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Hailea
Hailea

Hi everyone

Has a phone call from my dads sister yesterday. My dad has been rushed into hospital. He may not make it. In the state I am in I am not going to be able to go and see him either. He lives the other end of the country. I am really worried that if he doesn't make it I won't get the chance to see him before anything happenes or make the funeral if I do loose him.

Would it be worth me phoning my surgeons secretary and explain the situation?

I am not even sure  if they got me in quick got my hip done ( Even if that would be possible ) my dad would still be alive by the time they discharged me.

I don't know what to do. sad

 

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  • Tutuye
    Tutuye Hailea

    Posted

    Dear hailea

    I am so sorry about your Dad but in my opinion U can't do means you can't do my dear I have 2 situation I have been through

    1. I had disable best frined and after my op she wanted to visit me but My apartment has no elevator I live on second floor that she can't climbed then she passed suddenly I felt bad but there is no way

    2. The worest happened my Dad had car accident terouble accident I didn't visit him fortunatly he made it

    My dear If you can't pleas just pray who knows .

    May God be with you dear .🙏🙏🙏

  • karen42569
    karen42569 Hailea

    Posted

    What happend? Was there a spammer on here? This is no place..

    Best of everything, Hailea.

  • donna4363
    donna4363 Hailea

    Posted

    So sorry to hear Hailea, I had canceled 2 times for TKR due to my mother in law had stage 4 lung cancer, I couldn't bring myself to go through that plus takeing care of her, & watching my husband see the 2 most important woman in his life going through all heck, so my surgeon & assistants agreed with me all the way, that was for the knees mind you, but I would say if your pain is so severe that you can't walk, as I was on a rolleter I stayed with the pain & in time when mom passed I got everything done in the next 2 months, I felt better being with the family during the worst of times, & when my time came I held no regrets,  Wish you & yours Blessings
  • laura85375
    laura85375 Hailea

    Posted

    Oh Hailea, I'm so sorry to hear that you still haven't had your op and now you are faced with this problem wth your Dad.  It's such a personal decision isn't it?  Sometimes you have to accept what is and make the best of it.  It sounds like going there in body is simply not an option for the force able future so all you can do is communicate with your Dad in whatever way you can.  If you could FaceTime or Skype, as has been suggested, he may not be able to communicate with you but he could hear you.  Alternatively you could write personal and heartfelt messages in a card or letter that someone  could read to him and he could keep close.  It's not the same as a hug but you can send your love in many ways.  

    You have to look after yourself and prepare to live the rest of your life in a way that your Dad would want for you.  

    Do you remember someone on here writing a formal letter of complaint to the hospital regarding her delays? She was telephoned by the hospital chef and they got her in within days and then couldn't do enough for her.  

    Sending love and healing thoughts 

    Laura 

  • Tutuye
    Tutuye Hailea

    Posted

    Dear Hailea

    How u doing my dear how is your Dad ?

    Best wishes

    Big love

    😍😍😍

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