I am at the end of my tether. Peri-Menopause?

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Hi  - I have been a member here for a few weeks and have been reading things, but I am wanting to ask or scream to know if peri-menopause is that I am experiencing. Most of the time I feel like I am losing the plot or dying. 

I am 47 now but this all started a few days after my 44th birthday when I suddenly started feeling light headed and had some vertigo. That quickly passed but I am left with so many symptoms. They mostly are fatigue, daily headaches, very painful neck and shoulders, a very odd spaced out sensation and vision like I am wearing really strong glasses - everything looks surreal, I have anxiety like I have never known, I get a tight chest, a lump in my throat, my body feels like a lump of lead, spots, eczema, muscle twitches and my periods have changed with the cycle becoming shorter to 22 days and the bleeding lighter. I also get period pains lasting for a week before my period starts and painful heavy breasts. 

I have had a head MRI and CT scan, heart tests, blood tests and it is all normal. But i feel so ill all the time. I rarely leave the house I feel so ill. I don't feel like me anymore. My family is suffering. I have no idea what is happening to me! And I also habe no idea what to do about it! 

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    You sound like me. Mine started a few years back and your story could be mine. I changed my diet...completely..also my stress and it did help alot. I also do the seed cycling...and that helped a bit. google it and see what you feel. I just read all the posts daily.. and it makes me feel better and not alone. I have had tests also...so many. All are good..Thank Goodness. I try to be as gentle on myself as possible. Our bodies are going thru a major change and we are feeling it. Prim rose oil and cod liver oil..helped my eczema. Not gone completely..but better. Worse depending on cycle. Anxiety..I do Bachs flower Resue. I take a whole food supplement. Try to stay away from bad carbs, no fast foods, and more protein. This helped me also. I hope this helps you!!! Sending a big HUG!!!
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      Thanks - I really believed i was either going insane or dying. I do eat a very heathy diet and am trying to work on my stress. Another part of this is that it seems I am unable to handle any stress at all anymore. It drains me.

      I have some fish oil and evening primrose oil I need to take it though. I must get some recuse remedy. And I hae just read about seed cycling. I am going to try that xx

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    Hi Sweetheart,

    Mandy here, just wanted to know if you have read what i have put on here? I can completely understand what you are feeling and going through! please sweetheart do not think you are losing your mind or dying! but yes sadly you will feel like that! I have since the age of 29, since a very early hysterectomy now 49! gone through so many awful awful times, but the last year been through hell, yes i have had MRI brain scans, lumber punture, multiple of tests, but  this all comes down to hormones, I have been taken into hospital because they thought i had a stroke! couldnt talk, numb arms, and legs, balance problems, serious serious migraines which had to be treated at charring cross hospital, pains over joints and whole body that bring me to tears, chronic fatigue, serious tinitus, heart palpitations, dizzyness, complete fuzzy head, sweetheart this is only half the stuff, i am now going down the route of vitamin D, Vitamin B6 and B12, going back to doctors on tuesday for more tests, i know this can be the most lonliest, sad and frightening time, but please please  know you have someone who truly understands what you are feeling, and i am here to talk to,, please please feel free to private messege me and get it all of your chest, you are not alone..

    big hugs. xxxxxx

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      Oh yeah I forgot about the palpitations. The fatigue makes me feel like I am made of lead and walking through treacle and the fuzzy head is the worst thing. I too am back at the doctors on Tuesday. No idea what they can do though xx
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    Hi Sally.

    I so relate to your symptoms...I thought I had something very wrong with me when I started experiencing some of the symptoms you have mentioned. 

    I too am tired most of the time, lethargic, can't be bothered with anything and sometimes with anyone! 

     

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      The lethargy/apathy/lack of energy and interest in anything is the worst.
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      Yes it really is. I wasn't too bad today and then at dinnertime I just had overwhelming fatigue and I had to lie down or I would have fallen down xx

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    Hi Sally.  I'm 54 (pretty well post menopausal but my body's not entirely sure yet! biggrin) and I started to have peri symptoms about 46 - my periods became very erratic (sometimes 3 weeks, sometimes as long as 10 weeks between!) and much lighter.  Around that time I started having random dizzy spells which were very annoying (I perfected the art of kneeling down in public to 'find' something in my bag!) and they continued intermittently for several years.  I didn't see my GP although I'm sure I should have (they never happened when I was driving, oddly enough, or I definitely would have made an appointment), but they just stopped of their own accord and virtually never happen now.  I also had the 'spaced out' feeling which is totally weird, it feels as if you're not actually part of what's happening, although you are!  You feel as if you are almost somewhere else, if that makes sense?  It's almost like looking through an invisible fog, very odd indeed.  The only other thing that happened was anxiety, for which I started taking Evening Primrose 1000mg capsules once a day, and they helped massively.  Apologies to anyone else reading this, as I keep banging on about EP, but it really works amazingly well for me and I still take them now. 

    All I can say about the other stuff is that it will pass, and you should be very reassured about the test results.  Good luck, and give EP capsules a bash! x

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      Yes one of my main problems was dizziness not to bad now that I'm on HRT and same for me I'm fine when I'm driving. My stomach reflux gets really bad to with the menapause and anxiety x

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      I take Omeprazole for reflux, but that's not menopause-related, I've taken it for years on prescription.  It works very well though.  For anxiety - here I go again - try EP.  It may not work for everyone but it's been a wonder for me and I wouldn't be without it, and it's not expensive either x

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      Thanks! I actually have some Evening Primrose Oil 1000mg unopened on the cupboard! Yeah that is exactly it - it is like looking through an invisible fog. Ugh xx
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      I've heard a lot of people take that tablet for reflux I take lanzparazol 30mg for mine but when I'm worked up they don't help. And yes I might try Erving primrose, anything is worth a try x

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      I might ask my dr if I can try them, I've been on lanzparazol for 30 years and they don't work as well as they used to x

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      I believe you can buy them (the 10mg dosage, which I take) over the counter but at the discretion of the pharmacist, and they are quite expensive.  Prob better to ask your gp, which the pharmacist would likely recommend anyway, as your current medication isn't working as well for you now x

       

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      I've found EP oil to be a great help for breast soreness, too.

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