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kim74983
kim74983

how can peri make me feel this sick

it started jan 2016 but past 3 months have beem horrible. i wake up at 5am feeling so sick. i am beyond tired everyday all day ( prob cause i dont sleep much ) and my body doesnt feel good. i feel like i am slowly dying and even tho all my tests come back normal ( and i havr had a lot ) that they are missing something thats gonna kill me. my constant upset stomach/trapped air burping/ feeling unsteady when i walk is the worst one, amxiety, feel like i have ongoing flu.

please ease my mind and tell me im not alone. this seriously needs to stop. its putting me into depression

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  • martine00689
    martine00689 kim74983

    Posted

    I just think that the next person that says “menopause is a blessing” its going to throw me over the edge.   🤦🏻???

    • lori93950
      lori93950 martine00689

      Posted

      A blessing ???? It’s the most evil thing I’ve ever encountered . The fact that something like this can destroy your life destroy your soul and mind ... it’s not normal so unfair and very dangerous . 
    • theresa53424
      theresa53424 martine00689

      Posted

      Who the hell said Menopause is a blessing? Must be a man or one the few lucky ones that had it easy. They need to walk in our shoes, but then again I wouldn't wish this on my worse enemy. 

  • martine00689
    martine00689 kim74983

    Posted

    So it’s like this... your boppin around having a few good days thinking “geez I might be coming out of it or at least it’s manageable.”  “heck I might even be a tiny bit happy and can see the light at the end of the tunnel.”  Then all of a sudden. BLAMMO!  furnace flashes from hell start up again, palpitations, upset stomach hits you again and that ever so popular horrible anxiety, fear and worry robs you and batters you right back down taking your confidence with it, now we’re back to square one,  it’s one  cruel joke I’ll say that.  My therapist told me today that she went on the HRT for many years from her early 50s to her mid 60s and then she went off it and she says her symptoms are now coming back.   It is nice to talk with someone who is actively going through it.  She did say diet is key as well as exercise.  She just happens to be a marathon runner and has been for years so she is incredibly healthy.  I’m not thinking about running marathons when I can’t even jog around the block.    I want to work again and feel physically well while doing it, I don’t mind the occasional hot flash, a little anxiety can be dealt with as well but it’s the unpredictable timing of these symptoms that I feel is what gives me such bad anxiety.  You never know from moment to moment what is going to pop up and stop you right in your trap.   Dismal.

    • martine00689
      martine00689

      Posted

      Tracks not trap. Lol🤦🏻???

  • martine00689
    martine00689 kim74983

    Edited

    People all around me seem to be so happy and having fun and I’m here miserable and feeling like something the cat dragged In after it’s been run over by a semi truck.  It just isn’t fair and I just want it to end.  I want to be normal and love my life again. 
    • lori93950
      lori93950 martine00689

      Posted

      I people watch more than ever now ... just looking thinking ... have you been through this ? How did you get through this ? 

      Looking at the smiles on people’s faces envious that they are so happy when I’m so miserable .  And yes would give anything to feel somewhat normal again 😩

    • debra52169
      debra52169 lori93950

      Posted

      It really is unfair. My doctor says only a small percentage of women have a hard time. Most have no problem. Hard to believe. I guess we are the unlucky ones.
    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 lori93950

      Posted

      i have friends that they dont understand what ius wrong with me!!

      one doesnt stop!!! she is taking college classes, learning italian, painting, cooking non stop ..and here its me feeling like 90 years old, taking my bp every few hours ☺ and stay up all night constantly worrying!!

      its not fair!! im not sure what happened i was doing so good for about a year and its been couple of months its been a nightmare!!!

    • martine00689
      martine00689 maria_03422

      Posted

      I hear that, my friends don’t even know what menopause is, no symptoms to be heard of from anyone, how is that possible?  I feel like they wouldn’t admit it anyway lol.  Yeah, they are out traveling, having fun, getting married again and enjoying life while I can’t even get out of bed most days and shower...just dismal.
    • lori93950
      lori93950 martine00689

      Posted

      Yes all my friends too .... one got her period for a month one gets hot flashes pretty consistently but they are out and about new boyfriends travelling it’s not affecting their lives as it has mine.

      I wish I could say we are the chosen few that we are special maybe empaths or more sensitive humans but I’m not buying it right now 😖

    • lori93950
      lori93950 martine00689

      Posted

      I’m sure if anybody was going through this we’d know it as your life just stops ! You cancel appts can’t get out of bed severe depression and the  fatigue ! Don’t even mention that ! 
    • lori93950
      lori93950 maria_03422

      Posted

      You could never describe what you’re going through in words it’s just too bad . I think my friends know it’s bad as I’ve kind of gone missing ... stay at home a lot and if I do go out now .. I always leave early as cannot stay awake . 
    • Guest
      Guest lori93950

      Posted

      Don't forget about no sex drive, and shortness of breathing.

