I can't cope anymore & just want to end it all
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I have suffered from depression on and off for over 25 years & am currently going through a terrible depression & I cannot see any way out of it this time. My world has caved in & I cannot cope anymore & there only seems to be one answer to this torture I am going through.
i am very lonely, only have 2 proper friends (who are both ex-partners) but they are both in long term relationships & don't really have time for me. I am long term unemployed because of my mental health problems, but to try to help my mental state I walk a couple of dogs every day & have made acquaintances with a group of people & I poured my heart out to them yesterday. They all made sympathetic noises, listened to me & said I mustn't end my life. But nobody knows what I am going through or the despair I am feeling.
Short story - I am a 55 year old gay woman, been single for 18 years after having made the decision I would never find anybody & gave up trying to find a partner. Out of the blue 12 months ago I fell in love with an attractive, caring, kind, gentle, woman but unfortunately there was no way I could tell her & there was a 0% chance that she would feel the same. This woman was my wonderful GP, who I could tell anything to - except this. I had a number of consultations during this year, each time counting down the hours until I could see her again. I was well aware that I had a problem and had a number of counselling sessions to talk this through & try to understand why this had happened and was continuing to happen even though I knew it could never be.
I had an appointment with her earlier this week & she told me that my current therapist had told her all about my feelings. She said it didn't bother her but it meant that she had unknowingly been compromising my care & wouldn't be able to see me anymore, but in any event she was leaving my surgery in 3 weeks & moving hundreds of miles away. At that moment my world caved in.
On on top of that, the only family I have are moving away from the area in 2 days & I will be here all alone.
I'm scared & keep fighting feelings of panic. I'm hardly eating or drinking & am starting to feel physically ill. I can't sleep & altho I did ask her, the GP wouldn't give me any sleeping pills because she was worried what I may use them for.
I don't know how to get through all of this & I do think that I would be better off out of this world.
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theitalianman Whatamess
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I feel awful and down and walk my little westie to keep me occupied and to meet anyone that will say hello
Message me anytime with anything that I may be able to help with
Whatamess theitalianman
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simon8173 Whatamess
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elizabeth20203 simon8173
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Best wishes.
Elizabeth.
elizabeth20203 Whatamess
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Best wishes.
Elizabeth.
Whatamess elizabeth20203
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elizabeth20203 Whatamess
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Elizabeth.
hypercat Whatamess
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It's encouraging you are making yourself go out and getting to know others so keep on with that. Pour your feeling out to your counsellor and doctor and on here then when 1/2 of your acquaintances become friends that is the time to confide more in them. But it is easy for people to feel overwhelmed and not understand or know what to say or do.
I agree with the comment that because your doctor is very caring that is why you have fallen for her, and of course it creates a conflict of interest for her and even if she wasn't leaving she would have had to pass you on to another doctor.
Too many things are happening at once for you so it is natural to feel very low about it. The answer is to do more things to ease your lonliness, how about volunteer work? Or do you have any hobbies? Keep yourself as busy as you can as I know from experience that when I am alone too much I become very self absorbed and lonely.
One last point you will not be better off out of this world coz you will be nothing and won't be able to feel anything. Life is a b....ch at times but I have found that 80% of the time it is worth it. You might even meet someone apart from your gp and fall in love again. No one can predict the future but aren't you curious about it? Take care. Bev x
Whatamess hypercat
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hypercat Whatamess
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I am on here most days so pm me anytime love. Bev x
Ezzythebookworm Whatamess
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Commiting suicide is like running away from your problems
don't get me wrong
I understand a little
but it's selfish
think about the people who CARE about you
the people who love you
think about how hurt they would be
You may think I'm being selfish too
after all wanting someone to live in pain may be selfish
but think about it!
Please
suicide doesn't take away the pain it just gives it to someone else
suicide doesn't end the chances of life getting worse
it eliminates the chance of life ever getting better
your life isn't over
you're important
please hang in their
be one of the survivors
Tamarind Ezzythebookworm
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jran Whatamess
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We on here all know what you are going through and the despair as we are feeling the same or have felt the same at some point. Go and see a doctor and get some meds and get better and you will definitely see things in a different light. I am 63 and been on my own since 40. Had 1 relationship which was good but things went bad, but we are still friends.I have 2 Adult children and 3 grandchildren and the guilt and despair they would suffer if i left the world.My mother did it 35yrs ago and we all suffered terribly and still do. Pls go and see a doctor for some antidepressants they will help
alexander10560 jran
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ellen82139 Whatamess
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you need to make an appt ASAP with a different GP and express how you feel,things are always far worse at this time of year,please keep in touch with everyone on this site they are all here for you