I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

Marcia, I get it. I l feel like I'm dying form some dread disease or going crazy. I have a health issue that's been bothering me and I finally thought it was healed. But something happened this morning and now I'm worried I have the "C" word. I have pains in odd places and I'm just generally unhappy which is not me! I have nothing to be unhappy about!!! I have a four day weekend coming up(just taking some time off from work because it's getting so hard to go and I need a break)and I want to enjoy it, but how can I when I'm worried about, well, everything? We must find a way to calm down. One lady asked if anyone had ever died from menopause   I'm sure that has NEVER happened, but you feel soooo out of sorts.  We can't let this get the better of us. I told God this morning that we need to talk this evening when I get off work! Lol!

Juanita, thanks so much for your words I am getting there. Trying to be positive everyday and just remembering each time that I feel bad That people doesn't die from menopause 😍

I feel like God sent all of us to ths forum so we can help each other and even laugh a bit sometimes. Hang in there honey, we're women, we'll get through this!

Lord, sometimes I have to refrain from killing doctors. Acne, and he tells you to be happy about it? What a tool!  I'm plugging along hoping that eventually things will even out. I have to say I was blessed. I breezed through peri, had my last period in 2010, and had no menopause symptoms until 2014. But ever since then it's been one thing after another.  Praying and this forum have helped me so much. Hang in there! Your'e not alone!!!! 

Hi Julie. Was wondering what are your symptoms of anxiety.?  Lately mine has caused stomach distress almost all day long. Even trying to eat smaller meals doesn't seem to help. I tend to focus on the stomach pain and that increases the anxiety. It's a never ending cycle. I do notice that a drink with magnesium powder eases the pain for awhile. 

I had terrible burping for hours and pain into neck. Then would feel sick and need toilet. Would then get faint and impending doom.  Did find ginger or peppermint herbal tea helped. I also drank warm tap water which helped a little. Did have ulcers at time so may have made things worse. 

Always lie or sleep on left side as stops reflux etc 

Hope it gets better

Hi Julie,  I just want to thank you for this post.  Helped me so much to read this.  I'm hoping what's happening with me is peri menopause and not some other deadly disease.  I've had pretty much every symptom on the 66 symptoms list. I'm a pretty logical thinker so I'm still having a hard time believing that nothing deadly is happening in my system.  I just turned 40.  Nine months ago I started spiraling out of control.  I've always considered myself strong.  My mom was murdered when I was 10, dad was a heroin addict but I made it through my childhood.  Got married had two beautiful kids after three miscarriages.  Daughter had 2 brain surgeries, but she's a healthy teen now.  Son is healthy as an ox.  Got divorced some time ago but we coparent well.  So needless to say I thought I was Wonder Woman.   I'm in a relationship, bought a house a few months before the spiral, job was unbearablely stressful.  It all started with tummy issues, tingling and numbness all over, burning skin, muscle twitches and weakness.  All severe anxiety symptoms I guess.   So so many symptoms.  In and out of ER.  I've seen a few MDs.  Anyway I'm rambling but I just wanted to let you know that this helped and all the other gals's posts as well.  I found that praying with bible study has helped stop the panic attacks and working on my health with diet and exercise.   The phych MDs had me on 3 meds!  I weaned myself off and had the worst withdrawals.  Brain zaps and electric shock in my left hand and arm.  It was pure torture.  I still have a lot is symptoms but at least I have a bit more control.  I find it amazing that there aren't many like us.  Thank you ladies for sharing!!! I pray for the day when there will be no more agony.  But for now I put a smile on and hope to help others with my rambling. 😁🌈??

Isn’t it just awful that we can have all these symptoms and it just spirals out of control with the anxiety..and then when you finally see something like these posts and realize just maybe we might survive..I can’t believe how much worse I felt on the lexapro my Dr gave me..didn’t help the anxiety at all, actually made it worse and then the zaps, or shocks that you mentioned are just awful. I have found walking helps, making sure I drink a lot of water, and believe it or not , I finally got on the essential oil kick that all my friends have raved about, and I have to say, I’ve felt more relaxed, slept better (some nights, other nights I’m up a bit) and felt happier over all. Now that being said , next week, I could feel different and just crash emotionally and cry and not be able to sleep, etc..BUT I diffuse a combination of lavender and frankincense, just at night in the bedroom and it seems to help. Just thought I’d mention that too,as I was skeptical too. Hope you have a great day. Take care and remember you are not alone!!

