I've only had 1 sexual partner my whole life and I tested positive for genital herpes but he didn't.

Posted 9 years ago, 8 users are following.

altofctrl

About a month ago I rushed myself to urgent care due to swelling on my vaginal opening and pain whenever I used the bathroom, walked, or even when I would sit down. The doctor examined me, took some culture swabs and told me it looks like I had folliculitis caused from shaving, a bacterial infection, and also 2 sores that look like herpes. When she mentioned herpes a wave of emotions ran through my head, how could I have herpes when I've only had one sexual partner in my whole 22 years of life?!

I told my longterm boyfriend the results and at first he was very supportive. We've been together since we were 16 and he was my first everything, so if I got herpes it was only right that I would assume I got it from him, right? wrong. I went to my follow up appointments, got my blood drawn and when the results came in I got a call that I had genital herpes and that was that. Immediately I was floored, devastated, and like my whole world collapsed. I urged my boyfriend to get tested immediately and he did. When he got his results and it came back negative, I couldn't understand how this could happen to me. When he tested negative that's when things started to change, he started doubting my sexual history, insulting my character and bringing me down for something I don't even have a clue how I got. He has cheated on me before and I know he was had other partners in the past other than me. I was a virgin when I met him and I've never slept with anyone since him.

Now all I ask, is there a way that his results could've been a mistake? he's getting tested again but his doctor claims he's clean, at least that's what he proclaims to me. or is there some explanation as to how I got herpes and he didn't when he has actively sleeping around and I haven't?

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NuMe altofctrl

Posted 9 years ago

You have HSV-2? He could get a false negative. BUT from my personal experience I'd ask to actually visually see the results from your boyfriend.
- altofctrl NuMe
  
  Posted 9 years ago
  
  Yes I tested positive to HSV-2. He's getting checked again just to make sure he wasn't given a false negative but he says he will give me a print out of the results from his doctor once the results are in
- NuMe altofctrl
  
  Posted 9 years ago
  
  Okay. Well if you know you haven't slept with anyone else I don't see how anything else could be possible. I know how you feel. I hope you get an answer that makes sense from the doctors
- altofctrl NuMe
  
  Posted 9 years ago
  
  Thank you, I really hope so too. I'm just hoping it's also not the doctor's mistake because the first time I went to urgent care for my pains they made a mistake with my culture swabs and made me come back the next day because they used the wrong equipment to examine me. Idk how they can possibly screw up a blood test but I'm just trying to consider all my options to stop me from going crazy. Thanks again though.
littley89522 altofctrl

Posted 9 years ago

He could have it but be dormant so means it won't show on test, that's why you can't test for herpes unless your showing symptoms
- altofctrl littley89522
  
  Posted 9 years ago
  
  I hope that's the case because I really have no other idea how I could've contracted HSV-2 if it wasn't from him. it's all just really scary, i've gone back and forth trying to figure out how else I could've gotten it and I have really run out of options. But thanks for the information, I will look more into it
- FelizCastus altofctrl
  
  Posted 9 years ago
  
  Littley is incorrect. Dormant infections can most definitely show up via the IgG test.
Sabrina55 altofctrl

Posted 9 years ago

Could he be taking longer to build up the antibodies that will show a postivie result? I can see why you are so upset and confused.
- altofctrl Sabrina55
  
  Posted 9 years ago
  
  I really have no idea, all I know is from what he's been telling me. That he's clean and he's negative. It all just seems pretty fishy to me, and I can't even trace it back to anything because he's been my only partner and the only source from which I can actually get the truth (other than my doctors of course). It's just that I know in myself that I didn't personally go out and cheat and get herpes. It's just really hard that no one believes me that I didn't mess around because here I am with a postive result for HSV-2 and my partner is negative
- beas altofctrl
  
  Posted 8 years ago
  
  I recently came up with it and I've not slept with anyone but my boyfriend. I also read up about speeding it yourself. I've had a sore nose for about a year which I now think maybe cold sores on the inside. I'm thinking maybe I've given it to myself?
- beas
  
  Posted 8 years ago
  
  Spreading*
sweethheart5703 altofctrl

Posted 9 years ago

I would say that maybe it's too soon for him. Maybe he recently cheated on you? Did you see anything weird on him lately? Very strange.
- altofctrl sweethheart5703
  
  Posted 9 years ago
  
  The last I know of him sleeping with someone else was about a year ago, but then again that's all I know. Lately I haven't, however he's had these tiny bumps around the rim of the tip of his penis. Before he got his negative result, I thought ok maybe he does have herpes considering those weird bumps, but during his examination the doctor said it was nothing, just penile papules. so I'm basically back to square one and just confused about everything.
FelizCastus altofctrl

Posted 9 years ago

False negatives are less likely than false positives. How were you both tested, which test? What was your IgG score? Is there a chance you acquired this from your mother during her pregnancy with you?
- FelizCastus
  
  Posted 9 years ago
  
  Did you see your bf's test results? Basically, if you've never had any kind of sex or genital intimacy besides with your bf, then it's either him or via your mother. Most obvious is your bf. I need to know more details, though, as above.
- altofctrl FelizCastus
  
  Posted 9 years ago
  
  I went to urgent care and they tested me using a swab on my sores and then I went to their lab and they drew out blood. I'm not sure if it was an IgG blood test though, all in all I'm very clueless as to what is going on. when the lab called with my results the man said nothing more than that I've tested positive for herpes, he didn't even mention whether it was HSV-1 or HSV-2, he just said I have herpes. my doctor also has failed to mention which virus it is and when she first checked me it seemed like she wasn't really used to dealing with herpes because she used the wrong swab to get a live culture sample and I had to go back the next day and this time a different Doctor did the culture swab on me.
- FelizCastus altofctrl
  
  Posted 9 years ago
  
  How frustrating for you! So, the swab was presumably a viral culture and tested positive for herpes, but you still don't know which type, and you are still waiting on the second swab and blood test results, right? Make sure you find out the type, what they tested for (HSV-1 and/or HSV-2), and which test they used (e.g., IgG).
  As for the source, it is more than likely your bf. Did he show you his results? What test did he do? IgG for herpes is the only good one. If he only got this recently himself, he will need to retest in 3 months.
  Don't let him blame you when the most likely source is himself! He needs to know that he can have it without symptoms and that the IgG test window period is 3-4 months (testing too soon is the main reason for a "false" negative).

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