    • Guest
      Guest lori93950

      Posted

      Hopefully it doesn't hit them when they least expect it like I did. When they do they will be at your door.

    • lori93950
      lori93950 Guest

      Posted

      Yes abs I’ll be here for them ....when and if they do ! 
    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 lori93950

      Posted

      Lori

      i fugure out why my bp keep going up one minute and low the next..tonight i was to a friends house for dinner, and decided to go since i keep making excuses for the past 6 months☺ and its about 40 minutes away..i was fine when left the house my bp perfect, by t he time i got there felt so anxious my bp went up 20 points and 3 hours later got home went back to normal ..you think me feeling so anxious brings it up?, I might need to ho on bp meds? its scary..

    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 martine00689

      Posted

      please went to my friends tonight and instead enjoying and relaxing, i was worried , anxious and taking my bp ?? my friends dont recognize me..we use to go to vegas and i was the one that would be up 24/7..laughing dancing and do every crazy thing and now ..im in my pj's 8 at night..

    • pam90720
      pam90720 maria_03422

      Posted

      Hi Maria!!! Plz don't worry about your bp!! I have major anxiety (and had bad panic attacks)  my bp does the same thing.. mainly now just at the doctors office... plz know that anxiety can increase it!!!!   Take care 🙏🙏????

    • lori93950
      lori93950 maria_03422

      Posted

      It’s anxiety! Why are you taking you bp all the time .... it will make you worse!

      If I go to the drs and am stressed my bp is up the rest of the time it’s normal . So it’s all situational and with you too. 

      One of the major parts of meno is anxiety !

      We all have it .... try and be mindful don’t rush anywhere eat your meals slowly ... if there’s a day where you just can’t  handle doing something then leave it until another day. I’m learning this too! 

    • lori93950
      lori93950 maria_03422

      Posted

      Yes I get that too as I have crashing fatigue so I’m out with friends then all of a sudden I say ‘gotta go’ . They are used to it now and know what I’m going through ... I say it’s adrenal fatigue .

      I used to go to bed late take a leisurely nap in the afternoon now I’m in bed most nights before it’s dark ... cannot nap even if dead tired due to anxiety.... it’s awful. 

    • Guest
      Guest lori93950

      Posted

      Is anyone having trouble sleeping, due to the fact when you're sleeping you wake up grasping for breath?

    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 pam90720

      Posted

      Thank you Pam,!

      its crazy how low my bp is at home and as soon as i go somewhere or i feel anxious i can feel this weird headache coming on in the back of my head and i know its high..i went to the drs the other day and by the time i got there was 162/90!!! she gave me meds but i dont wanna start on that because at home is low 119/69!! its crazy how anxciety can mess with the entire body!! to top everything i havent slept for days an entire night, it makes everything worst!

    • pam90720
      pam90720 maria_03422

      Posted

      Hi! You are welcome .. I really understand what you are going through!!!   I couldn't even look at a bp machine without going into full panic mode!! Then I just knew I was going to pass out from the anxiety!!! I've been through hell the past 2 years... the fatigue does get much better... I had such crashing fatigue that I physically hurt from it...     plz don't worry about your bp... I had a panic attack at the ent several years ago... my bp was 170/90... the ear doctor called me personally to tell me not to worry .. (he knew it was anxiety ...).   I went last week and it was 117/72.... I was shocked ! Lol... but it's usually now 100/65 at home.... it's been a long hard tiring journey that I'm still working through... but it does get better ... hang in there.... 🙏🙏💕💕

    • pam90720
      pam90720 maria_03422

      Posted

      I really don't know... I have lost some weight (about 15 pounds) not sure if that's it...   do you still get a bit nervous taking it at home? I used too.. it would b about 125 ish....   I used to get so nervous I thought my heart would pound out of my chest.... it took a while for me to get over it... but somehow I did.... wish I could say the same for me when I have to go to the doctor 🙏😞. It's hard for me to think you should b out on bp meds when your blood pressure is good ... 

    • pam90720
      pam90720

      Posted

      *put (not out) 
    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 pam90720

      Posted

      thank you so much Pam! i have the meds here but i dont want to take them..this had happened to me a few years back and eventually went back to normal. i'll give it a few days , i have another drs appt to go over my blood results and i will see from there..

