I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

Lol..momma im not laughing at what you are going through but only the part when you have the good week. I was just telling someone that earlier, i had a good week and like you said Bam, and right back to feeling awful. With me, ive tried everything, supplement, herb, bhrt,progesterone, anxiety meds, but its like nothing helps at least not long term. I hope that something works for you. I know the feeling.

Hi momma 

I was reading your post and wondering if you could try and explain your other ‘weird symptoms’. I’m having allsorts going on including terrible stomach issues like reflux, indigestion, horrendous constipation, difficulty swallowing sometimes, bizarre pains everywhere, nerve pains in my elbows and knees, burning sensations in my throat/oesophagus, sometimes pain in my mid back when I swallow food, heart pain, the list is endless and I feel like I’m literally on my way out. I’m sure the docs are sick of me and I don’t want to go back for the fact that one has said fibromyalgia and others think I have health anxiety which I’d basically hypochondria. I’m pretty fed up and I’m only 48. Until recently I was taking utrogeston and using oestrogen gel but I stopped as I need my periods to stop because I pee blood every period and I’m sick of the bladder pain that brings.  Anyway I hope you can let me know some more of your symptoms. 

Take care 

Hi Bellaboo1,

I feel so sorry for you.  I know it’s hell.  I have exactly the same symptoms like you.  Yes they are ‘weired’ symptoms and that’s what makes it such a hell.   You’ve described those symptoms in detail.  I’ve been reading forums for a long time and there are many many people with exactly those horrible symptoms.  I’ve had so many tests like the other people.  In the end, nobody seems to be able to help us.   There are also many doctors who have no idea what a nightmare these symptoms are and how they destroy your life .  I’ve been tested for lungs, heart, sinus, pancreas etc : all negative.  Don’t let anybody tell you that you are a hypochondriac or that you have fibromyalgia or that you need antidepressants.   This is what doctors say if they don’t understand what causes this nor how to treat it.   You WILL get through this!    And you found this forum :  you’re not alone.  Once you also get stomach issues like you do,  and I do,  you may have gastritis which can be very very painful and can cause also all these ‘weired’ symptoms.  In this case the GI Consultant may say ... you have ‘only’ gastritis.    The problem is though that there seems to be no medicine that helps.  I’ve been prescribed so many drugs that I tried and they made things even worse for me.   Medicine is not very advanced enough in this area.  However there is hope because I understand that it will go away on its own and doctors don’t consider it as serious.   I know that’s not much help whilst we all suffer so badly.  But it’s good that this forum exists .... so you know at least that we are not crazy because we all suffer from the same symptoms.  Together we will we will be able to overcome this .  It’s only a matter of time . Don’t give up.  What I found helpful is trying to relax .... easier said than done .... but whenever I succeed I feel somewhat better.  

and Bellaboo,

I forgot to say I had all these symptoms before, I got antibiotics and other drugs and probiotics and was on the FODMAP diet  etc,  nothing helped but, in the end , it went away and I was super fit for almost 2 years.  So it can go away.  I have no idea what made it go away.  Sadly it came back and I’m back into this hell ....... but I surely hope that it will go away again.  

Thank you! You are so right... some things help, but only short-term. It's so frustrating!

I think that's why I call them "weird symptoms" because I just can't explain it. I was tested for Fibro and it was negative. I'll feel achy I guess? Tingly? Just... weird and funky. Not all the time... but the bad days are really, really bad. I wish I had the right adjectives but it's really hard to explain. I have some light-headedness sometimes. I feel like a hypochondriac, too, so I completely get that. I know my doctor thinks I need to be on an anxiety med but I know that's not the problem. 

Yes, same! I've been tested for so many things. My bloodwork is "perfect" I'm always told. Fibro, H Pylori bacteria, and celiac disease is all negative, HIDA scan is perfect, ultrasounds (abdominal, vaginal) all perfect, and the rest of my blood work shows nothing but a healthy 48 year old woman. I'm not on ANY prescription meds, I exercise regularly and am normal weight, don't drink or smoke and eat fairly healthy I guess. So, when I go in to the doctor in tears and tell them that most days I have to push through and many days I feel like crap, they don't know what to say, which I understand. The gastritis does come and go, and they want me to come in for an upper GI so I guess I'll do that just to make sure all is well there??  I'm going to go ahead and try the progesterone cream and keep up with my other supplements and keep praying. I continue to be amazed at how much hormones affect. It's really crazy. Oh, add in heart palpitations and shortness of breath in there, too. Oy. 

