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kim74983
kim74983

how can peri make me feel this sick

it started jan 2016 but past 3 months have beem horrible. i wake up at 5am feeling so sick. i am beyond tired everyday all day ( prob cause i dont sleep much ) and my body doesnt feel good. i feel like i am slowly dying and even tho all my tests come back normal ( and i havr had a lot ) that they are missing something thats gonna kill me. my constant upset stomach/trapped air burping/ feeling unsteady when i walk is the worst one, amxiety, feel like i have ongoing flu.

please ease my mind and tell me im not alone. this seriously needs to stop. its putting me into depression

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  • carlycat
    carlycat kim74983

    Posted

    Ladies please get tested for iron anemia. ..can cause dizzy and fast heart rate. I still have anemia but it's getting better as I'm eating chicken livers (highest iron content and the single easiest absorbed iron source out there. ..by far better than that pills and no side effects). I also eat fortified cereal. Since I started those two things I'm feeling much better. ..the liver is full of nearly every vitamin and mineral!

    Anyway. .. I have found that resting alot also helps. This is a very stressful time for us ladies.

  • carlycat
    carlycat kim74983

    Posted

    Look up anti mullerian hormone test at researchgate (dot) net
  • martine00689
    martine00689 kim74983

    Edited

    I definitely agree with the diet connection too.  I have changed my diet completely since all of these symptoms appeared in Feb.  I cut sugar completely, only eat organic paleo now, no processed foods at all, no soda, chips or junk.  I only eat grass fed meats like chicken, beef and wild caught fish with veggies, organic eggs, fruits, brown rice, grains like quinoa no gluten and cook with coconut oil or olive oil.  I only drink herbal teas and filtered water and I only use all organic soaps, shampoos, laundry soap and cleaners in my house those of which I make myself.  I started all this because my skin became itchy and I was having reactions to everything.  I haven’t really tried liver it has always scared me lol but I guess if I can find some organic, clean liver I may try it, it couldn’t hurt.  I have lost 50 lbs since Feb and lost 3 pant sizes although it still doesn’t seem to help my anxiety and horrible symptoms like my  Insomnia, even though I practice sleep hygiene and get plenty of exercise during the day with meditations.  It all just feels so freaking unnecessary at a time in my life where I should be having some fun and living more care free after years of raising kids and grandkids because my daughter had issues and as a single parent the whole time, going back to college and graduating, working, taking care of a house myself.  I just feel like I’ve been jipped and that this thing took my life from me.  I am so tired of hearing “you have to be positive”. There is nothing positive in feeling like your body is in fire, your not sleeping, bones hurt, the nausea, shakiness, headaches and the list goes on and on and on.   It’s just damn depressing and yet, who the heck wants to suck down antidepressants, anti anxiety meds and/or horse hormones or even bio identical hormones given the dangers of almost everything offered out there is what leaves us confused, trapped in it and on the verge of giving up and I’m sure some women have and that’s sad.  Sorry for the rant but I just feel like...actually, I don’t know what I feel like-angry I guess, sad, confused, bewildered that my body suddenly turned and did a 180 on me and scared, wondering if I will ever feel myself again and be able to enjoy life.  I just can’t even with the positive thoughts, smile therapy b.s. right now because this doesn’t feel like a peacful rite of passage as some “glowing” women who have had symptom free menopause’s have described, In my realistic brain, it feels horrible, no sugar coating here.  Thanks for letting me get all this stuff out.
    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 martine00689

      Posted

      Thank you!!!!! thats how i feel!

      also raised my children alone for over 20 years!! and thought here comes my time to do things i wanted to do!! to busy dealing with this horrible change!

    • martine00689
      martine00689 maria_03422

      Edited

      Your welcome, it’s just saying it how it is right?  We have battled our way through keeping it all together, the glue so to speak and then finally when it’s time to let go and rest our weary bodies and minds...fagetaboutit.   I wake up and lie there wondering if I should even stir my body for fear I may catapult some symptoms and I wait to see what happens for a while before I actually get up and wonder, “can I eat something?”  “how is my anxiety?”  “can I go to the store without getting furnace flashes and then panicking.”  It’s like really?!  This is what my life is now?  Crazy man.🤪

    • deirdre01438
      deirdre01438 martine00689

      Posted

      Hi Martine,I started this journey maybe 3-4 years ago and I'm only 36.

      I've had every test under the sun and all come back 'normal'. All started when I stopped birth control at 32/33. It's horrible, even worse when nobody else is experiencing it with me. Very lonely time. I tried anti depressants and anxiety meds and not a route I want to take again. I tried birth control pills and broke out in hives and rashes all over. Doctors didnt think the bcp was the issue so They told me to keep taking it...it helped my moods just not anything else. I'm lost in what to try. My periods are extremely light and come every 25-31 days. I mention all my symptoms to doctors and they only seem concerned in making me blees heavier so they have perscribed progesterone tablets to take day 3-21. I just dont know if I can do 10 years of this hell. Nobody knows when this will end. All my results show normal so doctors say I'm depressed or all anxiety but I was having the time of my life when this started.I was finally earning money and single mom but I was happy and then this hit. I was not prepared for this. I just get up and get through my day as best as I can. I just hope it ends soon. Its the hardest time of my life and I've had terrible times just not like this.

