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I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

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jennifer85396
jennifer85396

I am 48 years old, stay at home mom with two children.  They are in school, I try to keep myself very busy.  I have had OCD and anxiety, I have been fighting it for years. But, now the Perimenopause is really terrible..depressed, mood swings, tension headaches, dry and itchy skin.

I have spoken to my sisters who are all past Menopause, they tell me their stories but I just cannot believe that hormones can cause all this havock.  I do not feel myself at all, my PMS is worse and the week of my period I actually feel like I have a disease and I am dying.  Feel like I am going crazy!! Please tell me if this is normal to feel this way at this time, because I am obsessing and cannot get my mind off of it.  Need Help!!!!

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  • Bren1968
    Bren1968 jennifer85396

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    Hi Jennifer my name is Brenda and I know what you mean.I am dealing with this perimenopause also I am 49 years old and I never thought it would be like before this.My periods are out of whack last 4 days then I stop then start back the next day I thought I was done till the next period come again had bad cramps a headache etc I hate the symptoms but it will get better Jennifer
  • Guest
    Guest jennifer85396

    Posted

    Is anybody else getting bad sore throats since peri?  Seems every other month I have tonsillitis.  
    • amy341731
      amy341731 Guest

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      Hi- I can’t believe I came across this..YES I have had tonsillitis twice in the last 3 months! It’s awful, I’ve never had it before..I have had strep before but this tonsillitis was something else..and in the summer both times! I have no idea why this is happening and was not sure it was perimenopause related but maybe it is..ugh..no real answers but you’re not alone! 
  • Rebmik5555
    Rebmik5555 jennifer85396

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    Stop listening to outdated information regarding hormone replacement and REALLY educate yourself...NOT through your “normal” doctors.  READ and research.

    For me progesterone is HORRIBLE, makes me fat and sad.  I NEED ESTROGEN.  I use bioidentical Estrogen and DHEA/Testosterone...if they are low. I have no energy, my mind doesn’t work, I am overwhelmed by everything and nothing, sex drive is nonexistent, am anxious and depressed.  I AM NOT ANY OF THESE THINGS normally and/or before perimenopause.  SO i use estrogen and if I die because of it at least I am half way sane and happy.  Doctors need to stop treating us like our symptoms either don’t exist or we just need to deal with it.  But until then research it all for yourself and demand until you feel better!  

  • jill19850
    jill19850 jennifer85396

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    hi everyone- still new to this site and it has been a godsend. Hoping some of you can ease my anxiety and offer advice for my symptoms.

    I'm 51 years old and woke up three weeks ago having what i think was an anxiety/panic attack at 4:00 in the morning. I suffer from moderate depression and take small dose of Zoloft. The feeling that i had was a coolness running through my body then intense anxiety. Ive done tons of research and have been to a Neurologist and have appts with my GYN, Endocrinologist, and Hormone specialist coming up in the next week.

    my question to you guys is- any of you know what the cool rush that i get that comes over my body before i get super anxious? what exactly is that?? i also cant sleep at all. as soon as i start to drift off, i was up and feel nervous. ANY ADVICE IS SOOOOOO APPRECIATED. Does this even sound like perimenopause symptoms??

    • jacqueline59683
      jacqueline59683 jill19850

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      I just woke up and one if the symptoms I felt was chills, almost like when you have fever, and then crazy anxiety. I don't understand what it is, I'm also in Peri. During the night I did feel burning face, so maybe the cold feel g came after, but since I was half asleep I don't remember.

      I'm also sleeping terrible, I'm trying out CALM and melatonin gummies and it's ok. I try not to nap, because I get up in a panic. Sleep is so important I just had an afib episode and I think the anxiety and lack of good sleep is partly responsible.

      I've missed 2 cycles so far. I wish you well, it seems like you are covering all of your bases, but I too get that cold feeling especially in my arms and fingers.

