I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

Hi started my peri journey at 44, saw about 5 Doctors who ranged lots of different causes. I’m in medical profession so did my own research as not convinced by various diagnosis. Looked up menopause and had half of the symptoms. Attended hosp with chest pain and left sided numbness 3 times. Even though tests ok knew something wasn’t right so relieved once found may be hormones. My bloods were normal so Gp fobbed off my suggestions. Started self medicating on herbal meds but had to take anxiety meds for the impending doom and drops in Bp which were worst symptoms.

My symptoms were usually worse at night and added to my insomnia things were just crazy. Only work part time but getting up when had only got to sleep at 3-4 am not good. 

A lot of my symptoms better now on meds but don’t like going anywhere in evenings and can’t drive long distances as get strange sensations on motorway. 

My flushes are better with black cohosh and Agnus castus which I buy. Gabapentin helps with pain and numbness to left side but cold still causes neuralgia to face.  Venaflexine has virtually stopped anxiety and doom sensations. Fatigue is a killer and concentration hard but just not overdoing it helps. Sleep like a teenager again but def don’t feel it. My friends and family try to get it but sure they think it’s not that bad. This site has helped me realise that this is normal for a lot of women but most Docs have little knowledge of all this. 

Was stressed thinking may be my life for next decade but at least bit under my control now. Have to push for solutions and make suggestions. 

Hope feel better soon.

Hi Julie thanks for the reply sorry not been on here for a bit, I've since started taking 1mg of estett duet been taking it about 5 week, I'm still feeling a bit rubbish but think the b12 shots have kicked in I've been getting physio for my shoulder she says it definitely muscular probably due to stressing, I've at this moment in time still got the pain at my left rib area but it's not as bad the burning seems to have eased still getting the horrible taste in my mouth and headaches but not as often my periods are spot on every month but the doctor did say it was jut at the level to start treating, I think I've just been unfortunate to have a couple of things going on at the same time the heart palms or fluttering seems to have settled a bit hope your keeping better I can't believe all these symptoms could be from menopausal x

Do not google. You will think you're dying of everything.

HAHA!! Too late. When all of this happened about three months ago I googled and was convinced I was close to a heart attack or cancer. The anxiety from the perimenopause is crazy...NEVER had anxiety before this. How are you doing??

Gah!! Same!! It’s so annoying ..i was a perfectly fine, functional individual until all this nonsense!! We will be fine, just need to stick together!! 

I'm okay. I have good days and not so good days, and the odd few where I want to hide away from the world. It gets better. My days are mostly good. I find it comforting that I'm not the only one that googled in the beginning and thought I was dying from every disease in the world!

I had no idea anxiety would get this bad!! Seriously, i always think I’m dying and i try really hard not to be dramatic but it sucks!! Like today, my back hurts, i have a terrible headache and stomach is very off..a lot probably due to stress of holidays etc..ugh..For my gift, could i just feel f&@$@ normal for a day!!?? ??

I know, I feel that way too. I will have a good day every so often but they are few and far between :-( I hate being a woman LOL

Yes, I am waiting to have a good day..gotten progressively worse the closer it gets to the holidays...I hate feeling like this..my poor hubby and kids☹️

It’s true..we get a LOT of the, for lack of better word, burdens..but maybe because although it sucks, we can kick a$$ no matter what life throws at us!!?? Ugh..i hope it gets better..we certainly deserve it!! 😊

It is good to know you are doing better (this was an older post).  I am in the thick of similar symptoms and am trying to power through.  The mental issues are the worst.

Omg ! I feel same way for a while now def think it’s pre menopause I’m 48 and never had issues with pms but now forget it I feel like I have symptoms all

Month long or it just feels that way. I work from home have two kids hubby not here much so it’s hard ! Sometimes I feel crazy i will get urges to cry but I hold it and it builds horribly then I become afraid of it which I know is stupid but I do! I too go online and it makes it worst cause they make everything seem like it never ending! Def have anxiety more now  period irregular I think it’s all hormonal but then sometimes I think I’m just crazy! Glad to see others here!!!

I am so glad I found this site. 6 months ago started having night sweats followed by horrible acid reflux and lump in throat, shakes especially in the morning and the worst of all the extreme anxiety and panic attacks. Horrible pain in breasts and period first time irregular. Coming every 2 weeks. Never had any of this my whole life, my husband and parents thought I was losing it. I thought I was losing it!! Have such a hard time with the doom and gloom in the morning and with the fatigue from night sweats waking me up. Husband not very supportive. So glad to have found this thread. I read it nearly every day so I know I’m not dying. 

Totally understand and feel your pain!

I also probably started around 6 months ago..I just don't recognise myself at all..trying to muster enthusiasm for anything is exhausting!

I was not prepared for this or how lonely I actually feel at times..thank goodness for finding this !