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I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

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jennifer85396
jennifer85396

I am 48 years old, stay at home mom with two children.  They are in school, I try to keep myself very busy.  I have had OCD and anxiety, I have been fighting it for years. But, now the Perimenopause is really terrible..depressed, mood swings, tension headaches, dry and itchy skin.

I have spoken to my sisters who are all past Menopause, they tell me their stories but I just cannot believe that hormones can cause all this havock.  I do not feel myself at all, my PMS is worse and the week of my period I actually feel like I have a disease and I am dying.  Feel like I am going crazy!! Please tell me if this is normal to feel this way at this time, because I am obsessing and cannot get my mind off of it.  Need Help!!!!

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  • BellaRubia
    BellaRubia jennifer85396

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    Hi, Jannifer, be positive, it will end.  At least you have sisters that can tell you about their experiences.  Mine, never had any of those weird symptoms, only hot flashes!  I had it all, but One thing I am luck about, I never had depression :D. Besides, my worst symptoms took like 4 months.  Of course, I still have this and that, sometimes, but much less agressive.  Anyway, now I know what is all I feel about, and do not get afraid anymore.  Just try and be calm, take good care of your health, and belive it wont endure forever.  Big hugs.
  • Tracky
    Tracky jennifer85396

    Posted

    It's horrible but quite normal and trying to believe that hormones can make you itch is sometimes too hard to believe but they can. You're doing the right thing by trying to keep yourself busy and I'm sure with 2 children they can help keep your mind occupied.
  • gillmm
    gillmm jennifer85396

    Posted

    It may be normal but there are things you can try.

    Get some multivitamins from the chemist or supermarket which are designed for menopause. Take them for at least a month. They really work. Vit B for anxiety in particular but the combination in these multivitamins is probably even better.

    Try to get hold of hilarious book Grumpy Old Menopause for a very helpful summary of menopause symptoms and many positive things you can do.

    Hope you feel better soon!

  • lisa215
    lisa215 jennifer85396

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    I know how you feel, I feel just dreadful too.  My last 'proper period' was 7 weeks ago and at the moment Ive had 6 days of on/off brown spotting which is not heavy and not all the time but my body is telling me that I need to have a period if that makes any sense at all. I havent felt myself for months, ive scheduled yet another appointment with my dr for next week but Im not hopeful to be honest because my last consultation was a joke.  I left the surgery feeling like a time waster after being told to deal with it and live my life rather than wasting it on self pity and worry! My dr refuses to believe im in peri because my last FSH was normal even though my previous one was high.  My cycle over the last 12 months has ranged from 16 days to 68 days between periods and the bleeding has been lighter and sometimes just 2 days of brown discharge, im gaining weigh, my skins is dry and dull and looks awful, my hair is thinner, im feeling faint and dizzy most days, my moods and anxiety are terrible my dr still says thats im not peri, he says its anxiety and that my periods arent irregular at all.  Im at a loss, work is a constnt struggle because im so tired and unsteady on my feet.  Theres no real understanding about how real women feel and its wrong.  I empathise with you completely. Big hugs x
    • leticia15716
      leticia15716 lisa215

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      Lisa,,,just wanted to tell you, your not alone i am just like you...and I get upset that my Dr.s for 10 yeras keep saying is anxiety...they say that cause they don't know the answer but I am like you ...I get sick and feel very awful during my cycle even thought i dont have a cycle no more.  hope we all find a remedy for this cause it is awful, i hate being around ppl i call them weaves when i know i am getting sick ..so I run to my bad and sweat and that s the only thing makes me feel better.  But that is not the way to live.  hugs and we pray for the best in us all with this sicknes. 

    • maria____a64048
      maria____a64048 leticia15716

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      Hi everyone, I am new to this website. I have been experiencing depression, anxiety, panic attacks, insomnia and feelings of doom since June of this year. I suspected it could be menopause. I went to my gyn doctor when I couldn't cope with it anymore.

      I told my doctor all of the symptoms I was experiencing. I said I believe it is menopause. He told me I can't be, because I am only 46. He told me maybe I need to see a psychiatrist. I convinced him to do a blood test. He was shocked when the results came back. I was indeed in menopause.

      He gave me a prescription for estradiol hormone pills. It took care of my hot flashes

      And night sweats. It has done nothing for my depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and feelings of doom. I started taking magnesium supplements. It seems to calm me down sometimes. It helps me sleep a little better. Most days I feel like I am losing my mind, or that I am fading away. Does anyone here have advice about natural remedies for theses awful symptoms.

