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I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

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jennifer85396
jennifer85396

I am 48 years old, stay at home mom with two children.  They are in school, I try to keep myself very busy.  I have had OCD and anxiety, I have been fighting it for years. But, now the Perimenopause is really terrible..depressed, mood swings, tension headaches, dry and itchy skin.

I have spoken to my sisters who are all past Menopause, they tell me their stories but I just cannot believe that hormones can cause all this havock.  I do not feel myself at all, my PMS is worse and the week of my period I actually feel like I have a disease and I am dying.  Feel like I am going crazy!! Please tell me if this is normal to feel this way at this time, because I am obsessing and cannot get my mind off of it.  Need Help!!!!

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  • ljp64
    ljp64 jennifer85396

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    Hi Jennifer and all,

    I can so relate to all your posts, the anxiety, depression, feeling detatched from reality, unable to think straight, tiredness, body aches, night sweta...blah de blah de blah.

    I am now 51, last period August 2014,thought I was pootling along using serenity cream and since May this year vaginal oestrogen cream as my worst symptom is overactive bladder, frequent urination.

    Had a light bleed end of october, went to GP and referred for hysteroscopy, which I had last monday (ouch)... I now have a mirena coil fitted to protect my uterus from the effects of the oestrogen cream, and last Thursday started using Oestrogel (HRT) bio identical prescribed by GP to hopefully help, I have been on an emotional roller coaster this week with all the changes and trying to cope with my anxiety surrounding possible risks and benfits, weighing it all up, and having positive and negative days.

    BUT I do feel quite a bit better, much more optimistic geneally, and bladder is so  much better already, and from my understanding it can take a good few months to feel the full benefit.......I do feel Ive let myself down succumbing to HRT, but on apositive day I tell myself life is here and now, and if I can feel better and be happier for my family, then that in itself is good!

    I think there have been too many scare stories from antequated surveys re HRT and not enough more recent studies done.

    Good luck xxx its a mine field 

    • GoddessHadeev
      GoddessHadeev ljp64

      Posted

      Hi Lisa. I will be meeting with my doctor on April 11th to discuss HRT. An acquaintance of mine said she takes progesterone, not the synthetic form, abd it has helped feet mood swings and sleep pattern. I stopped eating soy products years ago because of the natural estrogen in them, only to discover everything else I like and eat has estrogen. That would be hummus/chick peas, lentils and kudney beans. I've gained over 20 pounds since December. I ate quinoa because it was high in protein, but didn't know it is high in carbs. I feel defeated. My job requires I walk a lot, but I'm not losing weight. The big clothes I couldn't fit ladt summer are now tight on me. I hope HRT is the answer for me. This was a good week, but I had crazy PMS 2 weeks ago, along with mood swings and depression. I thought my uterus was gonna drop out. I'm 54 and still get my period like clockwork, although it's not as heavy anymore. I've been perimenopausal for 8 years, abs haven't missed my period. I can't wait for this to be over with.
  • tracey33007
    tracey33007 jennifer85396

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    thank you for this forum  to know others can feel the same i am 52 and i have know other symtons than the worst anxiety to the point of not wanting to be here anymore  i had cancer all the treatment for that and coped i am not an anxieous person and could cope with anything wonderful life family  but this is now too much  i could never believe anxiety could hurt so much  i have just started prozac  and i cope this will help as i dont know this person were did i go   thank you as i read these when i think i can not go on
    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 tracey33007

      Edited

      Hang on in there honey. Ive been in perimenopause eight years and know exactly how you feel as do many of the other ladies here. Im also on an AD for anxiety and depression. You will get better days. Stick with your medication im sure it will help.

      Feel free to come here and talk anytime you need to.

      This too shall pass.

      God bless xx

    • chloe18980
      chloe18980 tracey33007

      Posted

      Anxiety is the worst symptom.... I could barely leave the house but now it is so much better.  Xanax was a big help for me....but only as needed.  Hang in there...it does get better.  smile
  • Guest
    Guest jennifer85396

    Posted

    Hi 

    I thought I was going mad too, I am 45 and for the last year have been feeling ill with hot flushes and dizzy spells, feeling off balance, saw my GP and was given a blood test and the results said my hormones were up and down but they thought I was too young to be in peri menopause, hate feeling so anxious and panicky, so I know how you feel it's like people look at you like you're mad, don't know how to cope with all this for years, good luck to you and let's hope we both manage to sail though this. 

    • mrscb
      mrscb Guest

      Posted

      I'm surprised your doctor thought you were too young for Perimemopause.

      I started having Perimemopause symptoms 8 years ago at age 40. Both my doctor and my OBGYN assured me that I wasn't going crazy, but it was due to the starting of Perimemopause.

    • Guest
      Guest mrscb

      Posted

      I thought I was going mad,had blood tests and they said my hormones were up and down and they're keeping me on the mini pill for another 5 years, So just have to put up with the odd dizzy spell and hot flushes .
    • mrscb
      mrscb Guest

      Posted

      I had blood work after my symptoms started and supposedly the results were normal and then my new doctor sent me for a complete panel of my hormones and sure enough all came back abnormal.

      At first I was put on a low dose birth control to help with my heavy periods but then I had an endometrium ablation and that took care of the heavy periods. The ablation actually stopped my periods and I'm so happy about that. 😁

    • nic1976
      nic1976 Guest

      Posted

      Hi

      This has just appeared out of nowhere!!! What's going on?? Last 10 month I'v had night sweats, face flushing, hip pain, palpitations, sleep disturbances and my moods are horrendous. The feeling of doom and gloom, thinking that I'm going to leave my kids without a mother, it's awful. It all started when I had a post coital bleed, only small but I went into a total breakdown thinking I had cancer. After tests and an examination it was ectropion ( apparently hormonal changes which push inner cervical cells you the surface) not a big deal but it has started me on a health anxiety nightmare now. So my periods are lasting a little longer and are a bit lighter, so all these symptoms just make me think I'm going mad or there's something serious going on. My mother was on hrt at 45 and she had suffered for years but she seems to think that this is the start of perimenopause!! Help me out someone and tell me this is normal!!

    • didi0613
      didi0613 nic1976

      Posted

      Yes. Welcome to perimenopause. The disease that keeps on giving.
    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 didi0613

      Posted

      Couldn't put it better myself this disease just keeps on giving.

      having an awful day today x

    • mrscb
      mrscb nic1976

      Posted

      Hi..

      Yes I understand how you feeling. .I too been dealing with the same symptoms.

      Horrible perimenopause symptoms and feelings of doom and like something bad is happening to me and I'll be taken away from my kids. Every time I get blood work and checkups it all comes back good.

      The only abnormal tests were the ones for my hormones.

      I hope this gets better and I hope you start feeling better too!

    • chloe18980
      chloe18980 Guest

      Posted

      I'm 51 and haven't had a period in about a year and a half but still have symptoms.  Some symptoms are better...anxiety is much better...I no longer feel like I'm going out of my mind.  But still get crampiness expecially on my right side, heart palpitations, dizziness, and hotflashes.  Hotflashes are better though......not as strong and less frequent.  Thanks to menopause I do get lots of bladder infections which I never got before.  As someone else has said....menopause is a gift that keeps on giving.  sad

       

  • Guest
    Guest jennifer85396

    Posted

    I am so glad I can talk to people who are suffering like me, I hate all the hot flushes and dizziness, and feeling all doom and gloom, so unfair !! 
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