I have children I need to get my life back, any advise on getting back to normal ASAP ?
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Hello,
I'm 30 years old and have 6 children, this operation is taking over my life !! I'm starting to get really depressed and switching off to everyone, I've been reall S repressed a few years ago when with my X as we have 4 children together, before this opp my life was perfect, I'm getting married next year, found my perfect man and got 2 kids together now (6 in our eyes) and now everything seams to be falling apart because of me and Thai operation !!
They say don't lift anything more than a kettle full, but I'm in th real world and I'm sure unless your childless and don't work you can follow the rule exactly but I am strugerling already and my help goes next week when I'm 5 weeks post opp, I do have help most days BUT not to be able to pick my 6 month old up is killing me, I don't even feel like his mum and to even wrote this has me in tears, any advice I would really appreciate, even how is the correct position to sit 4 weeks after the opp as I'm in sure on that !!!
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phyl_40063 Patricia.1985
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I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it must be for you. I had a family of 6, but they were spread out and the first 4 are away either married or in own flat. 2 left at home but only one still dependent and she is now 12, having said that has hardly helped.
Anyhow I found it difficult juggling 6 kids, work and part-time study at the best of times never mind trying to cope with surgery. You do really have to only do what is nessisary, and do your best to rest, rest, rest , you want to be able to look after family in long run so you have to first look after yourself and delegate all the heavy chores to anyone who will help!
Focus in future on your wedding, you want to be OK for that so start by taking progress slowly a little at a time. I know it's hard but you need to ficus and delagate jobs.
Phyk xx 💖
Patricia.1985 phyl_40063
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All the major stuff we leave or if have a few extra hands then it all gets done. It's so fustrating and worrying, I'm useally a busy mum and jays how I like it, my kids are all lovely and well behaved and now everything is tiring upside down, my routines .. How things are done and missed appointment arhhhhhh !! I'm the kind of person who doesn't coup well if things are changed, been like it my whole life, suffered with panic attacks , depression and am worried it's all coming back, hence why the kind advice and understanding on here I'm hoping will keep me Sain ! Xx
phyl_40063 Patricia.1985
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I know there is nothing worse than disrupting routine especially when got big family. But could you kerp 2 younger kids up for longer in evening/ at night while you have more help in house and hopefully they may sleep longer in the morning, so you will have less time on your own with them. At least for a little while until you are able to weight bear.
What about the younger ones are they in playgroup / nursery. Sometimes the play leaders can help collect them from home and bring them back. One time when some of my older kids took chicken pox, the play leaders offered to do just that with one of my younger kids, they picked her up on route to work and brought her back on there way home .
You will have to be really careful with little ones, last time I had my hysterectomy and anterior repair my daughter was off on maternity leave she had 2 boys one at 6 months and the other at 18 months, and I prolapsed again, it is so difficult ad it's only natural to lift them without thinking.
Do your best to look after yourself, and be as careful as you can.
Phyl xx💖
Gillian22766 Patricia.1985
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dont not pick him up that is how I did the damage after my hystorectomy
with the grandchild and shopping.
your husband will be patient they just don't understand the woman's body Lv.
i spent all day yesterday crying saying why me, today I am ok lol
big hugs coming your way, your hu
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Patricia.1985 Gillian22766
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Very alkward to no what's the best way to sit and how much to do / walking around the house is best xx
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Patricia.1985 eve33308
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I have help from mum 2 days a week and an aunty 2 days a week, so the main concern is the babies and then school runs and I don't no anyone and school have said all they can offer is after school clubs, I wonder if my sons weight would be ok to lift before 12 weeks ? Xx
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Jan999 Patricia.1985
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Regarding your question about sitting you can sit any way that's comfortable. It may be a good idea to have a chat with your GP because there are medical reasons as to why you are feeling so depressed and it may be he could suggest a blood test. Anaemia and under active thyroid come to mind. 😘😘
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