    • lori93950
      lori93950 maria_03422

      Posted

      Yes me too ! Just got divorced and this was going to be my year of ‘fun’ travelling resting my mind after years of stress.. boy did God have another plan for me .... I’m not going anywhere doing anything  and my mind is so worried about all of this ... it’s not resting at all. 

    • lori93950
      lori93950 martine00689

      Posted

      We’re all angry about this as it really halts your life ! Mine has come to a complete STOP. 

      And we’re not even sure when it will all balance out. If we had a time frame at least we could know there’s light at the end of the tunnel . 

    • mauiblue
      mauiblue lori93950

      Posted

      Yes this whole thing plays a number on your mind because you truly don't have an idea of how long it will go on and it's so unfair I'm with you on this a hundred percent.

      Xoxo

    • mauiblue
      mauiblue

      Posted

      There are a couple schools of thought on this HRT no HRT it's like shouldn't we be getting estrogen but if our bodies don't accept it and why are we taking it? Also in nature are hormones decline for a reason so why are we giving ourselves hormones especially if we don't respond well to it so I'm completely confused

    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 martine00689

      Edited

      Omg!! thats me☺ scared to get up every morning wondering and stressing what the day will bring!!

      i wish we all lived close by and form asupport group, exercising togetger, meet disscuss and support each other..and maybe meet for a happy hour lol!! i dont drink, but that would be fun!! its so hard!!! im away, got my period my heart is beating fast my leg is aching and i woke up at 2:45am again took 2 hours for me to go back to sleep!!

    • Guest
      Guest deirdre01438

      Posted

      HI Deirdre,  Last year, I stopped BCP after 20 years. My horrendous symptoms started right after, I am only 41.  Drs seem to think you go off those things and your body happily regulates itself.  Not me.  For 20 years, I was given the same amount of hormones every month.  Tried mini pill, I was a weepy mess.  I tried to go back on combined, but I didn’t give them enough time and tossed them.  I’m on an AD now to calm the anxiety, so I’m going to give combo BCP another try soon.  My periods the last few months have been every 21 days, lighter and lasting 2 days...if I get one at all.  I feel for ya, it’s terrible.
    • martine00689
      martine00689 mauiblue

      Posted

      That’s why I’ve chosen to forgo the HRT, because my body has never responded well to birth control pills ever.  When I was young and the gyn put me on them I felt exactly as I do now, a mess...depressed , anxious and etc.  I new HRT wasn’t right for me but now what?  Lol
    • martine00689
      martine00689 deirdre01438

      Posted

      That doesn’t sound like fun at all and so young.  The thing is, we know our own bodies they just don’t listen, that said, I am finding that options are very limited anyway.  The usual diet, exercise and blah blah blah with the positive mind set/smile therapy thing.  Who in Sam Hill wants to exercise while your feeling like your at deaths 🚪 lol.  I am going on year 13 of this I started peri now that I remember correctly at 39.  The crime scene periods, horrible cramping, start of hot flashes and palpitations, anxiety and etc...now I’m 52 and still waiting for it to let up.   Apparently this could happen the rest of my life.  Now what a joyful thought that is.  Hang in because this is the best active board I have found and everyone “gets” it here.

    • 2chr2015
      2chr2015 deirdre01438

      Posted

      Hi Deirdre.  Do the doctors want you to bleed heavier so your lining doesn’t get thick?
    • deirdre01438
      deirdre01438 Guest

      Posted

      Thanks Lou for replying. I think I didnt go back on bcp for 2 years because I kept thinking my hormones would balance......I didn't know perimenopause existed until google showed it in my search one day.

      I get my period for about 12 hours from one evening till the following morning/midday, then I get brown spotting for 2 days,then nothing for a day and then I might get a sudden teaspoon gush of blood the following day. I've had a scan, my smears are up to date and bloodwork is brilliant,including thyroid. So frustrating. I get hot flushes that make me sweat like mad. I would have always been a worrier but nothing last the last 2-3 years. I know when I smile now it hardly reaches my eyes. I miss the old me. I sure hope it's all hormones. Doctors are totally oblivious to this stage in a womans life. I hope things improve for us all soon. smile

    • mauiblue
      mauiblue martine00689

      Edited

      Yes you better believe that this is a great GREAT forum of really REAL people with REAL suffering and no shame to say so.

      Great post.

      I took bc pills in my twenties and dont even know if i was ok on them,.

      My memory is really poor these days.

      Now i feel the same though, weird. I was never depressed though when i was young, and i didnt have anxiety and i lived through some really hard times. almost traumatic at times, and it was nothing to me, it didnt PHASE me.

      I was held at gunpoint at a gas station in texas, after a night out, and it was like, "whatever heres my purse"..

