i feel like im dying

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how can peri make me feel this sick

it started jan 2016 but past 3 months have beem horrible. i wake up at 5am feeling so sick. i am beyond tired everyday all day ( prob cause i dont sleep much ) and my body doesnt feel good. i feel like i am slowly dying and even tho all my tests come back normal ( and i havr had a lot ) that they are missing something thats gonna kill me. my constant upset stomach/trapped air burping/ feeling unsteady when i walk is the worst one, amxiety, feel like i have ongoing flu.

please ease my mind and tell me im not alone. this seriously needs to stop. its putting me into depression

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    I've struggled with up and down heart rates for years. Usually my resting HR is around 60 but it could shoot up into 80s/90s sometimes's only at night, or sometimes for several days, or sometimes just hours.

    Now I have anemia so my resting heart rate is 70-75 and much higher when active. Or nervous! Yes it is always uncomfortable when the heart goes faster than what we are used to but generally it's ok if you've been checked by a Dr. And ruled out any issues then you just have to assume it's hormones or anxiety or diet related. Food additives can make the heart jumpy! Make sure you don't have anemia as that can cause increased heart rate.

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    Also some people have post Prandial tachycardia and /or P.O.T.S.

    Those can both cause mysterious high heart rates. I get the first one if I eat too much or sometimes even certain foods. You can look it up online and see if that sounds like your situation.

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      Ive noticed this for years in my 40's.

      if i eat a lot at night or sugar alot of it..i used to have a pounding heart, that would take a few hours to slow down (while i digested food)

      around 3am im a little calmer i notice

      now if i eat a lot at night its like scary uncomfortable so i dont.

      things arent the same anymore, and that included our entire metabolism, and digetive system to say the least.....

      xoxox

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      Exactly. ... esp now with the anemia my heart is already 10-20 beats faster per minute. So if I'm at 70, once I eat even a little it will bounce up to 80-85 for several hours. I hate it but. ..not much I can do. I'm on day 6 without bleeding and just praying for some more time before the next one strikes. It's so horrible. But the funny thing is, my estrogen was unrighteous high, 599, and now it was at only 45. So I'm thinking, maybe the damn s**t will finally drop for good and I'll just go full menopause! Lol. Most people don't pray for their estrogen to drop. But I do. Because that's the only way these wretched periods will end. But this only started for me in May! So in may I bled 25 days. In June, 18 days. In July, 10 days. And I had horrible breast pain from like last year when I had the high test result till just a few weeks ago. So I guess it's feasible that the estrogen could finally be dropping and maybe just maybe I'll have a lighter period on this one. Even the last one was bad at only 10 days because I lost about 550 ml (that's including clot volume...sorry if tmi) and that's about 4.5 liquid cups or more than 2 blood donations! The one before that I think was like 7 cups! So yeah.... I'm pretty nervous about my upcoming one. I don't know. It's just so awful. If I think about it I'll just start crying and crying so I try to think positive and hope for the best. My holistic doctor dumped me. ..she actually dumped me because I didn't want to start the HRT progesterone. But the thing isi really just want to go thru this naturally. If the bleeding doesn't stop I guess I'll have to consider something if I don't have enough time in between periods to get iron in my blood. I've only had 6 days so far, for example. So I still feel pretty crappy but a bit better than a week ago. I read that it takes 2-3 weeks to start to get relief of symptoms but a year for the iron to rebuild in the bone marrow. Anyways. .. all the other things I've suffered with for years are nothing compared to this. So. ...once this s**t goes away I will kiss the ground and pray for the hot flashes. ..lol. have you had those yet?

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      It sounds as though you are coming towards menopause and that things are going to be building again with regards to your iron stores it's actually a very good thing.

      I would just be patient and wait it out it sounds like things are working themselves out though that's great forget about the progesterone unless it becomes a very unstable thing for you and you intuition will tell you that

      Xoxoxo!

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    I can relate. My periods stopped 11 months ago and since then have had so much vomiting. Also has loss of appetite and subsequent weight loss. It is annoying. Dont feel like going out anymore.

    • Posted

      Yes me too! I can barely get a boiled egg down . Lost 25lbs and was already pretty skinny 
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    I lost weight too... I was 132 as of January 2017. By June I was 116 and now I'm at 112 and still slowly losing weight. Alot of it is stress I'm sure! For me, the first part was anxiety so bad I didn't eat for over 10 days except 2 crackers a day and a few bites of yogurt. I could barely gag it down. I slowly started eating more but was so traumetized BY the anxiety that I could just not eat much ever again after that. So I can barely keep weight on but with the anemia that started in June from the heavy periods I've HAD to try to eat more. It's awful. I just went to the doctor today because I'm a level 7 anemia now. ..down from 13 which I was at the beginning of the bleeding craze. She said they go more by symptoms than numbers. ...some people come in at a 7 with no symptoms others like me have moderate symptoms & some have alot. She said they've had people that were a 2 or 4! I met one nurse who said she was down to a 4 and was still working but felt horrible until she took iron. I just feel out of breath and my heart pounds if I'm standing too long. I try to rest alot. I pray it will go away. I think I could take any amount of anxiety over the bleeding and anemia which is scary as hell but then that's easy to say until you're in the middle of an attack! I've spent many nights sleeping outside the ER room with my heart racing and feeling the iron talons of the claw of fear gripping me. All of it sucks! I don't want to complain about God but honestly we were not designed very well at least not our reproductive parts! It seems so unfair to be getting older AND have to suffer so much on top of it!