    • lori93950
      lori93950 pam90720

      Posted

      Good to know things get better ! The fatigue and depression has been the worst for me so I’m happy to hear that you have come through that journey ! 

      I also think the ‘worry  of all these strange things happening to our body does not help as we obsess and can’t think about anything else . 

    • 2chr2015
      2chr2015 lori93950

      Posted

      Me too Lori.  Looking for someone who looks like they feel as bad as I do. It seems like all the ladies I am around are too happy.  
    • lori93950
      lori93950 2chr2015

      Edited

      I know ? I’ve got friends who are busy ... sleep well just getting on with life as normal .

      I’m so ready to be over the s****! 

      I run at the beach and see smiling relaxed happy women my age and older ... what does it take to get through this ... it’s so unfair 

    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 lori93950

      Posted

      I. was at the store and my misery must showen on my face, this older lady tells me "dont worry, everything will be ok" i felt so embarrassed, everyone can see how bad i look and feel...

    • ImagineOneDay
      ImagineOneDay maria_03422

      Posted

      Don't be embarrassed. She must have been an insightful lady that showed care. X

    • martine00689
      martine00689 maria_03422

      Posted

      Omg an old lady was behind me in line at the grocery store when I started a furnace flash and anxiety and she said “ I know what that is honey I can see you sweating, I got them bad too, it will pass don’t worry.”   I asked her when, she said soon.  It made me feel better but was embarassing.
    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 ImagineOneDay

      Posted

      she was sweet , i just felt like crying..you know a kind word is like a rave of sunshine when you go through this crap? i got embarrassed because there was a big line and everyone listen to this and i wondered how bad i must of looked😭

    • lori93950
      lori93950 martine00689

      Posted

      Yes we need comfort at this time ... everybody and ourselves are saying power through it ... but it’s not that easy in fact ‘extremely difficult ‘ . The hardest thing I’ve ever been through ! 
    • ImagineOneDay
      ImagineOneDay maria_03422

      Posted

      I would have probably cried... and I would have been embarrassed on that situ too. Take care. It will get better...
    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 ImagineOneDay

      Posted

      I started again after a few years of feeling a bit better, going back to very first symptoms!! i feel so emotional, i tear up with every little thing! i wanna laugh, i remember a few years back i was a fun outgoing person, peopl2 loved to be around me...not anymore!!!
    • 2chr2015
      2chr2015 maria_03422

      Posted

      Maria.  Do you mean you were going through peri and then got better for a few years and then it came back?
    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 2chr2015

      Posted

      Pretty much.. It started 8 years ago for about 6 years was living hell..scared to leave the house i would go to panic attacts. just by turning the Tv on and god forbids there was some ER show and the list of symptoms will go on and on..and then at the beginning of 2017 i start feeling the urge to take long drives, like to be around people again, stop tfhinking of horrible things happening and the health anxiety stopped..i still was getting a headache once in a while but my sleep improved, it was great! out of no where this past June thins start coming back, burning eyes, shore throats back pain and the health anxie ty omg!! worst then ever.. this week i notice i've been so emotional, i just wanna cry!!

      I dont know why all these symptoms coming back again..it felt so goodfora while..

    • theresa53424
      theresa53424 debra52169

      Posted

      Women are now starting to talk about more. Menopause is serious and there's more women out there suffering from it then we know. This forum says it all, more doctors need to acknowledge it and ask their patients more questions. I'm finally seeing my OBGYN next week. I was on a waiting list, looking into October before I could be seen. I made a phone call yesterday and said, "If I wait until October you might as well commit me!" My quality of life is non existent right now. I'm lucky that I can still get up and go to work. 

    • 2chr2015
      2chr2015 maria_03422

      Posted

      Oh wow Maria.  Did your cycles change during those years?  I would give anything to have a break from all this heath anxiety.  I just want to think normally again!!  Every once in a while I will get a couple week break and then BAM one new symptom and the panic starts almost immediately. 
    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 2chr2015

      Posted

      Ι thought i was done!!! it was so nice not to worry of dying, not to be scared to go out oor to a late movie without going into full panic mode!!

      im so sad that all that is back again and some more..no my periods are been very regular. the past 2 years i missed coyple of times but other then that all normal..

      my aunts had their periods till they were 58, i cant just thinking about it!! my mom had it till she was 54 if thats the case i have another year an half to go!!!

      you are so right, the worst is the health anxiety..every week is something else..i have a drs appt tomorrow to go over my blood work ..

      today i drove an hour to pick up my grand daughter and in that hour in the car i had all kind of symptoms, in my head when through a whole list of ilnesses based on the symptoms i had☺ if people can hear the crazy things going on in my head lol!!!

