i feel like im dying

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how can peri make me feel this sick

it started jan 2016 but past 3 months have beem horrible. i wake up at 5am feeling so sick. i am beyond tired everyday all day ( prob cause i dont sleep much ) and my body doesnt feel good. i feel like i am slowly dying and even tho all my tests come back normal ( and i havr had a lot ) that they are missing something thats gonna kill me. my constant upset stomach/trapped air burping/ feeling unsteady when i walk is the worst one, amxiety, feel like i have ongoing flu.

please ease my mind and tell me im not alone. this seriously needs to stop. its putting me into depression

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    Hi Kim your not alone and you are not slowing dying of anything. Try to ease your mind by reminding yourself that all test were clear. Its all hormones. They throw us through the ringer for sure! You will feel better soon. I promise! I still have rough days but they are easier to get through when I say oh its hormones again. Please try and take it easy and rest as much as possible. Im praying for you! Take care Kim
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      Hi Becky, I'm exactly the same don't feel right and when I wake up you don't feel you either people say it will get better and that's my only hope..I'm glad you are feeling better it's so hard 

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    You definitely are not alone. I have had every test you can think of as well and feel the same as you. Tired from insomnia, horrible gas, racing heart, anxiety, one minute I'm freezing with chills and the next I'm hot, dry itchy skin, you name it, I've felt it, weird head pressure, horrible dreams and feelings of dread, just all kinds of stuff. But be reassured you really are ok. Hormones effect every part of our body and it's normal. You really will be ok.

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      Thank you for your testimony! I am 67 and started these symptoms in April after my doctor and I determined that it was not a good idea to still be on HRT at my age. I have been hit hard!! I feel sick all the time. I have that same weird head pressure. My primary care doc set me up with an ENT to determine if my head had something to do with my nasal sinuses. I had to cancel and I now realize it has nothing to do with my sinuses! My head hurts all the way down through my neck! Strange taste in my mouth and don't know from one day to the next what symptoms I will have when i wake up. On bad days, my whole body hurts. I have to force myself to move then I do feel better after awhile. I so hate that this happening!!!

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      I have these symptoms and more and still have periods, but I hold hope and I truly believe what we eat/consume has a lot to do with it and also our need to look after our own mental health during this process. Its not easy, I hope you have support around you

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      As always, life is full of complexities, and there's never a "right time" to do menopause.

      My husband and I work very closely in our jobs ,and so we can navigate times when I need to flop, however , sometimes we are called to try and carry on because of who we are in our jobs. Looking forward to a couple of days off over Christmas.

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      Hi, i just read your post and i feel exactly the same way. Its Feb 5 now and on April 15 it will be my one full year without a period. Im 55; will be 56 in August. I feel nauseous rather flu-like, have the anxiety especially health anxiety, muscular aches and pains, digestive issues, and the weirdest bladder symptoms ever. I dont think its IC but i get this pressure but very little urine. Ive been told by my male gynecologist that i dont have vaginal atrophy. I am going to get a second opinion from another doctor in the practice. My prayers are with all of us. I didnt realize men caused this. My mom never mentioned it. I have never had children but if i had id try to give them a heads up. Going through meno is awful!

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      I am there with you. I feel such dread, especially in the morning. I ache all over as well and have had so many stomach issues. I'm not sure if i caused them myself with the constant worry. I just went to my gyno yesterday and she wanted be to take anxiety medicine for at least one month to see if it works, instead of putting me of HRT. I also have developed a health anxiety. I feel for you, because I am feeling the same way. I hope things get better for all of us. I'm here for you if you need to talk

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      Hi Viola, I was afraid this thread was dead since the last entry was 6 weeks ago but still wanted to give it a shot. My worst symptom is health anxiety. Unfortunately i noticed changes in my body and went on line to look for answers. I saw the most horrific things. I have this weird bladder pressure but i dont think its Interstatial Cystitis because i dont have any pain, thank God! I am hoping its vaginal atrophy or stress b ecause i can deal with that a lot easier because it is reversible. I dont want to use HRT. I dont want to use anti depressants either. Eventually you have to come off both. I think my bladder and digestive issues are the biggest problem causing my health anxiety. I have had numerous blood work done and for the most part they are normal. My alkaline phosphatase is elevated as well as my sed rate. The doctors didnt have an answer as to why so thats what got me googling which led to my health anxiety. I have a rheumatologist appointment next Friday even though thankfully autoimmune disease has been ruled out. I would love to talk with anyone about menopause. Although i hate that other women are suffering, at least i know im not imagining these issues. I wish you well with everything and hope these symptoms will be a thing of the past for all of us. Thank you again for responding!😊