Oh yes, Mommaof6,

I have of course also heart palpitations and shortness of breath.  Which supplements are you taking?  Are they any good  or is it just out of desperateness that you take them?  I had H Pylori and took the mega antibiotics.  H Pylori is eradicated but my GI Consultant says that was pointless.  I still have the same symptoms.  I had also the upper GI Endoscopy.  There is Gastritis but they are not worried about Gastritis.  It’s called ‘only Gastritis’ .  I understand many peoples have this and it’s hell for many people and it causes all these ‘weired’ symptoms (thanks to the Vagus Nerve).  But they’re not worried as Gastritis is not considered to be anything ‘sinister’.  And there is of course no help.  

HI Lcat,

What kind of symptoms are caused by the vagus nerve from the gastritis?

Do you the weird head symptoms? Bc I sure get a lot of those too that are hard to explain. Internal tremor like symptom, especially when I lay down to go to sleep, and it feels like I'm going to pass out. And breathing feels like it's pausing or stopping. Or, my head feels like it's going before my body, like it's not in sync. Again, weird.

I get told same. Docs see me once, get the normal bloodwork, then tell me I need to see a psychiatrist and take whatever they recommend before they'll do further testing. Yes, they really said that. Can you believe it? Or, that I need to go to a university hospital 4 hrs away bc my hormones/symptoms are too complicated. Really??

Julie, sorry you're having such a hard time. I think we all go through times that are harder and times and everything comes down when everything started for me it was back in October where I really started noticing your things anxiety attacks anxiety help and I've also experienced weird trimmers tingling in different ones at different times vibrating if you want to call it back like an internal vibration just strange things all going through the same thing we get different types of feelings of different times and emotions we can all probably say we told the doctor all sorts of weird things as far as symptoms are concerned and they all look at us like we're crazy so at least we have each other to talk to to help ease some of the anxiety

Oh my gosh I have the internal vibration feeling!!!  It is very scary ! I thought it was just me!!!! 

LCat - I take a vital B complex and extra B12, Magnesium, omega 3 (fish oil), Juice Plus, iron for the few days I’m on my period each month (my iron level stays on the low end of the normal range), and Vit D/K2 in the cold months. I think they help? Who knows really. 

Yes, the breathing thing, I have that too! I’m very aware of my breathing sometimes and it feels like I forget to breathe , like it pauses. I think I read where that’s called “breathing awareness” 

Hello,  I am new, but have been following this site for almost a year.  I have been going through this hell since I went off birth control pills last year at 40.  It started with stomach issues, no appetite, weight loss, numbness, tingles...then escalated to heart palps that sent me roaring down the road in the ambulance thinking I was dying.  My dad passed away at 42 of a heart attack, so I was rightfully scared.  Periods all over the place.  Health anxiety through the roof.  Heavy, clotting, light, nothing, whatever. Migraines, joint pains, internal vibes, head pressure,all of it.  I have had everything tested, brain, stomach, colon, you name it.  I waited 6 months to see an endocrinologist who had me out the door in 5 min.  Told me he does not deal with women’s hormones.  Went to a naturopath, she thought I had Lyme disease.  Negative.  My obgyn is lovely, but her only suggestion was to go back on a lower dose BCP, I tried, I came right off, made things worse.  Then tried progesterin only pill, stuck it out 2 months, made me weepy and sad and nauseous everyday.  threw them out.  I can take all of this crap, but the worst thing is the fatigue.  It is an all over weak feeling.  I walk up the stairs, and it is like i have clumbed a mountain.  I get dizzy too all the time.  It is horrible.  I had to close my home business in Dec.  between the aches and pains exhaustion and dizziness I could not do it.  I recently finally decided to try an AD for my anxiety issues.  I have always been an anxious person, but in peri it is amplified.  I also have a son with special needs and is demanding of me mentally and physically.  My husband is wonderful and it helping as much as he can.  We are all just trying to figure out what came a year ago and took me away!  I will be 41 next month.  Doctors still under the illusion that if you are 40, you’re too young.  Nice not to be alone though!  Take care!

I love Susan Weed's book New Menopausal Years :  The Wise Woman Way.  Helped me a lot.  Best wishes.

Hi Julie54379,

I too have that breathing thing, especially when I am just going to sleep.  Has happened 4 or 5 times in the last 6 months.  Freaks me out.  Researched it, and it is a larynx spasm.  Great, a new symptom.  Hope you are feeling better.  I have been seeing a psychologist for a year now because I was told the same thing.  Go see a psychiatrist.  It helps, when you find the right person to talk to.

Many blessings to you.  Thanks for posting.

Wow. It’s like reading my own story.  I’ll be 41 soon.  I stopped trying to have doctors figure it out.  I tried everything and stopped everything.  I ended up in the hospital because I bled for 2 weeks and came close to losing my life.  I have an appointment for an ablation next month.  It doesn’t seem right.  To one day just not feel well anymore.  I pray a lot and study the Bible a lot now.  It helps.  I hope the best for you.  One thing I can say i’ve Convinced myself that I’m not gonna die tomorrow!  ❤️