I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

Hi Lennie,

Thank you for your encouraging words.  Yes, we will get through this as women we are strong.  But, wow it's a tough time. UGH!

 

It really is, I actually sometimes feel very bitter that NO one told me how this was going to be, I have many, many older women in my family and they never said a word. Its awful and it drags on for years, if it were a few months It would not be so bad but this is really horrendous at times. I think for me its the barrage of symptoms and the frequency,

completely feel the same as you lennie, even my older sister never mentioned any kind of simillar experience...even now she says, dont worry, itll all go away....its been a horrendous experience......just recently got worse with constant internal shaking, digestive problems, back ache, irregular / heavy periods...every day some new aspect comes into focus while the old ones crane their neck and look you in the eye...i dialy check into this forum..it helps to keep my sanity

This truly is a wonderful thread so honest and open. I have no one my two older sisters have not entered this roller coaster yet

I feel like a complete basket case and that those I tell think mmmmm definitely depressed that one. I am not just in hormonal hell

I am here about 3Xs a day literally, the upper gas issue which has been going on for years and the chills are back full force. The dr has already told me the chills are definetely menopausual and there is really not much to be done about that, same with gas and bloating.

I have the internal tremors really bad, basically I have everything you have

I just started having this upper gas issue and chills in the last few weeks!  Thank you for mentioning the upper gas/chills as I was thinking, "Here we go again, WHAT now?"  I was perimenopausal from May of 2012 through November of 2015 when I finally reached that one year mark.  In the last few weeks, I have been letting air out every which way - lol.  It almost feels like I can track it moving along until it comes out.  It seems to give me a twinge (not painful - just a twinge) when it is passing by or stopping right in the middle of my chest but below the breast line (maybe just below or behind the sternum, I am thinking).  Then, a few seconds after that, out it comes.  Anxiety was my worst symptom during the peri phase.  It's so different when we start peri - you go for basically your whole life without feeling anything like that which starts then.  And, every new thing (thought, twinge, just anything new or different in our body/brain) seems to be so scary because we haven't had it before (at least in my case).  It can make you feel like you are losing your mind and not going to make it another day.  I was prescribed as as needed anti-anxiety med and take a quarter of it if necessary.  I have learned over the last few years a few things that help me out (exercise, deep breathing, swimming when warm) as I don't want to take it unless absolutely necessary and it seems I am getting better with knowing when it is not going to ease up and that quarter-pill is needed.  I am so thankful to find other women to "chat" with and I thank God every day for my hubs.  He is pretty awesome and understanding.  Ladies, God bless us all - this too shall pass!    xoxo

Hi lennie, will it ever get better? How do I shake these feelings off? Anxiety, depression, indigestion and migraine....

Tina, that is what I have been wondering. I just had about 3 or 4 hot flashes and they always accompany breast pain, pain in my shoulders and I have lumpy cyst like areas around my shoulder blades and they always hurt when I get a hot flash. I cant say the brand but I am taking Iodine, I was told it takes 3 months for that issue to clear up, I thought I had a real serious disease and turns out that about 3000 women experience because of hormonal issues the swelling/cysts during menopause. Now, as far as the depression,anxiety, panic, I am getting therapy, but, I am also looking at a low does anti-depressant. Part of my problem is my personal life too. But, thats another story. I was told this could go on for decades.  

Thanks for sharing your experiences! I'm on therapy too cuz my emotions are all over the place. Right now, I'm calm. Trying to let go of disappointments, offenses, and hurts.

I know this has been years since this was posted, but how are you all feeling? I think i started peri 6 months ago when i started noticing headaches when i had periods (which i normally dont have at all), then a gew days off either 2-3 days early or late or sometimes spot on. then this November it was 2 weeks late, very light first day then medium flow next 4 days. I was overly anxious during this time because it was first time i was delayed for two weeks. I have GAD by the way like severe anxiety on and off. So this delay made me overly anxious getting on my google literally 18hrs a day (6hrs asleep) forcing a smile on my face in front of family but actually on my phone googling! i started having major tummy issues - not really pain but just a discomfort like hunger pangs even if ibe just eaten and it was constant! sometimes i wont feel tummy issues when im busy so i figured it might be my anxiety causing it. i went on omeprazole and antacids and the discomfort would go away. Mornings are a struggle with palpitations and doom and gloom. i am no longer on antacids and the tummy discomfort goes away when i am out with family or when i am busy. then when i got nothing to do my mind wanders off in anxious thoughts again and then i get constant tummy discomfort again which doesnt go away because i cant stop my anxious thoughts. i am on my phone even while walking ay the mall with family on this site reassuring myself im fine and to stop my anxiety. but i cant switch off my EXTREME ANXIETY. morning to evening my anxiety just wont switch off! And so my tummy discomfort seems to not go away. how did you cope???

oh and to add, after my delayed period (2 weeks delay) i got the next cycle after 23 days - so 5 days early this time and i had a migraine that came with it! i am a stay at home mom with a 3-yr old as my youngest and so everyone is out day time leaving me alone with my 3-yr old and that is when i start anxious thoughts - having tummy issues. I feel better when hubby is home coz then he would drag me to go out and i forget about my peri synptoms while im out and busy sometimes. i also had itchy scalp and breasts and underarms a fee months ago like super itchy! but it all resolved on its own. i just want to stop my anxiety because i feel this is causing my tummy discomfort as well, or at least aggravating my pero symptoms. i just want to wale up with no anxious feelings as well of doom & gloom! i even dream about it! I find comfort reading all the comments here as if i know you all so well already! hugs!

i am 45 by the way 😃

I could have written that myself about a year ago, I have been to hell and back over the past 5 years approx.

Then as my periods practically stopped I seemed to improve quite a bit but in the last 2/3 weeks I feel like total sh*t again