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      I wish you the best too, let me know if you need to talk. i've had numerous tests done as well, but I still get all these aches and pains, which lead me to think the worse. I believe in GOD, so I put all my faith in him. I did need to start taking medication, but I don't want to be on it. Don't google it will stress you more out, everything leads to cancer or that your dying, easier said than done. I hope this passes because it does totally drain the life out of you.

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      I was also so relieved to find this site and posts as have been experiencing the same symptoms, anxiety about health, aching joints, feeling sick in the morning, just found I have polyps, which has given some reassurance regarding irregular bleeding. It just feels like its never going to end! Always seems to be one thing after the other, water infections a few months back were awful...I also fall into the trap of googling..

      I am 54 and don't want to go onto HRT hoping things will start to ease now I have gone for a year without a period, wishful thinking! sending lots of hugs to you all feeling the same way xx

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      I am a believer in God/Jesus as well and He is my Saviour! I have my faith and i know i would be in so much worse shape without Him in my life and have done plenty of praying. I think in part He is what led me to the menopause boards!πŸ’•πŸ’“πŸ’•. I am a member of other menopausal chatrooms too. What i cannot understand is why i havent met anyone that i come into daily life with that has had these horrifying symptoms? My doctors think i blow everything out of proportion. Maybe I do but i still should be heard by them even if im wrong about my health.

      There is no shame in taking medications when you need them. I tried Cymbalta but again i googled as was terrified at some of the reviews. My doctors think stress/anxiety are causing my symptoms. Not sure if i mentioned it earlier but one of my worse symptoms is the bladder pressure. Everything gynecological has changed, it feels different. My doctors tell me everything is fine as i have had normal CT scans and normal gyn ultrasounds. It feels as im constantly running to the bathroom even at home and not much comes out. I apologize for the TMI. I also have my digestive woes like you so you are definitely not alone.

      You are absolutely right about googling. Half of what i see is so inaccurate. For example i google "urination problems in your fifties" or something like that and guess popped up? I have prostate problems...lol!πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ Um, i dont think so. My fault though i guess i should have googled "urinary problems in menopause" .

      Yes id love to talk to anyone about this. Its awful and i dont know if things are going to magically settle down after im post menopause. I dont have too much longer, God willing!πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™ April 15, 2020 will hopefully be my new day! Im looking forward to it!

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      Hi Sian, i also had endometrial polyps. I had a biopsy and it wasnt bad at all. My gynecologist did it the same time as he did my pap. The best news us it came back benign. When i had a TVUS done they said my lining was thick. I have another appointment in March with another doctor in the same practice and will ask her about my lining and if everything is ok now.

      i have horrible muscle aches as well at times. Maybe because of declining estrogen. I dont want to take HRT either. I am about 2 months shy of my menoversary and i dont want anything to interfere with that. If i start bleeding again, please God no, i dont want to have to guess uf its the HRT or if im still in perimenopause and not menopausal yet.

      Take care! Ill be around the boards. Im not happy for anyones suffering but happy to have met you awesome ladies who have validated exactly what I experience.

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      Hi Sherrici I'm so sorry that you are going through this also, no you are definately not imaging these symptoms. It can drive you to the edge especially if you are googling. I would advise you to stop, I did it so much that I had severe health anxiety. Right now my biggest symptom is my bladder. Uggh.. it is really getting to me. Im having bladder pressure too along with frequent urination and irritation in the urethra area. I've had interstitial in the past, but its been way over 20 years since I've had a flare. I don't get any pain either with this, and before I never got pain with IC . But even then , I think it was triggered to my hormones. I was having hormonal issues then. Are you having any other symptom besides the pressure in bladder?

