I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

Sounds like Perimenopause type symptoms, there are so many GP often don’t think of it as possibility. Lots of herbal and prescription meds can try. Look through some of replies/ comments. 

Hi Emily, so sorry you have found yourself here. This truly is awful. I'm 35 and started this at 33, maybe before that but not sure as I was on birth control. Came off it at 33 and found myself in this mess. I don't have much advice on what helps as im still looking for something myself. Were yoytold by doctor you were in peri?

Hi Emily- yes I’m here..and I’m so sorry you’re in this situation but glad you found a way to get some support and answers! Believe me I felt very alone and thought I had some horrible disease or was going crazy or both!! I cannot believe the lack of information and help about women’s  hormones and health in general!! We are half the population and responsible for so much of everything around the home and at work! Please check the boards and we will try to respond as best we can. You are not alone. 

I have been going theough this for 8 years. It is unbearable sometimes. My symptoms are: migraines so bad i cannot function that sometimes go on for days. Also have severe depression, rage, anxiety, dry itchy skin, severe fatigue, loss of motivation, brain fog, burning tongue, 40 lb weight gain, acne, breast and pelvic pain, stiff muscles and achy joints, nausea, had periods so heavy i could not leave house, no energy, burning aching in my eyes as part of migraine, hot flashes and chills, insomnia, leaky bladder burning tongue and heart palpitations. I have tried bio identical hormones, various vitamins and nutritional supplements, exercise makes it worse, changed to a paleo diet, no alcohol, only 1 cup coffee a day and nothing has worked. Nothing. I feel like i am trapped in hell. I cannot make any plans. I cannot really work and i am a single woman. I have a part time job from home. Most days i can barely drag myself out of bed to do it. I lost my home and now live in my brothers basement. I dont know what to do. My family does not understand. I have considered suicide because it is so bad but trying so hard to hang on. I have a dog that I love and cannot leave him.

I used to be an active, productive creative, fun person and I hate who I have become.

I think my family wishes i would just end it. My life circumstances were not good when this all started and are 10x worse now. I cant take much more of this. I hope this ends soon has anyone come back on here to say its gotten better? I am at the end of my rope.

Morning Mm

Firstly let me say hang on in there!!!!!!

Do not give up!!!!!

Let me tell you my story 

I started peri at 40

My symptoms made me suicidal

Partly because I didn’t know it was hormonal cause had really weird symptoms 

I will tell you my symptoms so you know that your not alone 

I’m 50 now and unfortunately I was 13 months without a period but had half my thyroid removed in August and BAM a period 

Since had a scan and nothing to worry about

But I thought I was in full menopause and looking forward to hopefully coming out the other side

I’m still suffering really bad now

I haven’t had any HRT but did go on mirtazapine which is an Antidepressant 

It did help I’m no longer on it

Like you there are days I cannot function 

I’m a carer in the community married with five kids and two grandchildren 

My symptoms are

Anxiety depression hot flushes loss of balance numerous stomach and acid reflux issues nausea spaced out inner tremors on and off palpitations aches and pains insomnia and the list goes on and on

I’ve developed health anxiety so every little pain or feeling sends me into panic!!!!

Oh yeah and I constantly feel breathless even though every X-ray or test has always come back good

As I sit here replying to you my chest is tight

I’ve been ten years in this hell

But I say all that to say this

Keep talking on this forum

The ladies are wonderful and have helped me through some really dark times

Some days are better than others but yes it is a constant battle 

Go to your doctor 

Get an Antidepressant see if it helps or counselling maybe?

Just know we are all here for you

Praying you have a better day today

God bless x

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Sometimes it’s trying to find the right combinations. I have had most of the things you described and still have fatigue, insomnia and all the flushes etc. 

My fibromyalgia is much worse. Had a IUD to stop my periods. I tried lots of meds before found ones that help. Like you feel that no one really gets it and thinks I’m just moaning. 

Still have days when not working when can’t be bothered to get up and as you say hate making plans as usual don’t feel up to it when time comes.

My dogs and family are a comfort even though my partner prob gets fed up with it all. 

Seek out a combination that helps you. Herbal remedies such as Black cohosh about 20-40mgs and Agnus castus help. Sage leaf as well. Beta blocker for migraines and also helps palpitations. Venaflexine great for depression and anxiety. Stopped painkillers as don’t help and make headaches worse. HRT made head worse. 

Just set yourself small goals. I usually do bit of housework for half hour then rest and do bit more. 

You will come out of it I think it’s just can be worse when you start it younger.

Hope you can get help with everything.

Hi Michelle

Reading your post, how do you manage to cope?

HI Mary

I pray and read my bible

I am a believer in God

Now I’m not saying it helps every time

Today is a really bad day for me

Anxiety nausea tight chest

I’ve broken down and cried today

Reading every ones post helps

I struggle a lot in the winter months also so the dark days aren’t helping x

I do too(pray and read my Bible). But some days I have to whip the Valium out. I also struggle during the winter months. It's called SAD(Seasonal Affective Disorder). But I do think it's worse during peri and menopause years.(((( (hugs)))))

So sorry you had a bad day..I’ve also been struggling with incredible health anxiety.. I also try to pray and just keep telling myself I’m fine..and i also appreciate all these posts, I look to them daily for encouragement. Thanks and I’ll say a prayer for you and if you’re so inclined..say one for me!😊

Oh girl, I (we) ALL feel your pain!  Hang in there!  I'm going to suggest something that might help, not saying it will but you never know.  Because all of us have pretty much burned up all our resources so to speak we probably have a very severe magnesium deficiency. Go out and buy some magnesium glycinate.  Start with a capsule first thing in morning, then a half hour or hour later try another one build up to bowel tolerance. I'm not sure how much that would be for you. Glycinate is the type that is absorbed best (at least from what I've read). I'm using Pure Encapsulations and they are 125 mg per cap. I'm taking 6 or 7 of them a day for a total of about 720 - 800 mg. Go into Dr. Carolyn Dean's website to read about it. I know most ALL of us on this website are deficient or soon will be. It helps but you need to take A LOT!! Read about magnesium and anxiety/adrenal fatigue etc. This STUFF works! The RDA recommendation is very low. Let me know how you are doing. Your not alone!

Please hang on in there Mm. It does end and It does get better. My friend had hers but she's much better now. It does feel never ending and a very lonely place when you don't have people who have experienced it. Right now I'm on my bed, my stomach is making crazy noises, I feel like something is stuck in my throat and of course fatigued! Just fed up but we've got to keep going as we can see that we are not alone since so many other women are having similar issues on this site. Just take one day at a time.

Hi Girlrocker49,

May I ask how long your friend went through it for?

Hi, I have been having this breathless thing, along with heart palps, anxiety, muscles tightness, acid refux, weird periods, etc. It is the breathless thing that bothers me the most right now

Probably if it’s concurrent with anxiety and palpitations. Can hyperventilate with anxiety with reduces effective breathing. Take slow deep breathes in through nose and and out through mouth. If getting pain when breath in deeply then see doctor just to be sure not anything else. I’ve found almost everything I have had like reflux belching, dizziness, blood pressure drops and chest pains are all to do with my hormones. There are about 64 different symptoms you can get so research as much as possible.