    • martine00689
      martine00689 maria_03422

      Posted

      I def identify with that I was very outgoing too going out to lunch with my friends, museums, shopping and working every day.  Now I don’t do anything, no life because of the anxiety and health anxiety.  Things are ok for a couple weeks maybe and then I’m slammed again with it.  Tests for everything showing I’m fine but post meno I don’t know when it will ever end I’m kind of preparing for never.
    • 2chr2015
      2chr2015 martine00689

      Posted

      Yep, I can’t get anything done when all I do is worry.  It paralyzes me and all I can do is sit and watch tv.  I have a busy 15 year old that I have to drive places and it’s such a struggle to act like I am okay when I have all this stuff on my mind!  I dread having to go to the doctor.  
    • 2chr2015
      2chr2015 maria_03422

      Posted

      Let us know how your lab work turns out.  My mom had a hysterectomy when she was pretty young .  It’s hard for me to get myself together enough when I know I am fixing to see somebody.  And we really want to be able to enjoy family without thinking we are fixing to die!
    • pam90720
      pam90720 2chr2015

      Posted

      Hi there I am the exact same way... it's horrible and depressing ... 🙏💕

    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 pam90720

      Posted

      i have my 2 year old grand daughter with me for a few days and i cant fully enjoy my time with her because in the back of my head im obsessing over some horrible illness i have!! my husband keep saying stop thinking negative, he doesnt understand that is not that easy..i told him i dont wake in the morning and set myself for feeling this way!!! i stopped talking to my family and friends the way i feel because they make fun of me!! so im blessed to have you ladies♥️♥️♥️
    • 2chr2015
      2chr2015 maria_03422

      Posted

      I so get it Maria.  ((Hugs)) for you today.  I am so glad there are ladies in here that understand.  I don’t have any family or friends to talk to besides my husband.  He gets tired of hearing it too.  🙄

    • lori93950
      lori93950 2chr2015

      Posted

      I’m the same .... all I can do is a few chores around the house and tv is now my best friend . 
    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 2chr2015

      Posted

      back from the drs..usually he is really nice but today he was an ass!!

      my cholesterol was high 232 !! and flat outhetold me i willhave a heart attack brcause thats what happens to women my age!!! i left crying..you know when you are down and someone just comes and kicks you some more?????

      he send some medication in for me to start on... im,so upset!!! my bp was great 119/63

    • 2chr2015
      2chr2015 lori93950

      Posted

      Lori, do you work outside the home?  

      I have a cold right now and I have been feeling awful.  I went through a whole box of Kleenex today.  And I think it has made the depression worse!

      I am sahm but my youngest will be driving in a few months😳.   I am getting close to the empty nest!  I don’t know how that is going to affect me.  I don’t think I can handle much more depression.  Ugh

    • lori93950
      lori93950 2chr2015

      Posted

      Hi 2chr

      No I don’t work right now and am physically unable to anyway . This s*** has kicked my buttt !  And yes! The depression in awful ! The worst part coupled with fatigue .

      I just got divorced in November and being alone has never bothered me before . But lately feel lost . Take some super lysine it boosts your immune system . It’s like one more thing is going to send us over the edge ! 

    • lori93950
      lori93950 maria_03422

      Posted

      You’ll get it back ..I too go out ( when I can ) and am lackluster . Only time I am somewhat normal is after my run evening time and I drag myself to do that ! Exhausted.
    • pam90720
      pam90720 maria_03422

      Posted

      Hi Maria!! That is awesome about your bp!!💕🙏.    Sounds like he was being an ass!!  They know how to kick you when your down!!   My cholesterol was 209.. dr said they don't start a person on meds till it gets to around 300... .. it would have been nice for him at least give you a chance to bring it down on your own before starting medications!! Plz don't let him scare you!!!!  Take care and hang in there!!!!! I'm sorry he scared you!! I know that's not what you needed right now!!! 💕🙏

    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 pam90720

      Posted

      ?hank you so much Pam! usually he is very understanding...I guess i went in the wrong day!! but for him to say, take your medicine or you gone have a heart attact it was mean! yes i fix one thing(bp) and something else pops up😊😊😊?? thank you so much again..

    • 2chr2015
      2chr2015 maria_03422

      Posted

      Well I guess he left his bedside manner at home today!  Good news on your BP though. ((Hugs)). 
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