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      Hi Mary,

      Don't worry about your bladder it will go away eventually. i had that for a few years and the more i was stressing about it the worst the discomfort got!

      and one day was gone..For me the anxiety is the worst! im worrying about everything, kids, my health !!

      i given up i dont think ever will get back to normal..its been 10 years for me!

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      Thanks for that Sherricl I also had one polyp removed there and then just waiting for another one to be removed and hoping all is well with test results . You sound so like me I thought my lining would also be thickening, I am hoping that I will get some guidance after the tests are back. Thinking of you too! xx

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      Hi Mary, sorry youre going through this as well😟 I do have other symptoms like digestive issues, sore breasts, joint issues, itching under my skin, and constipation too. Most of my bloodwork came back fine except for my Alkaline Phosphatase level that they do as a routine bloodwork. My Alp levels came back elevated for the first time ever at 128. Its only supposed to be 39-115. My alp levels were normal back in May, 2019. When i had bloodwork again in August, 2019 i found out it was elevated. Its supposed to be a bone/liver blood marker. I apparently have fatty liver but ALP levels arent singularly raised. My sed rate was also high over 120. Should not be any higher than 30. Doctors didnt have a clue so i googled and next thing i had all these weird, crazy diseases.😳. My doctors say they fodt worry about my levels unless it was 3 times higher. Well i dont want my levels any higher. I am supposed to see a rheumatologist on Feb 14. Thank God autoimmune diseases have been ruled out. So i was googling pretty much what causes elevated sed rate and alp rates. Youre right: googling is dangerous!

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      Hi Sian: Im sending good, healing thoughts and prayers your way! I think the polyp made my lining look thicker than it was. I had this done back in November. Im going to talk to the menopause expert at the doctors office about it.

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      Hi Sherriel - I had the same bladder pressure issue. I was just about ready to start to take medication then I got my period and that was the end of it. It happened twice. The doctors had no idea what the problem was. I also just underwent several tests for digestive issues. I'm home tonight, when I should be out, because one minute I feel nauseous then I feel like I need eat but then end up running to the bathroom. It just makes me want to stay home and not have a life.

      I tell my doctors I think the anxiety and digestive issues are hormone related but they look at me like I'm crazy. I'm looking for a new doctor who is female and post menopausal that has a clue what this stage is all about.

      Before you go through menopause you just expect to have hot flashes and the other standard side effects. No one told me about the weird anxiety, vertigo and digestive issues. Strangely I don't have hot flashes yet but I'm sure they are around the corner.

      I hope you feel better but at least you know you aren't alone. Hopefully in a few years we will feel back to a new normal.

      Marina

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      i have been turning to God also. i have not had a period in three months and since december ive had a feeling of inflamation and pain on my right flank. then it moves to the front and i feel pressure and aching. when i do deep breathing to try and relieve the anxiety it causes I feel a heaviness in my chest. at times i will feel the ache in my left side.

      i too get muscle tremors around my body, hot flashes and twitches or zapping feeling or skin crawling and the bloating and vaginal flatulence at times. i also gained a bunch of new food allergies and intolerances because it caused my immunity to go down. i have tried exercise. I am taking a natural supplement for perimenopause but don't know if it's helping. i also take a variety of supplements- calcium, b, d, probiotic, etc and my husband is thinking i'm a hypochondriac! the rib or flank pain is scary for me. has anyone else felt this and any relief or diagnosis? ty

      Hang in there ladies. prayers and support.

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      yes! All the above symptoms I can relate to. I get rib pain, ache in my left side, always the left for me, really painful at times then goes...I put it down to trapped gas, which at first I didn't believe as it was so sore, I thought it must be something more serious, but its been going on for so long now and I have had various tests...I have had polyps, but they said that shouldn't cause the pain, they were detected when I started bleeding slightly after not having a period for over a year. Stretching and walking seems to help. so sick of the bloating, sickness and flatulence! I have been taking extra menopause supplements, I think they may be helping a bit. Allergies are also annoying, coffee and oats for me and now I crave a cappuccino and porridge!! Hoping it ends soon..sending you lots of hugs xx

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      Hi Sherricl & Ukkiwibird (and all you lovely ladies out there)!!!

      Sherri, as I was reading your post, I had to stop and look up it was not one I wrote. As crappy as it is, it sure is comforting knowing we are not alone in this! I just turned 53 and have been post-menopausal for almost 2 years.