      So ya...i just want to have some resilience like that..some strength..

      xoxxo 

    • mauiblue
      mauiblue martine00689

      Posted

      Yes 

      Same here with the exercise,

      i want to exercise badly, and need to find a way to get back into it.

      I feel so weak truly though..and that i dont think i would tolerate it, like id have a heart attack..

    • deirdre01438
      deirdre01438 2chr2015

      Posted

      I'm not too sure. First doctor said I should be happy my periods are light, the other wants me to bleedkeep more. No reason given. I asked was it just to jump start my own progesterone but I didnt get much reply there. He was useless. I explained my joint pains etc and hot flashes etc and nothing. He did do a blood test but I was day 11 or 12 so I dont see how that will show much. Veey frustrating.

    • 2chr2015
      2chr2015 mauiblue

      Posted

      Maui/Martine.   I feel like if I make it to the gym parking lot, I’ve done good.  And if I make it inside, I sit on the bike and just pedal.  If I feel like cranking up the resistance and getting my heart rate up then I do...if I don’t then I don’t.  Either way, I always feel like something is better than nothing.  Sometimes, I may even switch over to the treadmill if I can.  The one thing I do notice is that usually my energy level is better when I go.
    • mauiblue
      mauiblue 2chr2015

      Posted

      That is a good approach. Just do what you can. IIts good you are gettig to the gym, and just doing what you can.

      i used to go to the gym 3-4x a week, was in pretty darn good shape. I need to somehow make my way back.

      ive got a lot of healing, to do though health wise..

      x0x0x

    • lori93950
      lori93950 mauiblue

      Posted

      Yes if you can exercise even if tired it lifts your mood ... I know it’s hard and literally have to DRAG myself but I do it ... it passes a few hours and feel somewhat normal afterwards. The only time in the day . 
    • lori93950
      lori93950 2chr2015

      Posted

      Yes do what you can something is better than nothing and yes you feel good afterwards .... 
    • lori93950
      lori93950 mauiblue

      Posted

      Wow Mauiblue ! That’s pretty traumatic !

      Me too ! I’ve handled BIG things well including getting run over by a car 11 years ago.... always positive and even if a bit down still had that magic that keeps you moving along .

      Now ... boy what a shock ! No magic here 

    • lori93950
      lori93950 martine00689

      Posted

      You just have to ride it out ... lock yourself away until it’s over . I’ve been  on the patch 2 months now and the depression is severe but without it I’m falling asleep everywhere and can’t make it through the day . 

      Trying the BHRT cream again 🙄 to see if it’s any better ... I’ll give it a week . Then I think I’m done . 

    • mauiblue
      mauiblue lori93950

      Posted

      I will have to try it. Ive done some things on you tube, videos, but it doenst really get me going, i need to be around a few other people to push myself or go jogging.

      x0x0x

      sorry your day is rough, we have to get through this so support is really important.

       

    • martine00689
      martine00689 lori93950

      Posted

      I am def locked away lol.  I don’t really want to be around anyone for fear one of my furnace flashes will start and everyone around me will catch on fire.  Evil it is.  👹 I started black cohosh about 2 weeks ago, not sure if it’s doing anything at all yet.  I also ordered some clary sage oil because it has estrogen balancing effects without effecting your system and causing more estrogen and it doesn’t have dangerous risks for causing other things.  Your supposed to rub it on your abdomen and can also use it in a diffuser, we will see.  Other than that I have no life, can’t eat what I want anymore because of the lousy digestive upsets and if I do eat even a little smidge of pizza , cake with sugar or a little glass of wine I’ll be sick for 3 days with gas and stomach cramps.  🤢 just peachy.  This site is great it help me get it all out even though I sound like a debbie downer.

    • mauiblue
      mauiblue lori93950

      Posted

      I've lived in poverty I've gotten into trouble and some areas nothing bad but I really had some hard times even as a kid but no ability to handle such things anymore.

      Just for fun I'm going to continue on the double estrogen and see how I do probably will stop at tomorrow if it gets too bad though and just do the Maca.

    • mauiblue
      mauiblue lori93950

      Posted

      I hope that after that happened to you they were able to make you feel safe and that it wasn't too hard on you but I know it probably was..

      Getting hit by a car yikes that's rough

    • mauiblue
      mauiblue martine00689

      Posted

      Debbie

      no you're not a Debbie Downer

      Lol

      I understand completely with the digestive situation I'm so used to having a messed up gut I don't know what it feels like to eat food and have it digest normally always upset nothing I eat really sit well with me not even water so it doesn't really matter.

      I could probably try aloe vera and start healing my gut because I know this can help with other things moods Etc but it's sometimes like I don't have the strength to keep trying things.

      I prefer to stay inside also it's a Scary World out there but I have to do so much outside so I just prepare myself mentally and get it over with everyday.

      I'm glad you are here on the site I hope that everyone can help as you have helped us.

      Xoxo

    • martine00689
      martine00689 mauiblue

      Posted

      Is maca something that can charge up the adreniline or is it good for stress?   I’ll have to check it out.
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