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I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

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jennifer85396
jennifer85396

I am 48 years old, stay at home mom with two children.  They are in school, I try to keep myself very busy.  I have had OCD and anxiety, I have been fighting it for years. But, now the Perimenopause is really terrible..depressed, mood swings, tension headaches, dry and itchy skin.

I have spoken to my sisters who are all past Menopause, they tell me their stories but I just cannot believe that hormones can cause all this havock.  I do not feel myself at all, my PMS is worse and the week of my period I actually feel like I have a disease and I am dying.  Feel like I am going crazy!! Please tell me if this is normal to feel this way at this time, because I am obsessing and cannot get my mind off of it.  Need Help!!!!

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  • didi0613
    didi0613 jennifer85396

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    So glad I found this forum. I nearly thought I was going crazy. I was like devil woman. Out of control with my emotions in the Spring/Summer. I relapsed some but still worry cause my weight still isn't where it was. I am overweight, but it annoys me now when my clothes don't fit right. I still eat normal like a lot and barely gained a couple lbs. back. Hate it when people say you look great. I'm barely exercising. Last year I gained like 10 or 12 lbs. Now lost it all like almost overnight. I thought it was from sweating too much. I don't have an ovrrscyive thyroid or am diabetic nor cancer or lymphoma. Had several tests. All normal. Just pre-diabetic and slight high blood pressure. Not on any pills though since all are border line. It's been s crsxy ride ladies, but my husband is luckily very understanding and compassionate. I'm so lucky in that way. Trying to hang in there. Thanks for listening.
    • debbie75601
      debbie75601 didi0613

      Posted

      How are you feeling now? Gained any weight back? I'm having the same issues, but had gallbladder removal too. Hope you are well! 😊
    • didi0613
      didi0613 debbie75601

      Posted

      I have and then some. Now experiencing this twingy pain on/off in myprlvic region. I thought it could be my period coming but its not. Not sure what it is. Kind of a dull pain and it just comes and goes. Hard to explain. Just hope it's not some cyst or something else bad.
  • susan21149
    susan21149 jennifer85396

    Posted

    Tell me about it i have suffered with anxieties and a lot of emotions myself. Have had a rough time with menopause myself my sister is 42 she will be at the age soon where she will get it then maybe we can talk about how we feel together
    • kelly42532
      kelly42532 susan21149

      Posted

      I know what ya mean this meno is insane i wish i was a guy so i didnt have to go thru this . It was bad enough when i was bleeding and was crazy for 2weeks now its full on dont go away friends dont understand and im so flusttered i just keep to myself its sad god really has a cruel sense of humor at times. I just want the old me back the new me s***s i hate it.
  • julie45644
    julie45644 jennifer85396

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    I started hrt I week ago. I was desperate. So low all I could think about some days was ending it all. Scared me and my family. I was so desperate I begged my gp for help.

    I had quit two jobs in the last 6 months just because my level of anxiety was so great some days I couldn't leave the house. Financially I can stay at home

    Today I feel I have turned a corner. I feel like a big weight is lifting and have started to look forward. Previously I have been existing from day to day feeling everything but feeling nothing.

    Just wanted to share my experience so far. My gp had breast cancer and as a result of the chemo she went into menopause. She promotes quality over quantity of life and encouraged me to try hrt. She considers it to be a lifesaver having gone through the same anxiety and depression as me. I week in and I think she may well be right. I never thought that I could feel like this after the severe low I have felt for so long. This may not last but got to give it a try.

    • jackie95472
      jackie95472 julie45644

      Posted

      Julie HRT is only FDA approved for hot sweats at night etc, as stated: Hormone therapy may help relieve hot flashes, night sweats, vaginal dryness or dyspareunia (pain with sexual activity).

      Hormones may reduce your chances of getting thin, weak bones (osteoporosis) which break easily.    

      I felt like you did, I wanted to leave this earth!!  Not fair. It was purely hormonal.  I feel like HRT help me with my moods even though the FDA doesn't promote HRT for moods.  I have to say I also take prozac because of that reason.  I'm sorry to say but we are still in the dark ages when in comes to perimenopause.  I will tell you this, it came on all of a sudden.  It wasn't gradual so I have to believe it was my hormones out of wack!  I'm better but it's a slow process.  I've also lost my job because of what happened.  Not fair.