      My doctor thinks I am a hypochondriac (and lately I would have to agree). I have always feared death but in the past year it's been terrible. Every ache, pain I swear to God I am Googling convinces I have cancer or something and dying! It's consuming my life as it's all I think about. Is this a normal thing with this (post-menopause)?

      Hot flashes come and go. Don't really bother me but do any of you ladies have this awful nausea? I will be fine for a few weeks and out of the blue I feel like I have a knot in my upper stomach and feel like throwing up. NO APPETITE either. Then it will go away and come back. Is this normal or am I just losing my mind cuz it sure feels like it!

      Anybody?

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      Hi, I've developed this anxiety this year about fear I'm dying. It's taken over me, honestly, every aches and pains I fear the worse, I'm scared to be alone and I get panic attacks. I never use to be like this. I've been in perimenopause for five years now, but this fear and anxiety started this year, now with the lockdown and Covid19 it's even harder for me.

      Just know you are not alone, people will think we are losing it. But it's one of the perimenopause symptoms some of us experience as I speak to other women going thru perimenopause and some have talked about this kind of symptoms. Honestly it's terrible.

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      yesss. kadija. this sounds just like me. I am always telling my husband i don't want to be alone. And always scared of everything. i exhaust myself worrying all the time. I am sorry you are feeling this way too.

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      I absolutely agree with everything that you said. I was in recovery for PTSD and dealing with anxiety and depression before perimenopause hit and then this pandemic followed. This is the worst fear that I could imagine and my PTSD was pretty bad but I don't compare it because at least I understood what caused it. I don't understand how hormones can do this to a person. It's frightening and debilitating...the crying, the anxiousness coursing through me, the nausea, the panic attacks all night long. I'm working with two therapists and a behavioral specialist to help me out of this. Every day I feel like either the end is near or that I will be committed...it's just insane. I pray that we all stay strong and do what we have to be overcome this and progress to enjoying this change of life.

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      this sounds like me also, and gotten even worst with this scary virus!! the constant worry of something horrible is going to happen!!! i cant sleep, eat or go on with my daily responsibilities..the tension headaches are so bad the past week!! stay safe xoxoxo

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      I know exactly how you feel, anxiety is putting so much strain on my life, I don't sleep well as I get panic attacks, fear that I'm dying, I live alone and it makes it worse as I fear something will happen and I have no one to help me. All my children have grown up and move away. I was OK with my single life. But since this anxiety I am feeling very lonely and scared. Luckily I have two dogs for company. Still I feel scared being on my own during those panic attacks and anxiety. Hopefully we will all see an improvement in our symptoms soon. I'm praying every day.

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      I know exactly what you mean! My kids are attending school away and hubby also works abroad. earlier this year I had a terrible panic attack. I took a 5mg valium and jumped in my car and drove to the vicinity of the hospital thinking I'm going to get a heart attack and die making several rounds on the block without going in! I was also of the opinion that I will die home alone and no one will find me! I then drove back home and quietly went to bed.

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      My kids are grown and gone as well..i do feel lonely and the few friends I have they don't have it as bad as us so they don't understand..like you im seating here constantly worrying. Back in July my period had stopped for 7 months and i thought, great im almost done then in January I got it again and every month since then and all the symptoms came back 10 times worst!! I don't have hot flushes just headaches sore throat and anxiety all the time!! Im scared at nights as well, I had a panic attack the other night, I was so scared!!

      I read a lots try to keep my mind occupied till I get tired and I fall asleep..

      I use to go to the stores, movies out to eat so wasn't this bad ..now being constantly in the house days at the time

      feeling scared and depressed..hope things will get better for everyone soon!

      feel better and welcome to write anytime you like xoxo

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      I speak to my kids about the situation but not to the full extent of what I'm going thru, so they don't really understand all these weird symptoms I'm getting.

      Last night I had a few panic attacks and my chest felt like I'm wheezing, my jaw and neck felt painful. I don't have a cold or asthma. It felt strange when I breathe, like there's candyfloss in my lungs.. Lol.. It took a while to fall asleep but this morning I wake up and its not as bad, not sure if it's anxiety causing this.

