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i am so confused and hurt! help

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manda9720
manda9720

I just recently found out I have type 2 herpes ..I cried for days wondering what I did to deserve this and how I was going to come at ease that I have to live with this for the rest of my life! I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and I trust him to know that he did not cheat on me and I've never cheated on him. He was very comb after breaking the news to him and very understanding but I don't get how I even got this if I've only been with him the past year and only 2 guys before we got together. Went to the doctor because I was experiencing a outbreak and didn't know what it was a week later the doc told me what it was. Why am I experience a outbreak now? I've been tested the beginning of our relationship and we were both negative for everything? He is going to the doctor tomorrow to get tested to see if he has it since I've tested positive he never experienced an outbreak or anything so I fear for my life that once he finds out he doesn't have it he will leave me sad I live in fear since day one after being diagnose...I also fear of spreading it to my body my face I just constantly think the worst in everything now and I need advice please let me know everything will be okay

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  • manda9720
    manda9720

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    yeah it is very strange i havent talked to him about therapy yet..but it is a idea...and i feel like maybe that or he is guilty of cheating and now hes freaked out because he could have caught it by cheating on me!! I dont know im confused..do yall think he cheated maybe? when we first got together the first 2 months of being with him i caught him messaging another girl of facebook one of his "friend" thats a girl/...and the message said that if it doesnt work out he could see him dating her and he thought she was beautiful...confronted him about it and he said he was sorry and he wont do it again havent caught him doing it again but if hes going to do it once how can i trust him not to do it again and just hide it better.....idk what to think
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken manda9720

      Posted

      I wonder if maybe he's having an ob and is why he's avoiding you, cause he knew he caught it and maybe caught it during the time you guys were in a relationship, since you both were clean before hand. There are a few speculations we can take from this.

      I'm not going to lie, being 33 and seeing what I have, especially my time serving in the military and w friends, when you catch them doing stuff, they are doing stuff and you probably haven't seen it all. Going through that e a friend right now. She's caught her husband numerous times and he's done it again! I personally believe in the saying, once a cheater always a cheater

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