i feel like im dying

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how can peri make me feel this sick

it started jan 2016 but past 3 months have beem horrible. i wake up at 5am feeling so sick. i am beyond tired everyday all day ( prob cause i dont sleep much ) and my body doesnt feel good. i feel like i am slowly dying and even tho all my tests come back normal ( and i havr had a lot ) that they are missing something thats gonna kill me. my constant upset stomach/trapped air burping/ feeling unsteady when i walk is the worst one, amxiety, feel like i have ongoing flu.

please ease my mind and tell me im not alone. this seriously needs to stop. its putting me into depression

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    i am thinking the same. How can menopause make me THIS sick?!?! it must be something else. Ive had ekgs, heart montitor, colonscopy, endoscopy, mris, ultrasounds and everythings fine. But its NOT fine. Get use to one symptoms for a few weeks for it to be replaced with another scary one. I seriously worry my body wont withstand this storm. Currently, anxiety back, palpitations, breathing issues, have to keep clearing my throat, stomach rumbling and gas, feel like ive had the flu for a week. Last month was dizzyness, extreme leg aches, anxiety .... I know from blood work im in post for about a year now (partial hysterectomy-kept ovaries) but the symptoms just get more severe. im trying to hold on and just get through it. Not taking hrt, but wonder if i should. Tired of always wondering if I need to go to dr. We will get through it! Hopefully your seeing better days.

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      OMG! Have you been at my house because you just described almost all my symptoms besides the flu feeling. I have the nasal allergies. WTW is going on in our bodies? This is ridiculous! When you said clearing your throat, stomach rumbling, back pain, dizziness I just thought, we are all really going through some mess with this menopause. The headaches and brain fog are a nusiance as well. This site helps me when I'm really down with the health anxiety. We shall get through this mess. Thank you for your comment.

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      I feel exactly like you and I've started taking menobalance by starpowa hoping its working as my nausea has gone as well as my extreme fatigue and dizziness

      Now I've got uterus pain and light brown discharge! never ending perimenopause.

      Sending you hugs

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    Hi Kim

    I wanted to reach out since I am also feeling a lot of symptoms that you are but I cant find out what is happening. I am hoping to find someone that can help me ... I am so worried...feels like no one understands what I am going through. Please help

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      Mili, trust me I understand! I have just about every symptom except night sweats...yet! It is tough going through this, because you feel like nobody will understand!! If you need to talk, I have 2 good ears to listen! It's always nice when you can talk to someone who understands what you're going through! I'll be praying for you & countless others going through this....hang in there...you'll get through it!

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    I came on here this morning because I feel exactly the same way. Feel like I'm dying. My muscles ache and feel weak. I'm running to the bathroom. Am off-kilter, like I'm outside my body. My eyes can barely focus. I'm nauseated and full of air. And while the people in my world ate sympathetic, they just don't know how bad this feels. Which makes me feel so alone. So now I'm having a big cry. So glad to have this forum. To remind me I'm not alone. And menopause is not going to kill me, no matter how scary it is. Wishing you recovery!!!

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    hi im new to this but so glad i found it as i now know im not the only one going through this. my fear constantly is that im going to have a heart attack. in the past 12 months i have developed really bad anxiety(which never in my life would thought i would get this).Doctor has put me on propandlol which i didnt really want to take but its the only thing that stops my daily anxiety attacks.

    Im 53 and post menopause. Joint pain,back pain and constant flutter in my chest which obviously sends my mind into overdrive!!!!!!

    Please someone tell me this eventually go!

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    I also feel dreadful too. I'm 51 and my chest pains are really stressing me out big time. I'm so anxious and feel sick and I feel my whole insides are shaking. I'm really not coping with it all.

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      Goodyt, I'm the same! Anxious, full body tremble, shaking! no appetite, nauseous! Anxiety, crying, insomnia! I'm not coping well either!! I'll be praying for you! God is good!!

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    I feel awful too. I have really bad chest pains and they are terrifying me. I'm 51 and I have pain in my neck and shoulders feel sick and my whole insides feel shaky. I'm so anxious too. struggling to cope with all this.

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    hi, Kim

    I started going through this may 2016 right now I feel like hell. my sleep is off stomach is upset just bubbling now as we type this. left arm hurt sometimes it go to both arms. ringing in the ears, sometimes irregular heart beat like it skipping. it feel like I am going crazy. we need help. I hope we both make it through this change.

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    Oh my goodness! I'm so glad I found this! I am 39, and I was just recently diagnosed as being in perimenopause. I had terrible symptoms like anxiety and extreme pressure and pain in my head and ears beginning in the summer of 2017. My GP was extremely dismissive of me and sent me to an ENT who tried treating me for Meneire's disease. He put me on a diuretic, and I ended up in the hospital. My GP then gave me no answers, leaving me to guess what was wrong. The panic attacks were terrible, and I went to the hospital alot during that time. The final straw was when my GP tried to put me on Atavan. A kind ER doctor diagnosed me with anxiety/panic disorder, but no one even considered perimenopause because of my age. I started seeing a therapist, which helps, and even my symptoms started to ease. But, beginning in the summer of 2020, the anxiety ramped back up and the physical symptoms came back with a vengeance. My new doctor said that it is definitely perimenopause and has me stacking birth control pills to help. I've been doing this since September, but I don't see much change. It is always worse around what would be ovulation or my period. And I get so angry when other women who have been through it tell me to tough it out and push through it. I just want to feel better and be myself again!

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    hi. i am new and am a wreck!! Reading this helped me and i decided to join.

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    Has anyone missed work from feeling so terrible ?

    Im going on my 3 rd week now and im feeling very guilty, but my body is in horrible shape. I've been to the doctor's, and all my blood work and scans are fine. How can i feel so aweful, and still have tests come back Negative. This is all new to me. I feel like I hit a wall, and it dropped me flat on my face. Am i going crazy. Im not too sure at this point. Im not getting paid to be off work, so no money coming in, however my extreme fatigue, pain and headaches are just too much now. Never felt this ever. Im usually very healthy and positive. All i can say is Augh.

    Im glad I've run across this article. This way i dont feel so alone .

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      Hi Robin,

      I did have a few weeks in 2019 where I missed work, yes, you are not alone with this. I was very, very lucky with the timing... I was working on a project that was all internal and deadlines could be flexible.

      I did nothing for those weeks but alternate pacing through the house; try to find a comfortable spot to sit/stand/lie down; visit the bathroom; and visit doctor after doctor. I could barely stomach food, so lived on tea and watermelon (the only thing that I could stomach) and gatorade.

      I am 50 now, and at the time my periods were going haywire... sometimes bad bad pms but no bleed; sometimes would bleed out of nowhere completely off schedule; the headaches were constant, and I would be too wired to sit down, then 30 minutes later I couldn't keep my eyes open.

      No tests ever turned up anything except gastritis. I started HRT (estradiol patch and progestigen pill) and have been much better up until recently. (Lots of stress lately though... car stuff, home stuff, etc).

      welcome!! Hope we can 'meet' in better days ahead.

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      I'm not missing work in the sense of weeks off at once but I am in the sense that I'm often late for work because when I'm getting ready I need to poop and I get all panicky with tachycardia, shaking, sweating and I can't go until I'm better so I have to call (once again) to say I'll be late, then I feel guilty and cry because it's a new job that I really wanted and I think they'll sack me., then guilty cause my daughter has ocd and I think it's my fault....and on and on goes my day...always pretending...pretending to be ok so that my Mum doesn't worry, pretending to be ok at work, in front of my daughter, friends...sorry for the vent 😦

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