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      Dear Maria

      My period also stopped last July, I felt alot better those months without a period, then it came back in January until March and my symptoms started again but not so bad first and second period, in March I started to get hot flashes and a period too. Very light. In April nothing, and from there the worst anxiety and panic attacks started, headaches. And tons of other symptoms but No hot flashes. Hopefully it's the end of my period as I'm 53. I just want to feel a bit normal with a good night sleep.

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      I've done that too a few times. Omg I thought I was dying, tight chest. Neck pain, Overwhelming feeling doom, I panic jump in my car drove near the hospital which is 10minutrs drive from my house. and I wait in the car park without going in. In case something happens so I'm near the hospital. Then once I've calm down I drive myself back home. Not sure why or what happens to our body during those times. But it feels like we lose all control. Its so scary.

      So it must be this menopause making some of us lose control on ourselves. Omg.

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      Hi Leisa: im now about 2 weeks post. Ill be 56 in August. April 15 2019 was my last period. I still have the weird digestive issues unfortunately. Im nauseous but hungry. I cant win...lol! Then there are times when i do not want anything. Still have anxiety through the roof. Bladder still bothers me with this pressure. I dont have IC though, thank You, Jesus! As much as i hate doing this because i don't want to go down the hormone path, i started using vaginal estrogen. Premarin and yes, i know about the mares😒😒 I wanted to try this first as it got more good reviews than Estrace . I saw a urologist video by a female urologist, Kelly Caperpace or something like that. She practices in Washington state and im in Virginia so i have to watch her on YouTube. She has excellent reviews. Anyway she says to throw away the applicator to the vaginal estrogen. Put a little on your finger. Im thinking i might have Vaginal Atrophy. I also use a moisturizer Gynetrof and Calendula ointment. I started the Premarin last night and only use a pea size amt on the outside and near the opening. I use calendula every morning. When i get to three weeks of nightly Premarin, ill cut back to twice a week maitenance. Ill use Gynetrof moisturizer the otger nights that im not using Premarin. I hope this works, too soon to tell right now. I really hope everyone feels better soon!

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      Hi again Leisa, just wanted to add yes,i do get the nausea. Mine is like you said with the upper stomach. I feel hungry but nauseated at the same time. This Corona Virus lockdown is not helping either. I have a lot of anxiety over it!

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      I was having weird urinary type symptoms that come and go. I found that what helped was Probiotic Pearls for women's vaginal and digestive health. I think when hormones are off, the pH gets messed up and causes all sorts of strange things in the bladder/vagina. It occured to me when I had a bout of yeast infections that would not go away without diflucan for about three months, but the feeling when I knew I had a yeast infection was bladder discomfort like Interstitial Cystitis. So weird. It lasted for about 6 months and then new symptoms took over and the bladder issues went away. And we wonder why we are all getting health anxiety! Because docs dont have personalized answers so we go to Dr Google where EVERYTHING is cancer.

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      zmama,

      I have also had the urinary issues, mine lasted for about 8 months and seem to have tapered off just as some of my other peri symptoms have acted up again. I think you are onto something with your statement that one winds down when another revs up. I was convinced that I had interstitial cystitis, I googled everything I could for my symptoms and finally resigned myself to continuing my oral and vaginal estrogen, having acupuncture and trying to just put one foot in front of the other to get through the really horrible days. Out of all the symptoms I have had, the urinary ones were the worst! You know they are bad when you are asking for the alternating constipation/diarrhea to come back so you can be over the urinary symptoms! lol. After 3 months of suffering with the urinary symptoms, I went to my gyn and I kid you not, he told me to have a colonoscopy to rule out any bowel issues that could be mimicking bladder symptoms. Afraid that my insurance would deny the payment of the colonoscopy after I had it done (no prior authorization needed and I am not 50 or older), I decided to wait my symptoms out and sure enough, they have improved. If you look around at other posts, you will see that most women that post have had tons of medical management of symptoms done, lots of tests, blood work, treatments that have shown nothing because peri is so misunderstood. I feel your pain, you have my sympathy and hope that by telling my tale, you know that there are other women out there going through the same thing. Hugs to you.

