i feel like im dying

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how can peri make me feel this sick

it started jan 2016 but past 3 months have beem horrible. i wake up at 5am feeling so sick. i am beyond tired everyday all day ( prob cause i dont sleep much ) and my body doesnt feel good. i feel like i am slowly dying and even tho all my tests come back normal ( and i havr had a lot ) that they are missing something thats gonna kill me. my constant upset stomach/trapped air burping/ feeling unsteady when i walk is the worst one, amxiety, feel like i have ongoing flu.

please ease my mind and tell me im not alone. this seriously needs to stop. its putting me into depression

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    Your not alone hun there's a lot of us women out there feel the same it's horrible

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    You are not alone Kim! Its been 9 years since i felt good..everyday is something, but it gets a bit better. In the beginning felt as you do now, stomach issues, feeling sick, going from one doctor to another.. what it helped cutting sugars, caffeine, alcohol..i got on diet the past 2 months and i feel much better, i dont feel that flu like feeling and have more energy.

    It will get better walking daily helps also

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    how are u now. how old are u and what age were u when u started menopause. I am 59. started at 51 and still so sick in every way

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    HI Ladies i'm so glad i found this site

    has anyone experienced very sore breasts? my left one especially does anyone also have breast discharge? it freakin me out. My left breast has a little blood discharge-is this normal?

    i also have migrains and all the other fun stuff. Help !!! What is with this discharge??

    • Posted

      I would just check with the doc with that it cant hurt to just get it looked at but sore breasts are definitely a symptom for me.

    • Posted

      Hi there. I don’t wanna alarm you but you need to go to the doctor ASAP for the discharge with blood. That is not a part of menopause.

    • Posted

      thank you so much for your replys UGH! now in sweating with nerves. I read, in a few places. that its normal for pre-menopause that you can have clear, white, yellow-green and brown discharge so im guessing now this is not normal? mine could be brown, but looks likes blood. im 48 yrs old and periods are on and off

      i guess i wont sleep again tonight

    • Posted

      yes it can just be ectasia-this is in peri and meno women 45-55 and its from hormones. a totally benign problem!! causes breast pain and discharge. BUT unfortunately can also be a symptom of other things and you just have to get those other things ruled out. Have a big old glass of wine tonight. please let us know what the doctor says.

      xoxoxo

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    I now know that nausea is a part of this mess. The doctors are only going to recite what they know from the "normal" averages of symptoms but they don't listen so I am just getting through 1 day at a time and every day can be something different from the ever growing list of horrible peri/menopause symptoms. since i'm 52 and having been going through this hormonal disaster for 10 years I think I doing a bit better. I'm not sure if it's because I have been eating clean and exercising for the past 7 months or if my hormones are actually balancing out like they are supposed to do. I'm thinking that my change in diet and habits helped my body help itself not sure but I am using a very small amount of bioidentical progesterone cream every day and I take L Theanine for anxiety which seems to help. I still have insomnia which is the worse and I do still have waxing/wanning symptoms that appear whenever they feel like it. I can go for a few weeks and feel ok and the something will pop up. Lately it's been the itchy/crawly skin and scalp, another symptom doctors say they have never heard of and on and off palpitations which will then catapult my anxiety. I am thinking of going back to work although then I think about, what if I continue having sleepless nights and/or wake up with horrible symptoms and can't go to work. I don't know. I am just tying to get through it hoping to see the end soon but kind of think that for some of us, there will be no end to it. I don't know why and cannot wrap my head around the fact that some women breeze on through and some like myself literally feel like death is ensuing. Anyway, we are very strong in the midst our weakness and I know it does not feel that way but it's true. ANY one person who can withstand this kind of witchery has to be strong in mind and body! Keep on keepin on ladies!

    • Posted

      Theanine is great. I buy Thenine Serine and it works very well. I have a slew of herbs, especially hormone balancing Adaptogens, rub on projesterone and estrogen creams and single vitamins seem to work better together. I was also B12 deficient and the magnesium helps calm everything down, especially the heart. Good luck ladies, we all would like to help you all get back to a better place. It takes time, patience and some trial and error but hang in there!

