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I feel like I've met the devil

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nicole32210
nicole32210

After joining a new gym, I met someone there during the first week. He is a personal trainer. We hit it off perfectly. I thought to myself I had met the man I want to marry. We both have similar interests and he seemed like a decent man.

As I got to know him I saw that he had a different life. His dad was an abusive alcoholic and drug lord. He himself was married then got divorced after 8 years and dated women but those relationships didn't last. I'm 12 years younger than him and so naive and gullible that it angers me.

So as I'm dating him I start to see a different side to him ... he's not who he pretends to be. Turns out he too is a drug dealer and has a dangerous life.

He's forced me to take drugs - and I mean he will not stop going on with me until I take it.

I moved in with him before I knew all of this. Which is against the way I was raised - marriage comes first. I am still a student. I left my promotional job as well as English tutoring because he said it would be wise to work in an industry that I am studying for and that he will help me find a job cause he knows people in the industry - I still don't have a job.

I guess I just needed to vent because I feel like I've lost my soul being with him. I feel so embarrassed to tell my friends and family. I'm ashamed of myself.

This past weekend (well Wednesday night until Saturday) he forced me to do drugs with him because he thought I was cheating on him and having me high would get me to tell the truth.. I'm not cheating on him ...

Which is why I feel like I'm in a dark space. How did I end up here? I got fooled so badly by this man ... He fools the world. He works as a personal trainer and trains lawyers and all innocent and good people and none of them see who he is.

Never in my life did I dream of ever being here.

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  • dave87834
    dave87834 nicole32210

    Posted

    This guy sounds like a pimp & he sounds dangerous.  If you wanted to get away you would need to meticulously plan it, leave no evidence behind & never let him know where you are going.  (There are shelters that help with this kind of thing.)  My advice is to get out, get out, get out.  Abusers are good liars.  This isn't as rare as you might think.  But be careful if you take this advice.  And don't take it if you think it would put you in more danger.  I'm so sorry you are having to experience this.

    • nicole32210
      nicole32210 dave87834

      Posted

      Hi Dave, 

      Thank you for your comment! I really appreciate it. I’m actually happy to say that I’ve managed to break free of him. It ended a few months ago and it was very difficult to get away from him, but the worst is over! 

    • dave87834
      dave87834 nicole32210

      Posted

      That alone  is a miracle,  Thank God,  Good luck to you and don’t be afraid to reach out again if you need help. God bless.
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