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      Yes i pretend all is well, i dont speak about the extent of my situation as most people think you are over reacting, because when they look at you physically you are ok, but its inside thats suffering.

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      Hi Leisa.

      I'm new to this site and I'm so grateful I've stumbled upon this forum. I read your post and I have the same EXACT symptoms.......the nausea is awful. I also have a lot of bladder problems, urgency pressure. I've been to the ER due to this issue thinking I had bladder cancer, nope all tests come back normal. I've tried my hardest not to Google symptoms because of course everything points to cancer (my biggest fear). Lately most days are spent thinking I'm dying from dome form of cancer. I am mentally, physically and emotionally drained to say the least. I also have been fighting migraines, so painful they cause vomiting. I'm very thankful for your post because now I know I'm not alone.

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      im new here and cant figure out how to use this forum properly but i have the shoulder blade pain which caused me to have neck surgery to get rid of it. sadly the pain remains. i have severe nausea, ear ringing, and every other horrible symptom. i just got home from the er where all my tests were normal. i am at the end of my rope. i hope we can help eachother cope.

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      Hi Vicky. I don't know why I am not getting notification on responses. I am so sorry I just seen this. I know what it's like when you are just wanting someone to talk to and seems like you are going through this alone.

      You are going to laugh about the shoulder blade/throat and ear pain. The shoulder pain was just from me sitting wrong and being on my lap-top with not very good posture. The pain in my throat and ears of all things was TONSIL STONES! Gross as they are, I was relieve that was all it was. I have always had them but with menopause and everything drying out, they are more common!

      How are you doing? If you ever need to talk, I am here. I am in California.

      Hang in there honey!

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      Hi Marianne70635

      How are you honey! You are SO not alone! We sound like sisters from another mister (lol). When I first started this menopause "thang" I was like "this is a piece of cake"! Just had mild hot flashes, periods all over the place and that was about it. Looking back now, these bouts of nausea had me scared to death (yep, Googled every type of cancer under the sun and thought I had every one of them!) Now we have COVID! Can things get any worse? I am afraid to ask. It will be 3 years in December since my last period. I NORMALLY have labs done every year but this year has been epic so I have not been in but have never had any bad labs (hope I don't jinx myself). My daughter was involved in a fatal car accident in January. Worst day of my life. She will be ok but it's going to be a long drawn out legal battle as the driver fled and his best friend died. Then COVID. Now awful riots and my niece is a police officer in Milwaukee and the things she tells and sends me are down right frightening so I think with all I am sure the stress is not helping

      My biggest things now (and some days are almost debilitating) are extreme exhaustion and the other thing I am having a REALLY hard time with is the nausea. It is not all the time but it seems to hit me every few months and lasts for about a week. It scares me and if there are any ladies out there experiencing this, I would LOVE to hear from you.

      We are in this together ladies! I hope you are all save out there. Pray for our country, pray for piece and pray for each other. We are strong women and our bodies go through so much (bleed like a stuck pig for decades of our life, push amazing objects our of us the size of an average bowling ball then try and figure out what to do with this object for the next 18 years cuz the little suckers don't come with handbooks, our bodies are dis-figured and scared out of love, then we go through THIS - lol). We will get through this together/apart and I can't tell you (to the moderators) how much I personally appreciate this forum. It has some nights made the difference of me going to sleep with peace of mind I am not alone!

      Love you ladies!

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      Glad to hear back from you. My shoulder blade and ear and throat pain have gotten better and I was feeling pretty good and now I'm having alot of acid relux and feeling like I need to burp and cant. Have you ever had difficulty burping? I also feel nervous and jittery. I used to get naseau but not very often now. Like you i do gets bouts of no energy but then some days I almost feel normal then bam you wake up and there is a new issue to deal with. Hope to hear back from you to see if you ever dealt with the reflux and difficulty burping.

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      Hi Vicky42722;

      I have been burping more than normal. I also noticed I cannot tolerate chocolate anymore. I had an ice-cream bar the other night right before I went to bed and HOLY HELL! I had the worst heartburn ever!

      Did your nausea come in waves. It seems to hit like every 3 months and last for about a week (which seems like a year)!