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    Hi all and happy new year I just wanted to check in to see how everyone is doing after the holiday chaos. I myself have been battling the flu since right after christmas which has sent me over the edge with my health anxiety. I'm pretty much over the flu symptoms now but feel extremely fatigued and just like I want to sleep all the time. It didnt help that when I got the flu my hormones started to kick up again at the same time causing the same old digestive upsets, palpitations, itchy skin and horrid anxiety. I'm heading to 53 in a few months and post meno since last Jan so its def been over a year since my last period. The more I research the more I realize that these horrid symptoms can go on for year and years. It feels discouraging but i'm trying to plod through it one day at a time. I continue to see my therapist once a week who says that I need to get out more but i'm not feeling it and I usually have to force myself to go out. I have always had the seasonal depression but I think its much worse from the meno symptoms. My recent phys was good (before flu) with nothing but good blood work and my doc telling me that I had depression and anxiety and that I should get on antidepressants. I am already looking toward spring and longer days so I can grow my garden and enjoy the sunlight because it seems like my anxiety is better in the warmer months. I hope everyone is doing well.

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    Right now I am suffering with extremely bad flu. High temperature, headache, the bones on my face hurt, my nose burns. It is absolutely awful. Glad you are on the mend

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    Iv'e been thinking back to try to pinpoint just exactly how long I have been going through this hormonal disaster and I have cone to the conclusion that my perimenopause symptoms with bad anxiety started in 2005. Now that would make it 8 years. I remember the bad anxiety times I had while working in 2006-2008. I remember starting college in 2009 with horrible anxiety and awful periods, hot flashes, dizziness, palpitations, my internship in 2010 with more of the same and graduation with extreme anxiety and peri symptoms. I remember starting my bachelors program in 2011 with extreme anxiety and still funky periods, palpitations and then in 2013 at graduation with the worse periods and anxiety, palpitations ever. I remember getting hired at my job in 2014 with the same, horrible anxiety, new symptom of night time hot flashes and that went through to 2016 when my period slowed down completely and I was only getting a light one every 3 - 6 months. Nightly hot flashes palpitations got much worse in 2016 and maybe a period every 6 months very light though but anxiety got worse, stomach issues started happening, horrible weight gain. 2017 still horrible hot flashes all night, drenching me. 2018, period stopped in January. The worse anxiety and panic attacks I had experienced this far, bad digestive upsets, frequent palpitations, itchy skin, insomnia, depression. Hospitalized in May of 2018 on my birthday and was told I have anxiety and depression. Lost my job, spent the summer at my father's house. Hot flashes, palpitations, very bad insomnia on the daily, anxiety mellowing out a bit. Continued seeing my therapist, no pharmaceutical medications. Went back to my house feeling a hit better but still having hot flashes and anxiety. Started taking St John's Wort, black cohosh and L Theanine for anxiety. Symptoms of anxiety, palpitations and hot flashes better but tend to kick up now about every 3 months and I am battling SAD which I get every year. So, in a nutshell I have literally been going through this hormonal hell for approx 13 years. I am praying that this is the tail end of it all but when my hormones kick up again it makes me anxious and paniky again. I have changes my diet completely to vegan, lost 80lbs, I have had ny recent phys stating everytbing is fine and that I post menopause but she said testing for confirmation of it through lab tests or saliva even is useless because our hormones fluctuate throughout every day and HRT can exacerbate meno symptoms for some women. I am now a year post meno and completely exhausted from the long 13 year haul and I dont even know what to do with myself except for sit here and hope nothing new pops up for me to get anxious about. My sleep is better but I think this journey sucked the joy and life out of me. It did help me to put the mess in order so that I could reassure myself once again that it was all hormonally related and that I am not crazy after all. I hope this can help someone else work out their time line because I feel that it helps this whole chaotic journey make sense. Hang in there sister warriors.

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      My blood work always comes back normal for thyroid and everything else as well. I did a lot of reading for natural remedies and found that most are deficient in magnesium, among other things. That helped my palpitations a great deal. After my first full year of menopause, I was starting to have extreme anxiety and depression. I am much better with certain supplements. If you want, I'll give you a list to read up on. GABA and tryptophan for depression. Wild yam, estrosoy, holy basil and Ashwaghanda for hormones and regulation. Add a lot of people have B12 deficiency among other things like D and zinc but have to have blood work for "vitamins" done. Had that done through my naturopath. I can now leave my house and am better than last year. Hope you can find more things to help.

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      Im so sorry! Im in my 10th year and like you, soooo tired..right now im having bad headache for the past 6 days, im hoping will get better soon.

      Feel better xxxx

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