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I'm really anxious and emotional, I feel tired and wake up every night about 3 or 4 in the morning.

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tracyjgordon
tracyjgordon

I have zero sex drive and just feel almost invisible and unattractive, I used to be confident and outgoing but now I feel insecure. I sometimes feel like just running away and living alone even though I can't afford to. One minute I can feel emotional the next almost emotionless and empty. I love my job but feel useless most of the time.

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  • ImagineOneDay
    ImagineOneDay tracyjgordon

    Posted

    I truly understand. You are NOT ALONE if it helps at all. Take care and be kind to yourself.
    • francis28355
      francis28355 tracyjgordon

      Posted

      Hi. I started going through perimenopause a few months ago. I feel very low daily and have no sex drive. My relationship is now suffering and this is not like me as usually so positive. It is very hard and something that I have never experienced. Keep your chin up. Hopefully we will both get better 
    • tracyjgordon
      tracyjgordon francis28355

      Posted

      It's awful isn't it and no one warned me how horrible it was going to be, my husband thinks I'm just depressed because I don't have any sex drive but he doesn't understand everything else I'm feeling. I'm so glad I've found this group it's making me feel so much better just being able to talk about things with other people who understand thank you x

  • littleme1969
    littleme1969 tracyjgordon

    Posted

    I think we are all the same at one level or another on this forum. And you can only truly understand if you are dealing with it yourself , so finding others to talk to is hard .  Trust me it does get easier with time. smile This time last year i was a basket case who could only sit in my chair and shake. I was also in the pits of despair, crying one minute numb the  next , panic attacks ... no energy or drive to do anything.. had to force myself to do the basics of house cleaning etc. A year on im feeling much brighter .. back to working a bit and enjoying it . still quite anxious at times and get the odd down day, but over all 50% improvement on how i was a year ago.. Just keep plodding, eat clean.. no sugar caffeine alcohol etc.  drink lots of water and soya milk . Try to find things that you are really interested in and love and make time for yourself.   It does improve so dont loose hope xx
    • tracyjgordon
      tracyjgordon littleme1969

      Posted

      Thank you for your advise and support it's nice to know I'm not alone and that there is hope x

    • marcia_27799
      marcia_27799 littleme1969

      Posted

      I feel so horrible right now trying to find some connection or comfort in your words but it can't stop shaking please god help me I am so scare soooo terrified of what I am feeling. 

    • louise25018
      louise25018 marcia_27799

      Posted

      Hi Marcia I just saw your message and was worried about you. Are you ok? Please try to relax and not panic. Breath slowly and deeply and think of something you love. It is a terrifically difficult thing to do when you feel like this I know but please try. I just wanted u to know that you aren’t alone. Please message if you need to. Take care x
    • ivey13068
      ivey13068 marcia_27799

      Posted

      Marcia.....how are you doing? I go through periods of extreme anxiety so I have been where you are. Please hang in there. 
    • sarah39816
      sarah39816 marcia_27799

      Posted

      Hi Marcia,

      I just saw your post and wanted to let you know you are not alone.  Peri is a scary time filled with lots of terrible mental and physical symptoms.  Everyday can be different in terms of those symptoms.  Please try to take a deep breath as Louise had suggested and try to relax.  I find slow, deep breathing helps me stop shaking and will calm me.  I lay down and put my hands on my belly, inhaling with a deep breath as I feel my belly rise and then exhaling to a count of 10.  I do this 5 times and then close my eyes and then let my body completely relax, letting all my muscles sink into the floor.  I will repeat this exercise until the tremors stop.  Afterward I will sip some valerian tea or camomile tea and that will relax me, also.  It can be scary when these tremors come on.  But it is important to remember it is only temporary and a symptom of peri.  I know sometimes it feels like you are going crazy, but all of this is will go away.  You will be ok!  Please continue to post on this site and let everyone know how you are doing.  Most importantly, please remember you are definitely not alone.  Take care of yourself and know that many ladies are experiencing the very same things you are going through and you are not alone in this.  You will get through it!  Please feel free to message me anytime.  I would be glad to chat.  Big hugs--Sarah

    • marcia_27799
      marcia_27799 louise25018

      Posted

      Louise thanks you so much I am so overwhelmed and I felt so bad when I reacted because I realized that I jumped into Tracy's message. 

      I am so bad I don't know what to do anymore. I have been in the doctor every week OBGYN, intern medicine name all. Today I gave more blood to do my thyroid test again because the new doc said that the hospital now mbers don't make sense. 

      This week every night my blood pressure go up and I ended up taking lorazepam to calm down. 

  • michelleds
    michelleds tracyjgordon

    Posted

    I'm sorry you feel that way, and I know exactly how you feel. I used to feel so attractive, fit, youthful and energetic not to mention confident and bold... but lately have been feeling the exact opposite on all counts. Though when I do make the effort to look pretty and be cheerful, I feel a bit better about life. Some days are better than others. Be kind to yourself.  I keep telling myself - this is a tunnel you'll get through.

    • tracyjgordon
      tracyjgordon michelleds

      Posted

      Thank you I'm going to try and make an effort too. Thanks so much for your support and understanding x

  • sarah39816
    sarah39816 tracyjgordon

    Posted

    You are not alone!  I have zero sex drive and that makes me (and my husband!) very sad. I think to myself, I’m only 46!  Is this where sex ends?  It’s been a few years that I’ve been in peri and it’s frustrating to have no drive.  Sex is uncomfortable and I just don’t feel like myself.  I used to enjoy intimacy and  I miss it very much.  My husband understands and we talk about what I’m going through, but I’m still frustrated by it all.  It just makes me feel old!

    I also feel very isolated and sometimes I just want to run.  It can be very scary.  I’m considering BHRT to help with some of my symptoms. It’s been a long process with all the tests. My next appt. is Nov. 8th and I’m hoping my doctor and I will be able to develop a good plan so that I can get back to feeling normal. 

    I’m sorry you feel this way, but please know you are not alone. Try to take care of you and know that this will pass. I have to tell myself this everyday.  Hugs—Sarah

    • tracyjgordon
      tracyjgordon sarah39816

      Posted

      I hope your appt on Nov 8th goes well and your doctor can help. I'm taking black co-host and am taking marazapine for the anxiety. My friend too HER and said when she stopped taking it in her 60's her menopause symptoms came back so it put me off taking HEY. Thank you for your support and understanding x

    • sarah39816
      sarah39816 tracyjgordon

      Posted

      Thanks for your support!  It’s really difficult, but I know we’ll all get through it.  Please continue to post and let us know how you’re doing. Take care! Hugs!  —Sarah
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