      Jackie

    • julie45644
      julie45644 jackie95472

      Posted

      Think I got lucky my gp was adamant that it was hrt that was needed and not antidepressants.

      I am with you its not fair. So much work opportunity has passed me by over the last few months. There wasxa job I really wanted but I won't pass the medical given what's gone on over last few months.

      I was the most mentally strong and together person until this took over. We should be made aware that this van happen. I truly thought I was going mad and delayed seeking help because of it

      Don't care about the possible side effects. I was not living anyway. No motivation to do anything. Aware of my responsibilities but not wanting any of them however small. Anxiety pain in my chest so bad it felt like I was having a heart attack not to mention the overwhelming feeling of wanting to cry but not knowing why

    • jackie95472
      jackie95472 julie45644

      Posted

      Julie just don't feel defeated if that is the answer.  They simply don't know enough.  Yes do the hormones!!  Then if your moods are still effecting you try a low dose anti-depressant and see a therapist.  I've been through hell as well.  I was a strong person as well up until this point.  I'm so lucky to have family support or I wouldn't have made it.  That is how serious this "transition" is. They say it's normal but it doesn't feel normal at all.  Acid reflux, sore bones, moods and fatigue.  Horrible.  Getting better.
    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 jackie95472

      Posted

      Wow you put it sooo well. This transition is truly life changing in more ways than one x
  • deborah_37796
    deborah_37796 jennifer85396

    Posted

    Hi All, so so happy to have found this forum. Really struggling- 56 years old in full menopause ( I think ! ) had a test 18 months ago and doctor said I wasn't. I have mostly every symptom you ladies are discussing. Got a new one yesterday, massive indigestion- up walking the floor in the middle of the night, tried tea, lemonade, rennies-  nothing worked. That was interspersed with huge anxiety and trying to calm my breathing. So tired today , but won't sleep tonight. Wake every night then can't get back to sleep, worrying about everything I don't need to worry about. This burden we are all stuck with is so horrible. It has helped a lot reading your stories today. Thanks all xx
    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 deborah_37796

      Posted

      It truly is a nightmare. Like you say new symptoms appear all the time. Ive been in perimenopause eight years im now 48. Im in severe pain righy now with my hip and back. I do have a worn disc and work as a community carer so thats not helpingsad

      Its so nice to come on here and share with other women in the same boat. Really hope you feel better soon. Take care x

    • didi0613
      didi0613 deborah_37796

      Posted

      Yeah I found most drs. Including OBGYNs are clueless when it comes to menopause and menopause symptoms. I think they are afraid to tell us all the horrible symptoms cause there is no cure all pill you can take, and everyone has different symptoms, so they can only advise how best to cope with it.
    • deborah_37796
      deborah_37796 michelle50768

      Posted

      Hi Michelle, I wonder if the pains that come with the menopause go once it's over, I suppose it's all down to lack of ostrogen, I've had elbow pain recently that I haven't had before. So random , I think back to my female relatives who never said an awful lot about going through the menopause. Without support of others then it must have been so tough. I think talking about it really helps, especially the anxiety part 😵 I hope you find something to give you relief from your bad pains, you take care too. X
    • marie25874
      marie25874 deborah_37796

      Posted

      Hi everyone.  I am new to this forum but have been struggling with these perimenopause symptoms for the last 7 months or so.  When one symptom calms down another one pops up.  The problem is that every time another pops up (like this morning when I woke up and my neck is killing me!) I think I'm dying of something and my anxiety gets the better of me.  So, I freak out and go see someone to get checked - everything comes back clear (thankfully) and I'm back at square one with realizing its hormonal.  I don't feel like myself at all.  I worry all the time and don't seem to smile or enjoy much of anything.  My husband is incredibly patient but I know he is getting tired of all of this.  Has anyone seen a specialist for hormones?  When I read this can go on for years and years I lose hope. 
    • jackie95472
      jackie95472 deborah_37796

      Posted

      Yes that was me, I'm better but not all they way there yet.  Get help, try not to suffer but be careful what you put in your body.  xxoo
    • GoddessHadeev
      GoddessHadeev deborah_37796

      Posted

      Hi Deborah. Years ago, I used top have really bad elbow pain. Within 2 weeks of not using artificial sweeteners, specifically Aspartame, the pain was gone. Winter months were really bad, as far as having pain in my elbows, knuckles and knees. I now live in Washington state, instead of "Cold"necticut, and the difference is drastic.
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