    • debbie83588
      debbie83588 lisa215

      Posted

      Me too,you just described me,work is,the worst thing its killing me x
    • colleen90305
      colleen90305 maria____a64048

      Posted

      Some of these doctors anger me. Is the doctor your talking about a OB/Gyn?,let me guess, its a HE?!?!
    • Snatchpiece
      Snatchpiece maria____a64048

      Posted

      Hi Maria,

      When you were prescribed the estradiol hormone tablets were you given any progesterone? As I believe this will be what would truly help balance things out for you. Loads of hugs Joy

    • maria____a64048
      maria____a64048 colleen90305

      Posted

      My doctor was a male, now I have a female gyn. She is better, but she is younger than me. I think she can not fully relate to me. I am going to have to get gyn doctor who has been through menopause already.
    • Snatchpiece
      Snatchpiece maria____a64048

      Posted

      I truly think that you would benefit from both Estrogen and progesterone, I use estrodot and Utrogestan ( progesterone) which are both the most natural to what our bodies make! My anxiety certainly improved as progesterone is a calming hormone!  I feel so much better using both of these and they can be flexible because they are separate.xx
    • tonia_2003
      tonia_2003 Snatchpiece

      Posted

      Snatchpiece, what are all of the symptoms you were having and what kind of test did you take? Was it blood test or saliva or urine? My progesterone is low days 20-26 of my cycle, but I think my estrogen is too high, because the test results showed it overly high, but the doctor said I must have used some kind of face cream and made it mess the test up. I've been diagnosed in the past with estrogen dominance. My anxiety is so bad I can't function. I already have an anxiety disorder since my 20's. I've been diagnosed with PCOS also in the past.

    • Snatchpiece
      Snatchpiece tonia_2003

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      When I was diagnosed with PCOS which was found when I vagial scan was done and at the same time I was told that my estrogen was very high also. 

      My main peri symptom is health anxiety and tummy issues! My doctor went on what I told her and with this she offered me HRT but since then I have done my own research and generally go armed with what I have read in being the best and certainly the most natural. Good luck with what you decide to do , I was also offered anti despresants which I chose to decline as my anxiety only has happened in recent years! Xx

    • Bellaboo1
      Bellaboo1 Snatchpiece

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      Hi, I have just been reading the woes of many women going through peri and came across your post which says you have tummy troubles. What sort of troubles do you have. I feel like my stomach is going to kill me off. I have acid burning stomach pains, the acid feels like it's coming from the right side and shooting into my tum. I also have bruised feeling at top of stomach, constipation/diahorrea, nausea, a lot of saliva to name a few things. It's really worrying me which is making me more anxious which makes my tummy worse. I know I'm in peri and I am going to pick up a script today from Asda of estrogel and low dose progesterone as I almost demanded them from doc. They have been sending me off with different  anti depressants for 6 months which made my anxiety worse so refused to take them. Sorry for the long message but I am seriously feeling my life is over in more ways than one. I am going to post a similar message to see what I get back from others too. I hope you have found some help now as I see your post was 5 months ago xx

    • deirdre01438
      deirdre01438 Bellaboo1

      Posted

      Hi Bellaboo, just wondering how you are doing now? Did you start hrt?
    • Bellaboo1
      Bellaboo1 deirdre01438

      Posted

      Hi Deirdre 

      Thanks for thinking about me. I've had a really crappy time the past few months with my stomach and peeing blood. I had a bladder biopsy last month which found nothing serious but a CT scan I had 2 weeks ago showed a thickening of my bladder lining. They are going to keep an eye on it but I've come to the conclusion that it's low oestrogen that's causing the peeing blood and bad infections at period time, my urologist agrees. I have skipped a period this month and haven't peed blood, this might be because I've intermittently been using the HRT gel/tabs. To be honest I'm scared to use them regularly, I think because I've felt so ill this year I've got it in my head the HRT will give me a blood clot or something 😐.  I still have to go for endoscopy on the 7th sept, my CT scan showed nothing unusual for my stomach/bowels but I still have pain, constipation, burning stomach unless I take 2 omeprazole every day. I've managed at the moment to get my anxiety under control but that's because I think I have my stomach pain under control better. I really want to try the HRT properly as all this seemed to start at the same time so it could all be peri. I've also started with a strange burning vagina feeling lately too. So many things going on at once, but above all of it the thing I want more than anything is my hair to come back. 

      Sorry for the novel..

      How are you getting on? 

      Bellaboo xx

    • FemaleBrain
      FemaleBrain maria____a64048

      Posted

      Hi Maria, I have alot of these symptoms, but the one that frightens me the most is the weird feeling that I am going to lose my mind. Some days I feel like my mind is going to become completely unhinged and that after being found running around naked in a park, I will be escorted to the nearest psych ward and locked up until further notice. It's horrid.

      I have found that Bachs Flower essences help. Mimulus has helped me with the irrational fear and feelings of impending doom, while Gorse has helped with he depression. I am also on Prempro.

      Essential oils help a little bit as well. Clary sage helps with night sweats and lavender calms me down.

      Good luck and hang in there, at least we know that we are not alone in this struggle.

    • LCat
      LCat Snatchpiece

      Posted

      Hi Snatchpiece, 

      I believe you were smart to turn down the antipressants.

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