeling. I hate it, it's a disgusting feeling I can't seem to snap out of it because that makes me feel like I'm mentally ill and insane. I find it difficult because I know we do this all to ourselves but I just can't seem to stop because it makes me feel terrible. I don't even feel like me sometimes, my feelings are different and just not how I used to feel (that I can remember) it's so bad because I feel like I'm ruining my family's Christmas sad gosh someone please help :'( I feel like I've drove myself into a big deep hole I get a weird thought that when I try to be normal it just isn't me and oh my gosh I cannot explain it atall :'( it's ruining me

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  • louis88024
    louis88024 tanya99

    Posted

    Hi Tanya,

    I know it's been 8 months but I just came across this and had to reply. I even made a new account for it.

    I just wanted to thank you for putting the problem I've been having for years into words. You really have a way with words that I envy. I often feel that my poor communication skills are precisely my cause of the problem. Although in your case, perhaps it's the opposite. Either way I'll be heading to a therapist to discuss this, because they definately do help.

    Have you gone and seen someone? How are you doing?

    Also, does this by any chance occur when you smoke pot? Because those times I get all paranoid on pot are the only times I actually realize these things about myself, as in a moment of clarity I can suddenly understand how - back when I've sobered up - I'm completely ignorant about certain things. Mainly social interactions or society as a whole.

    I feel like smoking pot amplifies my thoughts about a subject by "narrowing the field" and blocking out other random thoughts that might distract me, so suddenly in that specific area I'm thinking of I'm a genius and it's al crystal clear, but at the same time I'll make silly mistakes in another because my focus is so narrowed onto that one subject.

    That exact same mechanism also works on yourself, and that's where it can go good or bad. In my case, I think I have a lot of underlying issues, which is why that spotlight can be quite overwhelming and cause something of a panic attack.

    Is this the case with you? Or is it a permanent state of mind? Or perhaps only after drinking coffee?

    Regards,

    Louis

    • sofia79198
      sofia79198 louis88024

      Posted

      Wow I could not have put how I'm feeling into words better than this. Please let me know if you've successfully done anything about this.

    • daan2
      daan2 louis88024

      Posted

      hey louis88024,

      I have lately been going through a feeling where I feel disconnected from my body, me. It is like all my senses are muffled, I walk around without consciousness in a sense, like I am under water and I can see and hear everything but just not clearly. I feel like I am walking around with something wrapped around my head, like a warmness drifting over me, which is then followed by consciousness drifting away, like I can't hold on to reality. 

      The reason why I am messaging you is because you mentioned pot, the first time I started feeling this disconnect with my body, this losing connection with reality was around the time I smoked pot a lot. I usually have panic attacks when I smoke pot, and when I am sober I feel this feeling of disconnect with my body and losing reality. I would have it the day after and it would go away. I honestly can't remember when it started and who I was before. But no after smoking pot it hasn't left. And it is been more than 3 months since the last time I smoked....

      Could this be from the pot? are you going through the same with after pot? Idk what to do, I am waiting for the moment I snap out of it, the moment I 'wake up' but it seems I only sink deeper.thank you,Daan

    • anthony_38413
      anthony_38413 daan2

      Posted

      Daan2 how is it going I hope you are well. I read your reply to Louis. I totally relate to how you feel. You said that pot might have had an impact on you feeling like this world isnt real anymore I honestly feel like that is what is happening to me. Have you found any solution to help with the feeling that life is not real if so I could really use any advice that could help. See i feel like days are just passing me by and once I go to the next day I feel like the day before never even happened. Do you have similar experiences?
    • eduardo66456
      eduardo66456 anthony_38413

      Posted

      Saw your reply and had to reply . Mine wasn't exactly triggered by pot but by ecstacy use but till WAY after because had extreme dehydration and either heat stroke or huge panic attack from the use and ever since then I had BAD anxiety until I reach the derealization . Itd last for months but honestly man what helped was to stop reading up about it and acknowledging that it is anxiety. No more drugs or drinking. And to eat healthy take some magnesium and b vitamins forsure. Also to exercise man that helped me out the most. Swimming and running. Take it day by day and try not to think about it (harder than it sounds) but eventually the less you'll think about it the more you'll feel "connected" to the world. Go for walks too and communicate with people