    • Guest
      Guest jill19850

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      Hi Jill,  Yes, I experienced this last year as one of my symptoms.  Mine felt like an internal cold electric current from head to toe.  Like a chill, but no goosebumps.  Like my nervous system was chilly!  It happened once while I was in the hospital under observation for heart palps ( another lovely symptom).  I told the dr, and he turned the heat up in the room stating I was probably cold 🙄

    • jo67532
      jo67532 jacqueline59683

      Posted

      I've had the morning chill before too! It almost feels like i want to shiver, but it's coming from inside my body. It's very strange and often makes my anxiety get carried away. I'm new to the perimenopause life. I've landed in the ER once for a panic attack about a month ago. I thought for sure something was wrong with me, but everything was fine and I was told that it was just anxiety. rolleyes I've always been a worrier, but these peri symptoms are really making me feel crazy!

  • jen123456
    jen123456 jennifer85396

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    i'm almost 60, still can't sleep, horrible anxiety which i think causes my fatigue....been to every dr. under the son...no one knows anything!!!!!! now, i'm starting to get horrible pain in arms and mostly legs....what a way to live!!!!! sad

  • dina75442
    dina75442 jennifer85396

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    Hi Jennifer just came upon this menopose feed. This is crazy how I feel the same way. I had chemo for breast  cancer two years ago and it put me into menopause or perimenopause it absolutely is horrible. Is it me or some days I feel myself some days I don’t feel like myself I have anxiety crazy weird thoughts I access on everything I stress over everything I think the worst things I feel like my mind is on a treadmill or a roller coaster did you feel this way also. I take Effexor and I don’t seem to be working too much and I take Clonopin as needed it’s crazy please let me know thank you
  • laura26665
    laura26665 jennifer85396

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    I can so relate. I have OCD and the anxiety makes it ten times worse. Also, the week before my period is just miserable. It hits my stomach hard. Bad indigestion and nausea. I just started too, so I am curious how long this is going to last. Blah!
  • jacqueline59683
    jacqueline59683 jennifer85396

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    I just wanted to let you ladies know its been 4 months and Im feeling better.  My anxiety has somewhat subsided.  Ive done daily meditation, prayer- literally the things that are worrying me i've written down and turned them over to God.  Reassured myself of His love and that He will take care of it and me, when the fear surfaces I remind myself Ive given it to God.

    Besides that iron supplements, Vitamin D, Super B complex and Ive pushed myself to do things.  Its not 100% but there is a light.

    God bless you all.

  • Love7797
    Love7797 jennifer85396

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    Blessings beautiful ladies..🙏💜👑

    my name is Love wise i found my husband deceased june 15th of this year😭😭😭😭😭

    we were married 18yrs i found him deceased 11days after our 18yr married anniversary 😭 and 2days before fathers day i been going through premenopausal i have not had my period in 10months😭 Hot flashes, stomach feeling empty, anxiety,panic attacks so on and so forth jesus help us all😭🙏💜

    • Love7797
      Love7797

      Posted

      Thank you bless your heart💜

      it's so hard😭 but i know that GOD will continue to give us strength 💜🙏👑

    • shay68419
      shay68419 Love7797

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      wow!! what a load to bare. I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I send continued blessings of peace and comfort your way. as for that bully of a beast that is lurking over your shoulders; just know that u are not alone. women are strong creatures. we endure a lot. we also overcome even more. the bulk of our strength lies in our mental and emotional thoughts. if u can control and conquerer unpleasant thought u win the battle of any unpleasant symptom that perimenopause/menopause can sling at you. easier said than done, yes but it can be done. yoga and meditation has helped me a lot. journaling also helps. find something that u enjoy doing and throw yourself into it whole heartedly. we are all here for u.

      lovehugsandkisses.

    • triciakitty
      triciakitty shay68419

      Posted

      I also keep a journal. It helps a lot! And when the anxiety or heart palpitations kick in, breathing exercises...in through the nose- out through the mouth helps.

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