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      Hi carlycat,  I lost 15 lbs last year. I am small to begin with.  Couldn’t get anything down for a couple weeks...I would feel full.  I drank chocolate shakes for calories.  I am slowly gaining some back too. Crazy!
    • Posted

      So sorry you had to go through that Carlycat I’ve gone from my highest at 138 to 112 at one point I looked like a Skeleton.

      I know too well those ER vists they need to have a women’s clinic on every street corner !  It’s a BLOODY CRIME that we are left to deal with this NIGHTMARE alone with the occasional visit to the dr.

      This meno has debilitated me for almost 6 months now ... I pray to God too a lot but I feel he’s not answering our prayers right now . 

      I hope you get level soon ... you are NOT ALONE ... I am going through HELL too but I’m completely alone no job no family around few friends ... hang in there love things MUST get better for all us poor souls !!

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      I went through that weight loss think too.  It was scary.  I was sure I was dying.  I was hospitalized at one point for passing out.  My potassium was low.  My bp was low.  Didn’t matter how much fluid they pumped in, it was still low.  All I could eat was ramen and drink Gatorade for the sodium to try to keep my bp up.  And when I did have any type of appetite, I would go for the highest calorie unhealthy thing I could find!  I finally put weight on and then some.  Even though I am about 8 lbs more than I would like, I still feel so much better and never want to go back.
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      Hi Lori..did you manage to gain your weight back? If so how and how much. I am down to 113 from 138..same as you. But this weight loss has occurred since. 2017nlast March. If i gain a pound i can seem to keep it on.
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    It is indeed so awful. I wake up every day and wonder if I'm going to have an ok day, a bad day or what next? Sometimes wake up 5 times a night. Shortness of breath ya'll mention can be from iron deficiency anemia! Be sure to get checked for that. I have it and that's what causes mine. Your heart has to work harder to get oxygen infused blood to circulate your body so you will breathe faster/harder just like with exercise but if you have anemia it can be just sitting there. I had it pretty bad and it takes all your energy. I'm doing a little better since I started taking iron and eating chicken livers.

    I get the nasty heart arrhythmias and other crap too. It can be very depressing. For me the worst part is having to pretend to be fine or have people think I'm lazy or nuts because I can't run circles around them and need to rest alot. It drives me mad sometimes! Menopause is a medical condition but no one respects it as such. ..they just expect you to carry on. That is the most miserable part of this I think!

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    Thanks everyone for your kind replies! :-)

    It helps to know we are not alone in this nightmare.

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      I'm 52 and had a hysterectomy in 2013, the doctor left my ovaries intact because he said by removing them it could throw me into full blown menopause. With that being said I've been suffering since 2010; the last 3 years has been torture. This last year, the absolute worse. I wake up every morning with the 66++++ symptoms. Like you, all my blood work always comes back normal. Going through menopause is debilitating. I don't sleep, severe night sweats, severe hot flashes, which will then send me to the bathroom where I have diarrhea every morning for an hour or so. I work two jobs and I'm exhausted 24-7, therefore, on the weekends I try to rest hoping by Monday I will feel rejuvenated, but it never happens. I often call out sick, go home sick, go home with my office clothes soaked due to excessive sweating. I often make up stupid excuses with work because menopause is something that a lot of women don't discuss. I suffer most with physical side affects and anxiety. To live like this daily is true torture. I try to stay positive but its not easy, especially when your in pain. My joints hurt daily, my back is killing by 3:00pm, headaches, migraines, nausea, sleep deprived, chest pain, heart beating fast, in the bathroom 24-7, and completely wiped out. I'm ready for bed by 7:30, and/or will make myself go to bed early because I know when 2:00am comes I'm going to be awaken with hot flashes/night sweats and then running to the bathroom. Then the anxiety and panic attacks come into play, and from there I begin to pray, please god, let me see the light at the end of the tunnel. Sad to say, and I would never hurt myself, but I have moments where I start thinking, I'd rather be dead then go through this. I refuse to have hormone treatment, and do my best with home remedies. Its rare that I have a good day, I find myself begging in head, "please, just let me get through this before menopause ruins my life completely." My life is literally on hold until I can get through this. Menopause is a daily feeling of constant fear too, because you really do feel like you're slowly dying, well I do anyway. I hope the worse is over for you, thank you for sharing. More women need to start talking more about this and I think it should be discussed in the work place. It can be a touchy subject, but I want my voice heard and others too. 

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      I can so relate with you. We don't even have a end date on menopause. Its a topic that needs to be addressed more. Thank you for sharing. 

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