I'M EXHAUSTED!!

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Hi all....I apologize in advance for this post as it's gonna be a "gripe" session as opposed to pnr/gca related. Sorry!

For the past several days I've been receiving notifications in "dribbles" (2 or 3 every few hours). Today...I got SLAMMED with over 40 all at one time!

while trying to respond, I started realizing that every time I'd post, they were all being placed sorta randomly and out of order as to how I was answering them. I wrote them and EVEN I couldn't make sense out of them!😵

I'm concerned when some folks read them, I may sound a bit of a "lunatic"!

my question is...is anyone else as "fed-up" and exhausted as I, and what can we do about it??

I don't want to leave this forum as the advice/education I've received has proven to be invaluable....also, I thoroughly enjoy so MANY of you....but truth be told...I'm exhausted!!!

Any thoughts??

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    Just calm down and don't worry about reading or replying to every comment - it isn't expected by anyone I promise. Those of us who have been on the forum for a long time take it as it comes and if we can't get to everything we don't worry about it. Some people don;t even read every thread - they look at the first post and decide if they are interested in it and follow it if they are. Otherwise they ignore it.

    The more comments you (or anyone else) make, the more there is to bother about. Just read and gather what you need from it - that is the point. You don't have to think you have to help everyone, you just take and give what you can. Instead of replying to every comment, save it up and write one comment that all of us will read and take from it what we require. That then slows down the thread and makes it easier for everyone else as well.

    Don't spend all day on the forum - just choose a time that is good for you and sit down with a drink and look at what came in since the last time. If you just look a couple of times a day you will read a whole thread maybe at one go - and then can make YOUR comment as one substantial reply instead of a dozen bitty ones. Until you follow a thread you only get the notification it has been started and you will have like a chapter of a book to read. The reason your posts seem out of order is because of the nesting - and if you only reply to the original poster it won't be as complicated but everyone will see it if they need/want to and their replies to you will also be less confusing.

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    I think we just need to be patient. The moderator says they are aware of the problems and the techies are working on it. We don't know what goes on behind the scenes. This may be a huge site being run by only a small handful of people. I don't know. What's happened is probably unintended consequences caused by them not understanding exactly how people use the forum. I believe the PMR forum is the busiest and we do use the forum more and in a different way than others. If they can fix it to make us happy then they'll have solved problems for everyone!

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      thank-you Anhaga. I'm really not "blaming" anyone....I'm well aware "stuff happens"!

      just venting some frustration....😭

      I'm hangin' in....this forum is too valuable ti me!

  • Posted

    Yes, I have lots of thoughts, some the same as yours and many that are unprintable.

    I just squeaked in to IT when computers came into schools just before I retired and all I've kept up with is enough to enable me to use the bits I want; I have no basic knowledge how it works.

    Our protests and complaints get sympathetic answers from the EMIS moderator but I don't think we can hold him responsible for all the problems; he's there to make sure we don't misbehave. So who is next up or down the line? Who actually sets the pattern and do he/she/they have any idea of the purpose of a forum like this. ?

    I and others have several time pointed out that we used to be able to click on the latest post in a thread and then up would come all the previous ones in that thread that we had not previously read and then we could mark them all as read and move on to the next thread. That worked fine. Now, as you say, we are in danger of running out of time/ strength/ will to live and missing posts we would have wanted to read.

    Is there someone out there that could communicate this to whoever has inflicted the present set up on us?

    Eileen's answer to you is good if you can do it. I can't. I guess that is a personality problem. I hate the idea of missing out on something I would have liked to know.

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      Thank you. You have just described my thoughts perfectly.

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    I just read a few at a time and delete the ones I have read. Only read what you feel like Lynda , you can only be available when you are up to it, answering so many would not be fun at all.

    Don't forget it's a forum not a job and we are all aware now.

    I suppose it would happen like that at times, there did seem to be a lot today.

    I have learned heaps from you so don't leave.

    Not sure where you live or what time it is there, I'm in Sydney Australia, it's 10.55pm Monday 29th, depending on where we are all come from could be the reason everything is clogging up on internet ?

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      Hi Vicki...so happy to hear from you! I'm in the USA (California, to be precise) and it's now 5:32am here. I've been up ALL night _Ughhh)....one of those LONG, sleepless nights 😖!

      there's so much going on here (politically)....it's very difficult to sleep! hopefully after the mid-term elections, 11/6, things will settle down....not holding my breath tho!😏

      thx for your jind words. I appreciate them!

    • Posted

      Budget Day here Lynda ( UK )I'm not holding my breath either.

    • Posted

      No petrol tax rise and no booze tax rise!!

    • Posted

      No more PFI - is that right? Worth the agony for that alone.

      ptolemy - thought wine didn't get a mention? Your bubbles will go up ...

    • Posted

      That's right, Eileen. No more PFI funding.

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      Tell me. Should never have happened in the first place.

    • Posted

      Too late, it has happened!! I don't think anyone in their right mind would try it again anyway so he really is just pandering to the people.

    • Posted

      Well, "every little helps", as someone has said.

    • Posted

      That's the trouble with democracy; it assume the people know what's good for them. And the trouble with politicians is that they have little idea about people just how to manipulate them. Cheers!

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      Wonder if they will try to do anything about the existing contracts. OH worked in the first PFI hospital that included all the services in PFI too - now THAT was a disaster if ever...

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      Wish we could all get down the pub together. I'm sure this exchange is boosting our serotonin levels.

      Don't think they'll be back, Eileen. Weren't they T.B,s idea? .... McDonnell will never go there and Phil says he won't sign any more so we're safe for a bit.

    • Posted

      Me too Betty - but it's long way for me to Deepest Norfolk!!!!

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      I think it was TB. He came to the hospital where I worked. I'm sure he opened some unit and there is a plaque to that effect. I'll try to remember to look the next time I'm there. It was beautifully 'brassoed'. That didn't last and it was very quickly covered in finger marks. I guess the polishing of fripperies will be part of the cuts!!!

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      I suspect they'll just leave them. They are refusing to buy out the car park at Ninewells because of the cost. It's scandalous that people have to pay. What's worse is that people who take someone there in an emergency situation can fall foul of the regulations because they are in a stressful situation and don't stop to read them. Who on earth would be thinking about that? Then they are penalised and charged. Adding insult to injury and piling on the pressure. I'll get off my soapbox now.

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      They appeared in 1992 - under John Major's lot and then post 1996 they became widespread under New Labour. TB used them to get votes in his own constituency - shiny new hospitals to replace falling down hulks. Don't get me started!!!!!

    • Posted

      Ah, that rings a bell. I thought John Major introduced it but somebody else said it was TB. I was trying to remember. Thank you, Eileen.

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      It was originally John Major's government's idea which was highly criticised if I remember by Harriet Harman and Alistair Darling. In fact there were very few PFIs until 1998 when they were rather like a waterfall. They even had PFIs in 2000 for GCHQ and the Treasury building. I remember thinking at the time it was mad.

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      Hi Lynda

      I understand re: sleepless nights , just awful.

      I read a lot about USA politics, wishing you all luck with the outcome.

      Our politicians can't get their act together over here, unrest amongst themselves.

      would be good to have a peaceful world.

    • Posted

      boy oh boy Vicki....you've got that right (about peace)!

      our political environment is sooo ugly and toxic right now, it's really quite unbelievable!

      hoping for a Great birthday gift next Tuesday (11/06)....ELECTION DAY!!😜👍

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      Thank you ptolemy for the reminder. I had erased it from my mind, probably because the implications for the future were so awful which they have proved to be.

    • Posted

      The point is it's no longer possible to mark as read posts you haven't actually opened!

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