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Husband in denial or wife over reacting?

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ana1076
ana1076

I found this group and I am hoping someone can give me a neutral opinion. My husband and I have been married a little over two years. He is younger than me and more of a drinker. In the beginning it didn't bother me that he drank at every opportunity he had. Little by little his behavior has changed when he drinks. He cannot say not when offered a drink and does not have one or two drinks. He has told me that before he met me, he used to drink over 36 beers plus hard liquor once to twice a weekend and occasionally during the week. He does not drink that much me, but he has to have at least 8-10 beers per day on weekend. Sometimes way more. He has never failed to pay any bills or neglected responsibilities. He has become so hung over, he has missed a few days from work in the two years. We have argued about my concern with his drinking and he has become very upset at my comments about his drinking. My opinion is if he had a beer or two here and there and again a few drinks at some social occasions, not all, and his behavior wouldn't be different when he drinks, I wouldn't have a problem. I like to have a drink or two at some social occasions, not all. I am at the point of trying to not care when he drinks, but it's hard not to. I see a problem and he does not. He accuses me of being impossible and always having something to pick at to fight. I would like a neutral opinion and maybe a different way of seeing things if I am wrong. I love my husband and hate that this issue is coming between us. Please enlighten me.

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  • tess33005
    tess33005 ana1076

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    Paul Turner Naltrexone is what VickyLou is talking about but bung it into a tube that belongs to you...........so we're not allowed to mention websites on here, do you understand????

    If not, PM me, Ana. Hugs. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx  Tess

  • Paper_fairy
    Paper_fairy ana1076

    Posted

    My heart goes out to you ana. I have AUD or am an alcoholic and lost nearly everything, my marriage, my business, my health, my sanity. It is a progressive illness which will only get worse. You must try and get him to see the doctor, with you, and stay on this forum. 

    It has saved me when I have been on many rock bottoms and suicidal, as that's where it can lead.

    Tess  and everyone's answers I hope will help you and him. Read Tess's post as she has been where you are and can help you more than any of us. When the time is right maybe you should show him her post. 

    I wish you all the luck and blessings xx

  • Paper_fairy
    Paper_fairy ana1076

    Posted

    Go on you tube and search Paul Turner Alcohol. It's at the top when you find it. Very important as it's helped hundreds of us ..

  • deirdre._03652
    deirdre._03652 ana1076

    Posted

    Hi Ana lovely lady...

    I had a very, very severe alcohol problem for ten yrs....it nearly killed me, quite a few times...got me forcibly sectioned four times

    ....picked up by police twice for my own safety...and i put my entire family through hell...

    The most important thing I want to say you....is please, please try not to corner him about his alcohol intake...he will be highly likely to drink in secret...which speeds up the problems and causes tremendous guilt....just tell him that you are worried about his health, and would like him to try to cut back a little......but also try not to watch him as though you are counting every drink....

    He is drinking quite a large amount....but I and many others have been much worse...

    If he only drinks at the weekend...is he stressed about work ?? And it is how he unwinds....see if you can talk him into having a check up at the doctors...that will pick up if the alcohol is affecting his health....

    I truly wish you both, health, happiness and peace of mind....hugs both....take care always....dee xxxx

    • deirdre._03652
      deirdre._03652 Paper_fairy

      Posted

      Thank you so much...you truly are a kind, good and sincere lady....in my heart...lovely , lovely friend....warm, sincere hugs always ..lovey...dee xxxxxx
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