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      i also get alot of left rib pain - and over the last couple of years it's radiated to my back as well. can be really tender when i breathe in deeply. Many articles say to get checked out for serious causes from this, but I've had 2 CT scans for it over the years an I'm sure something would have been found. Doesn't really make me feel better as it's easy to think something was growing and wasn't yet visible to them...the mind games...my only ray of hope is that it has been less noticeable sometimes so i figure that wouldn't happen if it was a progressive disease. I come on this forum from time to time when i get scared though...seeing you mention the rib pain will help me sleep a bit tonight - thank you ❀️

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      my nausea was about once a month for over a year. It would last a few days each month and I had to make myself eat. It was horrible but it has gotten alot better. I dont hardly have it anymore. I know what you mean about chocolate I drank a choc shake the other day and I had horrible refux. My problem now is the pain between shoulder blades and moving to the front. I get reflux and then I take a tums and then it stops the reflux but causes me to have a pulling nagging pain between breast and shoulder blades. Have you ever gotten this?

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      I have pain in my RIGHT shoulder blade that comes and goes. I own a property management company so on the computer probably 14 hours a day and I am pretty sure it's due to my posture. I have had it for YEARS (and I mean YEARS) so if THAT was anything, I would be dead by now! (lol).

      My new found thing (and it seems like something new or nagging every damn day) is my head feels all fuzzy! It's hard to explain. I don't have headaches, a little congested but I don't think it's allergies. I just feel OFF (not really dizzy) just head foggy!

      Have any of you ladies had this? My nausea kind of went away replaced by this head crap and not sure what is worse. Just want a sprinkle of myself back so I can enjoy life (which is hard to do with this COVID political mess) again ya know?

      I pray and pray and pray and does not seem to matter. Don't want to give up on God as that is all I have but getting tired of this daily suffering. If it's not one thing it's another!

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      hi i really feel the same .somedays the meno symptoms come back with a vengance constant nausea tiredness aches and pains . i am fed up of being a moaner . usually i am a really positive person but lately it is hard to be positive.

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      You could not have said it better. I have never been a "moaner". I am the caretaker in my house. I have always been bubbly and positive. I am 49 and I swear this hit me overnight. All of a sudden I had almost every one of the perimenapause symptoms. The nauseau and anxiety are just awful. Dry mouth and burning tongue make it really hard to eat so I am losing weight. Looking back I am pretty sure I am 8 months into it but symptoms are getting worse. Every day I wake up saying I am going to be strong but then another symptom appears!

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      Hi Sherricl

      How are you doing darlin. I seen your post and it sounds like me. I am 53, 3 years no period and at first I was like "this is a piece of cake". Spoke too soon! Started with of course the hot flashes. Then I was off balance at times. Then the nausea which would come in waves. Good for a few weeks and it would come back for a week +. This of course made me very cranky. The anxiety (about health and dying) is ALL the time. NOW, the bladder! You mentioned you had pressure. I have had this deep ache and almost burning type sensation right on top of my pubic bone. It does not burn when I pee and this too comes and goes. I did an at home UTI test and it was negative so have any of you ladies had this. I also have low back pain but I have 3 facet joints in my lower back that are shot so the back pain (I think) is explained. I fell on my tailbone when I was a teenager REALLY hard and I was warned this might catch up to me and boy it did.

      My main concern right now is this bladder pressure. I am also going a lot it seems. Mornings with my coffee are terrible (piddling every 15 minutes).

      Praying this is just another lovely menopause symptom and not cancer. I am not bleeding, no heart burn, not bloated, not gaining or losing any weight just the occasional nausea which has been going on for years.

      We should have (when COVID is over) a national menopause convention like in Las Vegas. I would so love to meet some of you ladies. I think together and reading each other's posts, it makes us hopeful and not so alone!

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      Hi Marianne;

      How are your bladder problems? I started having stabbing (like almost electric shock pains) just above my pelvis bone. It was only a few times. Now I have this gnawing, burning like pressure right at my pubic bone. Does not burn when I go and my at home test for UTI was negative.

      Praying like you that this is just another "symptom" and not cancer. I don't have any other "bad" symptoms like bloating, bleeding, heart burn, weight gain just this pressure down.

      Does this sound familiar. I also have lower central back pain but I have 3 messed up vertebrae so that is explained.

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