    • hannah54017
      hannah54017 eduardo66456

      Posted

      Wow. Seeing your reply made me cringe. I HAD to register and reply. I used to have mild anxiety while smoking pot, it grew worse and I used to dabble with psychedelics and MDMA. One day at a festival I had a panic attack on very strong Molly and I haven't been the same since. I had a migraine for two days and came out of it in a sweat, having an intense panic attack; I felt like I was on drugs but with no euphoria. Since that day (August 29th) I haven't felt normal. For the first bit I was always dizzy, tense, on edge, clenching my teeth when I'd wake up, getting hot sweats, having random panic attacks, scared to go outside, quit my job, felt like I was utterly losing control of my mind, everything looked like a cartoon, cars looked so unatural driving by, people were like robots. My head always felt heavy, my ears felt blocked as if I could hardly hear and I was constantly experience visual disturbances, lights were overwhelming and so was sound. It's been getting better as I've been going to therapy, and I've been prescribed clonazepam and Zoloft, and working out helped A LOT like you said, but I've been so suicidal, so scared for the future, feeling as if trying is utterly worthless as this feeling of derealization may never go away, and yes maybe it's just anxiety and chronic stress but it's a horrifying time to be experiencing it all as I'm just entering into the world as an adult and faced with all these responsibilities. I always needed to be in control. Now it feels like I don't even know myself anymore, I don't feel grounded, don't feel anything at all. I'm scared everyday that the worlds just going to go black around me, no one understands. On top of this my best friend just passed away, and I'm trying to do University and life just feels so impossible. Have you had any MAJOR relief at all??? How long have you been dealing with this and what else helps? I've been like this for 4 months...

    • eduardo66456
      eduardo66456 hannah54017

      Posted

      I honestly felt like I wrote your reply myself everything you've gone through I have to every exact feeling it's crazy and scary at the same time . I had relief maybe the 2nd week after everything happened. For like 2 days I felt normal but then bam started all over again and haven't felt normal since . I will say I've felt improvement every month I feel some Change even if it's little improvement but my emotions are a mess. I feel all over the place with my emotions. But I'm always dealing with something my anxiety is a 24/7 thing . By any chance do you have a kik or something ? Id really like to talk to you more

    • courtney57336
      courtney57336 daan2

      Posted

      Hi! I can't tell you how crazy it is that someone else feels the same way. I just started smoking pot about 2 months ago and now I smoke it almsost everyday. Didn't you figure out if that had something to do with it?? Just feel totally crazy sad

  • mimi89447
    mimi89447 tanya99

    Posted

    Hi, I'm 14 and I understand completely how you feel. In the most mundane and calm situations I just feel like crawling into a hole and my hands start to shake violent and uncontrollably. My face gets hot and sometimes I can't breath. I can understand that kind of "not really here" feeling. All I can suggest is just surrounding yourself with people who want to be there with. And I've also read the book All The Bright Places by Jennifer Niven. One of the main characters is going through the exact same thing.

    good luck!

  • haley83665
    haley83665 tanya99

    Posted

    Hi Tanya! My names Haley and I'm 16 years old living in the States and I am feeling the EXACT same way that you are. I am so lost and so hopeless that I just don't know what to do anymore I'm so convinced that nothing is wrong with me I've just convinced myself in my brain that there is. it's been 11 months and I wanted to ask if you have recovered from this horrible feeling and wanted some advice from you on how to recover? please write back soon I am very desperate to find a cure for this dumb stupid feeling. much love xoxox
    • Guest
      Guest haley83665

      Posted

      it sucks so bad and its scary but feeding it fear makes it worse. try going on with your day and as hard as it sounds embrace it have a i dont give a crap attitude and just remember its only happening because its protecting your brain. 💜 itll pass i promise.
  • jenna75762
    jenna75762 tanya99