Thank you Amy!  I plan to start the essential oils too.  I've just started seeing a holistic MD and she has been so great.  She's done a lot of vitamin levels on me and a few other labs.  I see her again in a week to discuss the natural route.  I was on Zoloft 100mgs per day, Ativan as needed 1mg pet day total and risperidone!  I believe Zoloft caused the zaps withdrawal.  I went cold turkey as I wasn't informed otherwise but I guess that's partly my fault.  I've learned we must do our own research.  I was put on risperidone because I heard my name called a couple of time and when asked if I heard voices, I confessed this.  Well mind you, over a 2 months span, I practically ate nothing because of the nausea and was only getting 2 hours of sleep a night.  Had horrible nightmares for those 2 hours.  I'm sure anyone would go man under these circumstance. Ha.  The risperidone helped me sleep but caused me to have vivid dreams and made me lactate!  Which sent me back down the rabbit hole a bit.   The Ativan helped a lot but I so feared becoming addicted.  So when I finally gain my 20lbs back and was able to get to work and properly function, I gave it all up.  I still have the Ativan just in case but haven't had to use in in a couple of months.   If I feel a panic attack coming on I now use Bach rescue remedy.  It helps!  I did a nine mile hike in Tahoe and was so afraid that I would cause my muscles too much stress, but it proved otherwise.  It's when I'm less mobile that I start shriveling up.  I woke up Friday morning and felt like I was hit by a truck, it's absolutely ridiculous, right?!  I'm so grateful for your response.  I pray we all find relief!   But I truly take comfort in the love that is shown here.  ??

Hi Alissa

How long did it take for you to gain your weight back?

Hi Alissa- isn’t it just crazy?? Now I had been feeling pretty decent and now after a tough week (nothing horrible, just work pressure, lots of things to do and keep up on, made me overwhelmed) I feel pretty awful again..heart palpitations but more like a quick zap a few times a day, leg cramps, exhausted..and yes I totally agree keeping active helps so much but sometimes I just have to collapse, but maybe too much sitting around...so I’m going to try to keep busy, not overthink or Google symptom lol...that’s never good, although it did lead me here to this helpful place so I guess it’s got some benefits! Oh I meant to ask, what is the Bach rescue? I’d check into anything about now! I hope you can find something that works for you, without all the meds, if you think that would be something you’d like. also keep us posted on your natural doctor visits and what you are going to try..together we can try to figure out something that helps! Thanks for your response! Take care😊💕

Hi Mary.  It took about 4 months.  Lots of protein shakes and good fats.  Unfortunately it's mostly the fat I gained back because I was too scared to exercise to gain the muscle I lost back.  But I'm slowly starting to push myself.  Also, I want to caution you on the cravings of sweets.  They came at me full force and I fed them!  Ugh.  Try hard not to do that.  Processed sugars are hard to metabolize and will leave you feeling horrible.   And this is way worse if anxiety has done a number on your GI system.  

Hi Amy, yeah it just seems like it's never ending, right?  I had the leg cramps today and a sore throat.  I'm in Cali and live near the fires so the air quality isn't helping.  Rescue Remidy (the brand is Bach).  A friend of mine that is a survivor of breast cancer told me about it.  She said it helped her so much when she had anxiety.  So I tried it and it works pretty well.  It's a homeopathic natural stress reliever.  A couple ingredients are rock rose and cherry plum.  These are flowers, each ingredient has its own specific focus.  Oh and sometimes I think it's best to just rest!  Be aware of yourself and if you notice you're becoming overwhelmed take a time out.  Deep belly breaths and reading helps too!  

Oh and I forgot to say that I will keep you all up to date on my MD appointments and her recommendations.  ❤️

Hi, I'm new here.  I've been so happy to read that I'm not alone in all of this.  I'm 46 years old and am guessing I have been in perimenopause for about 5 years now at least.  My first symptom was my hair falling out all of the sudden.  Then, I had stomach bloating all of the time, a tight feeling in my throat like something was stuck there, dizziness, heart palpitations (which sent me to the hospital to have everything checked out- couldn't find any problems), and then the anxiety hit.  Soon after that I began having heart burn no matter what I ate and a feeling like  my food was just sitting in my gut and not moving for long periods of time.  I researched what might be causing that and found out that as we age, especially women in peri can start to make less stomach acid.  To help balance that back out I've been taking Betaine HCL and digestive enzymes when I eat and no more acid reflux or digestive issues.  It was a blessing to figure that out.  Now, I've developed what I believe to be uterine fibroids.  So, I'm taking something to shrink those too.  The anxiety has eased some just from doing meditation, yoga, and drinking kefir and making sure to get vitamin d3 with k2, magnesium, and fish oil on a regular basis, but still is something I have to deal with.  I still very often wonder if I'm dying of something and it helps to be able to come on here and read about a lot of you dealing with much of the same symptoms as I am.  I still often feel dizzy and tired and just worn out.  My periods are still coming although sometimes 23 days apart and sometimes 31 days apart and seem to be lighter at times and then heavier at times.  I'm ready to be done with them altogether.  My head is itchy all the time to the point of distraction sometimes and my skin is too at times.  I'm sure there are more symptoms that I'm just not remembering at the moment.  Anyway, I'm so thankful to have found this forum as you all make me feel better about what I'm going through.  So, thanks to everyone for sharing your stories.  

This forum has helped me so much. So many of us are suffering from health anxiety and are sure we're dying of some dread disease. I wonder why this is so common among women in peri and in menopause?