I don't know what to do.
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Hi everyone
Has a phone call from my dads sister yesterday. My dad has been rushed into hospital. He may not make it. In the state I am in I am not going to be able to go and see him either. He lives the other end of the country. I am really worried that if he doesn't make it I won't get the chance to see him before anything happenes or make the funeral if I do loose him.
Would it be worth me phoning my surgeons secretary and explain the situation?
I am not even sure if they got me in quick got my hip done ( Even if that would be possible ) my dad would still be alive by the time they discharged me.
I don't know what to do.
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Swindon60 Hailea
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Have you got someone close you can talk to ? Or maybe gp or for sure ask surgeon .
Thinking of you
Denise
Hailea Swindon60
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I have had the left side done I am 6 months post op with that side. Been waiting to have the right side done. That side has collapsed and I am in 24 hour pain nothing is helping any more.I have been canckled on 14th September was told won't get the chance again for at least 3 weeks ( That was a week ago. Saw my GP yesterday all she can do is write to them and tell them what they already know. That I am in pain and suffering. I don't see anyone from one day to another except other 1/2 and son. It hurts too much to even move now so going out and seeing friends is not an option any more.
Jodi-France Hailea
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Since you already had one THR you knoe that it is not likely you will be able tp travel, even for an emergency, for several weeks.
Can you at least have someone by your dad Skype or Facetime you so you can see him with your own eyes? The Hospital should have a social worker, reach out to a social worker at the hospital and ask for help with either Skype or Facetime.
I hope your dad pulls through
Guest Hailea
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I can't tell ou what to do love, you have to do what you feel is right in your heart. I don't know what else to tell you just send you a great big hug (((((((hugs))))). Keep in touch and if I can help I will Love Gill xxxx
Hailea Guest
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Thank you I am 8 hours away from where my dad lives even by train and I would have to change trains 3 times if I went by train so i that isn't an option. My pets are not a problem. I would take them with me. We have a van with kennels welded inside so they all thave there safe beds to lay in including the cats.I have never left my pets at home even for family weddings they all go with me. But traveling in my condition isn't an option. My right hip is now loose and when I sit doen the top of the femur pokes out under the skin at the top of my thigh.
louise2602 Hailea
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Hailea louise2602
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louise2602 Hailea
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Hailea louise2602
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I wasn't given a new date because the ward got a bug and had to be closed down for deep clean. I was told a week ago it could be 3 weeks before they will try and get me in again. I won't be able to go and see my ded or go to the funeral in the state I am in. My femur is now floating round the top of my thigh becuse the join collapesed a couplke of weeks after having the left one done. I am on so many oppain killers I am suprised I can even function normally. But things are so bad now that even those are not doing anything for the pain.
I can't phone my dad. He can't even talk even if he wanted too he is that ill.
rose0000 Hailea
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The surgeon's secretary does not need to know for the moment, unless your operation is in the next few days, wait and see what happens.
So sorry this is all happneing to you at once. Please call a friend or a relative to come with you, at least to drive, you sound very paniced which is natural, but you must have someone with you if it is possible.
All the best.
derek54514 Hailea
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I am so sorry to hear of your problems. It doesn't sound practical for you to go and see your dad, as you could do even more damage to your hip. It is bad enough as it is. How about writing him a letter, you can explain everything to him and asking your aunt to read it out to him? I know it is not the same as actually being there but I am sure he will inderstand your difficulties. Or could your son go and see is grandfather to represent you? Hope you get your operation done soon. A big hug from a friend.
Hazel (Derek's wife) XX
Kristin53 Hailea
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What A dilema. my heart goes out to you.
Only you know what you can and cannot do, it maybe worth trying to see if you can get thecop speeded up just in case but it may be a while before you could travel such a distance anyway.
There is skype, can somone set up a skype call for you so you can at least see each other?
I don't know what else to suggest hun. My prayers are with you.
hug x
Swindon60 Hailea
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Poor you Hailea warm hugs from your hippie friends
Denise
renee01952 Hailea
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I am so incredibly sorry to hear this dilemma you are in and not sure what to say ...
You are in agonizing pain, physically and emotionally and not really able to make a decision right now -
In all honesty, you are not able to be in a car for 8 hours (and back) - getting yourself out of bed is challenging fo you ... This is not to put you down, dear Hailea, but this is a tough decision you might have to make and that is: accept that you might not see your father before his passing -
I don't know if you believe in a higher power or something, but in these times, the only thing one can do is to have faith and surrender ..
Be still and go within - you know what to do ...
blessings and love
renee
karen42569 renee01952
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ali2301 renee01952
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Its ts such a difficult position to be in 😞