    Posted

    Hey Tanya , this is one of the first posts I have ever seen to describe PERFECTLY what I have been dealing with for the past couple of weeks. I work myself up so much that I'm not even able to go to work or even be around and of my family members because I make myself think that I'm dreaming or that they are some sort of monster and then when I am not feeling like that I just feel like I don't know who I am and like I am just in a video game or something. It is honestly one of the worst things you could ever deal with and the worst part of it is that I am the only one who can control it . But I still can't, I sit there and work myself up and tell myself I'm going to the hospital . Also I work myself up too because I'm only 17 and I tell myself "oh you're too young to be feeling like this" blah blah blah and "what if these people aren't really here just some aliens trying to convince me that I'm here . Or what if I do have schizophrenia and everybody around me is just my imagination. I just really want to know what you did to make yourself feel better because I'm just very lost and I don't know where to turn or what to do.
    • jenna75762
      jenna75762

      Posted

      But please if you have felt any better at all, please tell me how, because I have nothing else to do about it , if you see this by any chance just please help.
    • kalina314
      kalina314 jenna75762

      Posted

      Hi jenna, I posted another reply but it got moderated I think because I said a swear word in it lol. But, seriously I have the same thoughts and feelings, ESPECIALLY about the last part with the feeling like you're schizophrenic and like everyone is just in your head. It sucks because sometimes I seriously think oh gosh what if I'm sitting on a hospital bed in a come and I'm just dreaming all of this right now, It's really awful, and I responded to Tanya's thing right below you can read that too, I want to feel back to some semblance of normal 
    • alison82593
      alison82593 jenna75762

      Posted

      Hi jenna. I feel the exact same way! My mind is constantly racing with crazy thoughts of me nor being real or nobody else is real. Idk it's hard to explain. I have severe anxiety and ocd. It's impossible for me to sleep. I wake up in panic attacks. Did you ever find out what was causing this? Did you speak to a professional?
    • tanya99
      tanya99 jenna75762

      Posted

      Hi Jenna! how are you feeling? Message me if you still use patient I'd love to help!!
    • richard_56362
      richard_56362 tanya99

      Posted

      hi tanya did you ever get better ? or see any improvement in your problems i too am currently soffering with this at least i think thats what it is this is the second time in my life i have had this dissasociation of reality sorry if my spelling is crap dyslexia ruining my typing 
    • tanya99
      tanya99 richard_56362

      Posted

      Hey! 

      Yeah I feel tons better, message me if you want to I'll try help 

    • Jlynn20
      Jlynn20 tanya99

      Posted

      Tanya99 how did you get better? I feel EXACTLY like this for the past 5 months, I'm struggling here. I have panic attacks and anxiety bad but these symptoms make me feel like it is so much more.

    • Cherish25
      Cherish25 tanya99

      Posted

      Hey Tanya, great to hear that you're doing much better! I am glad that u have replied smile May I ask how did you get through ? I am always freaking out about new anxiety symtoms and usually when I feel okish I think "what if it all comes back". My mind starts intensely focusing on my heart and I can hear it beating slightly faster all the time and makes me feel sick rolleyes  It's like it always lurks in my mind and when I try to be happy I feel like I am "faking" it, if that makes sense ? This has been on going for the last 4 months now and each day doesn't make any difference rolleyes I do take half sleeping pill at night which helps me drift off sometimes .....I also work and do all the usualy things any one would do in a  day but I am constantly worried about my health and I feel I have to force my self to function. So frustrating really :O

    • Steel8259
      Steel8259 Cherish25

      Posted

      Hi did you ever get a reply back from the girl who posted this original post and if she bet got over it I can find any thing where she said she got better
    • angel35586
      angel35586 tanya99

      Posted

      What did you do to get better? I am still struggling and need your help.
    • jope77013
      jope77013 tanya99

      Posted

      Hi T hope u r well n feeling better nw please may i also hve tips on wt u did to recover. Thnx in advance
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