I don't know what to do.

Dear Hailea,

could you keep in touch by phone, e-mails, skype etc.? You cannot travel in the state you are in, Try to think in a different way; would you want one of your children to visit you if they were in pain, unable to sit down, waiting for a major operation?

I'll be thinking of you, best wishes.

Ella xx

 

So sorry for you hailea, don't have your hip done yet (have you had it done?) you don't need to another trauma, sometimes these things are out of our hands and all we can do is pray. Try to find others to visit him if you can't.

Veronica

Skype sounds a good idea to me....

If you could cope the ideal solution would be for someone to drive you to your dad and then worry about the op later. However you are in such a condition that I do not think that that is possible. Skype does sound a good idea if at all possible, not the same as a physical hug but at least you would see each other. He knows how bad you are so would not want you to risk your condition becoming any more serious, no father would. Desperately sad but only you can decide xx

Hailea,

My heart goes out to you. I agree with Renee and a few others that travel before or soon after surgery is dangerous for you. The enormous pain and the fact that your femur is floating around I wouldn't chance it. Skype or being with your dad in spirit is really the only option I can see, given your condition.

My prayers go out to you as I can imagine your heart is breaking. Hugs and warm thoughts.

My dear Hailea,

What an awful position to be in. I really don't think travel is an option for you right now. Has your father been given a prognosis? I would imagine the doctors will have some idea how long he is looking at. They are pretty good in that respect. If you are looking at a short amount of time, then FaceTime or Skype is your only option. I know if it was one of my kids, I would not want them to risk themselves to get to me. 

The he love you have with your father knows no distance, and he will remember, as will you, every hug and every time you told each other you loved one another. That goes without saying. Every time I kiss or hug my kids and say goodbye, I know it could be the last time, as who knows what could happen so in effect, I would feel that my children had said goodbye and me to them as waking up each morning is not guaranteed and in those situations if is not possible to say goodbye. 

If the docs say your dad has possibly a good few weeks then it might be worth trying to get your surgery as an emergency as whilst travel at a few weeks post op isn't ideal but it isn't impossible.

Only you know what you should do Hailea but I am sure of one thing, your father would not want you to place yourself in harms way to get to him. A parents job is to protect our children.  He carries the love for you in his heart and nothing can take that away, not even death.

Sending lots of love and hugs to you.

Ali xx

 

My thoughts are with you Hailea,

You have endured so much and your poor Dad being so ill will impact on all of you, as Ali had said, you are not fit to travel as much as you want to be by his side.

Sending you hugs and love,

Dot xx

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Regards,

Alan