I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

I am the same way Andrea. Lost like 15 lbs. weak, tired. Had all thesgoe tests done like CT scan, colonoscopy, endo scopy, tons of blood tests cause I was worried I had cancer lymphoma. Dizzy and a lot of bowel issues. Hot flashes and night sweats too. Bad yheadaches and losing lots of jhair loss, fatigue. you name it. I've got it.

I can recommend sage for your hot flushes and night,sweats i buy the capsules from th health store and i don't get flushes any more i swear by them x

Losing weight is dreadful meeting people reminding you how dreadful it is makes my anxiety worse 😭

I rushed myself to ER cuz I thought I'm having a heart attack and also was had Ct scan . Everything's normal so chest pain comes from having gerd I guess which is a get from anxiety.

Hi Andrea, I'm just wondering how you are doing now? Did HRT help with your symptoms?

I read low estrogen will gaining weight but I feel I'm getting more sceletal everyday.

Gastritis is really worse together with palpitations.

That chronic tiredness & fatigue has to be one of the most debilitating symptoms I have ever experienced and continue to do so. More so when we are use to running about and having everything in order I find it really pulls me down. I started to decorate after xmas as I was in a roll for several months and now I'm at a standstill once again... Walls striped and everything waiting to be completed, I'm sick of looking at it but have no energy or enthusiasm to do it. Makes me very sad as its just not me 😔 its a continous nightmare! Xx

I hear you Trevis!

Same here, I have lost my motivation to do much and tha is so not me. I have always been active. We are in the middle of finishing up our remodeling of our home. We actually want to sell it and downsize. Perhaps move to warmer climate. It's like I can't focus enough to accomplish much these days, I'd rather nap. I'm pushing myself to go for daily walks as recommended by doctor, but it's hard.........so exhausted! I'm sad right with you and Andrea!   We need a boost!

Sending you hugs!

Annie xx

Hugs right back Annie 💓😔xx

I was thinking that there has to be a doctor (Gynocologist) who specializes in Perimenopause/Menopause/hormones.  There just has to be !  I think we need to search out doctors who truly understand what we are going through.  Their is an end to this eventually!!!

 

There are plenty out there if you can afford to go private!!! 😔xx

I find difficult to read some of the posts on this thread.

The menopause is a pain in the a..e but its not all doom and gloom.

If you go to the doctor they may offer hrt to help, which does work for some women. I think it is also worth trying or researching whether any diet changes and vitamins you can take to help yourself a bit. Others on this thread have also mentioned diets and vitamins is effective.

A long time ago a gp recommended that I take vitamin B to reduce serious symptoms of PMS which were making life very difficult. I have gone further and take a multivitamin for menopause which includes vitamin B. I know this works because if I stop for a while the crippling symptoms come back

So I want to say: please dont suffer needlessly, try to take steps to reduce the effects. I feel lucky that we live in a time when it is ok to talk aboutthe menopause and not just get laughed at.

There are even comediennes out there like Jenny Eclair who can even find the funny side.

This may seem impossible if you are feeling defeated, but please please don't think there is nothing you can do, if you want to there are effective treatments and other things to try.

I appreciated the information you posted, however, when someone has generalized anxiety and health anxiety for one, these symptoms are extremely hard to deal with.  When it takes over, is does feel like doom and gloom.  I think this site is for women who just don't want to feel alone in it.  Thank you for your suggestions, and most of us have tried them. But, it goes deeper when you have a disorder on top of the terrible sysmptoms.  Each women interprets and deals with it in her own way.

 

Hi ,think you were extremely lucky if just taking vitamins helped your PMS ,unfortunately I tried vitamins designed for PMS ,didn't help at all ,I do sometimes wonder if an individual takes something and thinks it can help ,they do actually feel better,placebo effect ,unfortunately this doesn't work for me , if it works ,it works ,if it doesn't ,it doesn't ! Am sure your advice will help others though ! Best wishes 

Hi Gillmm,

It's funny but when I read these posts I don't see gloom and doom here. I see a lot of people giving Jennifer suggestions, including myself on what may or may not work to better navigate through, however temporary her transition might be. 

No one is suggesting for her to suffer needlessly, quite the opposite. What works for one, may not for another. The great thing about this site is that there are so many great women who are at different phases of peri/menopause, who if nothing else, give comfort in the form of simply writing words of support and/or ideas of avenues to explore on how to get through this time as smoothly as possible.

Some fly right through this time and others legitimately have a devil of a time getting through it. I am grateful for the ladies on here, I've learned quite a bit in the short time I've been involved here.

I may have misinteruppted your message, just not sure really what doom and gloom you mean. It eventually does get better, no doubt. 

Annie xx

Hi Annieschaefer, I couldn't have put it better myself.  Respectively to Gillmm, this is not the site for people to critique other peoples expressions of what they are going through.  This is a site for women to let it all hang out, talk about whatever they want and get comfort and support from other women.  I think some people should be careful not to make other women feel inferior or as if they are over reacting.  So with that said, lets continue to mone and complain as much as we want, and of course give help and suggestions in the process...God Bless

 

Yes me too. Depressed & moody too.

So so so true Jennifer. 

All of mine started when my dad had a stroke in my car 5 months ago. I was already having "some" symtoms of peri but not enough to really notice or freak out about them. 

Him having the stroke in my car changed everything and I started getting health anxiety. Now, all it takes is one of those "vice pressure" headaches before my period and I go into full blown panic mode. Immediately think my heart if is failing or something is horribly wrong. The three times that the anxiety has been unbearable, I ended up popping one of my moms xanax (and I'm a super "against pharma type person...that's how bad it was) they worked. Made me realize, xanax doesn't stop a heart attack or a stroke...so obviously it's the anxiety. 

But when my mom or my son (both of which have suffered their whole lives w/anxiety) try to "talk" me down, I look at them like they're nuts. It is amazing and shocking to me that health anxiety can literally CAUSE you the same symptoms that you're scared of. It's nuts, but it's really really hard. :-(

Thank you for sharing this! It makes me feel not so crazy, that the anxiety of these peri symptoms just takes it to another level! The racing heart, headaches, pain, tingling, twitching in my face. These are just a few, but i basically think each day, is this gonna be it, the day i just drop?? Thanks again!!