I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

Oh lady! My heart breaks for you! what a terrible thing to happen! I send many hugs to you!

I've missed 4 periods this year...going on 5. I have a ton of the regular symptoms like you have plus some other ones...like things tasting weird. I get the heart palpitations, indigestion, gas, frequent urination, the panic attacks and anxiety that comes with awful thoughts, etc... It's quite a long list. Just know you aren't alone. Lots of wonderful ladies here to talk to. I sincerely hope the best for you!

OMG! I am 52 and had a hysterectomy 1.5 years ago. Its been getting worse and worse with moods. Throw in Covid19 with it all and having to live inside alot with two kids and my hubby, and quite the storm here. Anyone have sudden anger yelling attacks at the drop of a dime? I hate it since I know its not great for the family. I also have bad drops sudden in laziness/not caring attitude which isnt good since I run my own business. I can actually feel the my mood starting to turn for no reason and yet cant stop it. Walking outside used to help but not much anymore. I was put on a low dose antidepressant about 4 months ago since doc said it can help with hot flashes and mood but I dont notice much help. I fear I have years of this to come since I have read some women live in menopause for years. Ugh. Imagine men with this?! The world would have a much better cure by now. It sucks to get old.

Hi lovely ladies,

I keep seeing people posting on peri forums saying they have digestive issues but without specifying too much.

I have been having really odd bowel issues for the past 2-3 years (so maybe coinciding with peri). Every time my body is preparing for a bowel movement I start to feel really strange, like a hollow feeling, I begin to shake, sweat, have tachy and shortness of breath, I basically feel really bad, when I have been I still feel bad foe about half an hour approx and after that it settles.

Does anyone else get anything similar?

Hi,

I am suffering immensely and feel so helpless and the migraines chest pain and feeling sapped of life. The anxiety is crippling and i feel I need help. My male gyno told me it will be over in 5 years. I am 47 I need help now.

I am going to start with a hormone check and go from there. So thankful to have run into this thread, now I know I am not alone.

I am 49 and I know your struggle. It started a few years ago when my anxiety started getting worse, hot flashes, cold flashes (they are the worse), difficulty sleeping, acid reflux terrible, constipation then some days diarrhea, brain fog, UTI's, itchy skin, my symptoms get worse a few days before my period and worse while on my period, joint pain, depression. if there was a poster woman for perimenopause basically it would be a picture of me. I have gotten everything!!!!! You are not going crazy you are going through what a lot of us women are with perimenopause/ menopause. I also some days feel so helpless! It is crazy how a fluctuation in hormones can make you so miserable 😦.

Hi Jennifer

Do you also feel like your ribs are being squeezed... i cant tell if its my stomach or my back but it feels like a band of pain. I have been to the GP, GI, OBGYN... but no one can tell me whats wrong with me. IBS seems like catch all for my symptoms. I missed 3 periods last year and have not had one since Feb 2021...

I feel so stupid and alone because no one can understand what i am going thru .

Hi Jennifer,

I think I am currently going through the same thing. I have had erratic periods bleeding every 6-9 days for around 27 months now. It ruined my honeymoon bleeding 24/7 in blistering heat wearing a bloody pad!

Now 2 years and 5 months later I haven't bled for close to 7.5 weeks. I am not going to lie, this is BLISS!!! However, feel like I am outside my body? I feel totally weird. I woke up early hours of the morning and could not get my bearings, staggered to the toilet like I was drunk. This may be unrelated. I can only put this feeling down to anxiety? Its scary, disconcerting and I hate it!! Its as though I am waiting for something horrible to happen or I am going to stop breathing if I don't concentrate on it. I feel like I do not even have enough energy to breathe!!

I hope this feeling gets better soon, it has been around 5 days like this now, luckily I am on annual leave until Tuesday. I suffered from severe anxiety and depression many years ago but this feels different. I am glad I am not alone in this. Don't have my mum any more and as an only child am struggling.

Thank you for listening,

Claire x

This sounds like me. My "transition" coincided with my husband losing his job, me starting a business and then we went through two accidents, one of them was life threatening for my him. I also have anxiety, periods of depression and ocd. I assumed when this all started 8 years ago I was simply reacting to my very tense and every changing environment but now that things have calmed down a bit my anxiety has only gotten worse. After seeing three doctors and two therapists I have finally decided to ride out this hormone storm and see if it gets better. We have also now moved across the country during a pandemic to a place where I dont speak the language.

I did a little self talk yesterday and told myself its possible I am doing the very best I can do and that my hormones are in fact-the biggest challenge right now. I have gone on zoloft, I eat well, I take care of myself, but I need to be kinder to my mental self. Anxiety is a beast because we always seek control to self soothe but during this time our hormones are taking the steering wheel. For me-sometimes I can take a moment and tell myself its just my hormones but those moments are few.

You're not alone. Im practicing being kinder to myself. It might be the best way through. I can only hope it gets better.

Hi everyone!

I can totally relate to everything that's been written here. My "journey" started in October of last year when I ended up in the ER due to an anxiety attack. I can honestly say that I haven't been the same ever since. My doctor prescribed Sertraline which at least takes care of the anxiety. I have also had blood tests, complete physicals, and a clean bill of health from the cardiologist. So, I should know that I don't have some kind of terrible disease, because the doctors told me so. But I still experience these feelings of dread where I think that something must be terribly wrong with me. PMS has gotten worse and I still have my menses. My joints ache and I feel fatigued and exhausted. I have brain fog and sometimes can't put a sentence together, because I can't remember a word or two. Then there is the weight gain. Since last October I gained 30 pounds - which seem to be impossible to lose. I try to eat a sensible diet and exercise as much as possible. But some days even a regular walk kills my back. I am not myself anymore. I was never a complainer, was always strong and active. I still try to be that, but it's hard. I also work full-time which is so hard some days, because I just can't focus. And not to forget lack of sleep. I go through periods of time where I wake up at 3:00 AM every night and can't go back to sleep for the next 2 hours or so and having to get up at 7:00 AM and go to work.

It it so good to know that I am not alone. We are not alone. We have to take care of ourselves and each other and we will survive this!

same here going through so much intrusive thoughts with anxiety and depression. Just spoke to my gyno and she told me its normal. I have no idea menopause can take every inch of you. Day to day struggle and everday pray that it will go away.

I went through the same thing for over a year. It does get better. Hang in there

I am so pleased i just read this as i am going through this at the moment. I feel like there is something seriously wrong with me and it's affecting all aspects of my life. I am going to speak to my gp about it. I hope you are all feeling a bit better. Who would be a woman eh?

I know exactly how you feel and it is HELL! Mine has gotten a little better with taking Boron and progesterone. I also got on Celexa (spelling). Look into NAC and Milk Thistle for the OCD symtoms. It is horrible, but just know that you are NOT alone!