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I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

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jennifer85396
jennifer85396

I am 48 years old, stay at home mom with two children.  They are in school, I try to keep myself very busy.  I have had OCD and anxiety, I have been fighting it for years. But, now the Perimenopause is really terrible..depressed, mood swings, tension headaches, dry and itchy skin.

I have spoken to my sisters who are all past Menopause, they tell me their stories but I just cannot believe that hormones can cause all this havock.  I do not feel myself at all, my PMS is worse and the week of my period I actually feel like I have a disease and I am dying.  Feel like I am going crazy!! Please tell me if this is normal to feel this way at this time, because I am obsessing and cannot get my mind off of it.  Need Help!!!!

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  • ellen20088
    ellen20088 jennifer85396

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    Hi Jennifer,

    I read your issues with perimenopause and all of the symptoms, but you did not mention if your menses were out of control that made me severe anemia.  I had my menses twice last month, burning in the vaginal area for 1 month, then my wrist started to aching bad causing me to cry, swellinging feet, ankles, and calves, blood pressure going up and down. i feel at times impending doom.  I have Palpitation around my menses, shortness of breath, and acid reflex.  I am a total mess.  I have not experience the depression yet, or mood swings, but the heavy menses are terrible

  • Piluchi1967
    Piluchi1967 jennifer85396

    Posted

    It's so good to from you ladies. I've just started to experience symptoms myself (not fun!!), cramping, dizziness, achiness, moodiness and very disconnected. It's good to know I'm not alone. Jennifer I thought there was something seriously wrong with me, but after doing some research, I guess this is normal. Hang in there smile
    • kathy34955
      kathy34955 Piluchi1967

      Posted

      How do I know I'm not going insane? It feels horrible when you question your own sanity. Some days I feel like myself then some days I'm anxious and depressed. Anyone tried HRTS? I'm getting desperate. I still work outside the home and it's getting hard to continue. I see other women my age and I don't see them struggling like me. sometimes I feel all alone.
  • julie45644
    julie45644 jennifer85396

    Edited

    I am 48 and crying as I write this. So anxious and depressed I can't work and thoughts of ending it all.

    Gp supportive and started hrt last week but currently feeling worse

    Anyone have experience of hrt does it work or am I going totally mad

    This person is not me but had taken over my body and mind. Need to save myself but don't know how

    • kathy34955
      kathy34955 julie45644

      Posted

      Julie you are not alone. I look in the mirror and I see the same face but I don't know her. Life is so precious and we will be whole again that I can promise you. We can either let menopause take over our life or we take control. I'm going to keep fighting! Talk to your doctor. I also see a therapist. I have some dark days but I also have some good ones. Those are the days I hang on to. Please talk to someone. We all have a purpose you must believe that. Love and hugs to you.
    • julie45644
      julie45644 kathy34955

      Posted

      Thanks Kathy for your words of encouragment.

      Trying so hard to get through this. Funny thing is I have coped with much worse and always found the strength to plod on. However this has consumed me completely. Just pray this is hormones and not me loosing the plot forever. This morning I woke feeling desperate and now I feel I need yo get a crop. This roller coaster of emotion is completly draining. Was always so in control and now just a wreck.

    • jackie95472
      jackie95472 julie45644

      Posted

      I hear you.  You sound like me.  Totally in control of my emotions then a snap of your fingers and I became an emotional mess.  I had to take meds, I was in deep trouble and I see a therapist.  Not at all fair.  I'm doing OK now.

       

    • julie45644
      julie45644 jackie95472

      Posted

      Can I ask what meds helped. Go very supportive but I have had to leave work because I just can't function day to day.

      This is a normal process so why do our bodies and mind react this way

      Hope you continue to move forwards x

    • jackie95472
      jackie95472 julie45644

      Posted

      Prozac for my moods.  I'm also taking estrogen/progesterone/.  I wasn't sleeping so now I take trezadone.  Snap I was a different person, over night.  Not my fault.  

      Yea normal.  This doesn't feel normal.  I lost my job because of perimenopause.  Trying to get my life back.  I'm told to hold on!!!  It will get better.  Here is hoping what they say is true.

    • julie45644
      julie45644 jackie95472

      Posted

      I have just started hrt and hope I will need nothing else. This morning I woke up thinking about ending it all. By lunch different outlook completely.

      Hang on in there together we can all come out the other end bigger brighter and stronger smile. I hope x

    • Guest
      Guest julie45644

      Posted

      Hi Julie,  I feel the same way.  I'm so distraught because I miss my old self.  What happened to me?  Will we ever get back to who we were?  I'm a single mother with a teenage daughter.  I handled everything, now I'm afraid to drive or attend her events.  Why do I feel this way? 
    • chloe18980
      chloe18980 julie45644

      Posted

      Anxiety was my worse symptom...I could barely leave the house...  xanax was my best friend but it is better now....it does get better.  Just hang in there...this will pass.  I promise! 
    • imelda26569
      imelda26569 chloe18980

      Posted

      How long I'm two years in xanex my best friend too. Use v cautiously and frugally though.
    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 chloe18980

      Posted

      Hi Chloe. I'm 46 and have been suffering severe pressure headaches,anxiety,panic attacks,feeling of doom and gloom and loss all my get up and go. Is this perimenopause?
    • tina29741
      tina29741 michelle46271

      Edited

      Hi Michelle, I could relate to you. I just started feeling this anxiety, depression, indigestion, migraine and I don't know what to do. I am 45 yrs old and I really don't understand what's happening to me. I feel so lost and weak.
    • Guest
      Guest tina29741

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      Hi Tina...this is the first time I have written into any forum but I have been reading this one for a while now to make myself feel I am not alone. I live in Qld Australia and have been doctor shopping for a year now as my symptoms have been all over the place. Had all tests done and apart from elevated cholesterol all was fine. I am 48 nearly 49 and I even got told by one doctor there is no such thing as menopausal symptoms. I have given up on doctors as I cannot find ONE that will acknowledge perimenopause. I have got worse over the last 3 months...headaches (never had) periods starting to become irregular.. clotty sometimes...spotty others...burning tongue....indigestion..bloating...blah blah.

      But the worst thing ever is the anxiety and flat moods that come and go. I just feel like everything is too hard. I can't even be bothered having a shower some days. I just look in the mirror and think wow who is that... i feel worn out and exhausted and live for the weekends so I can get off the treadmill. Trying vit Bs exercise and meditation but really find reading others experiences helps the most. You realise you are not alone. I can't wait for this menopause to be finished so I can get my life back!

    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 Guest

      Posted

      Hi Janice

      I get the awful burning mouth and tongue. I find sucking a ice lolly relieves it for a while. Just hoping it passes. My jaw throbs too.

    • Guest
      Guest michelle46271

      Posted

      Hi Michelle....i started keeping a diary about 6 months ago and i was getting it mid cycle ish. I told a doctor here and she just looked at me and said she had never heard of it. I have been tested for EVERYTHING including rheumatoid arthritis. I have woken up feeling like i have been hit by a truck sometimes. But I find the symptoms chop and change...i never had headaches but now i sometimes get woken up by one. I am fatigued a lot...And I find I can't handle stress anymore AT ALL. Little things can set me off and I take longer to calm down. Trying to meditate and eat well but longing for this to be over with. Good luck and I will try the ice lolly next time it happens smile
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