is anyone else experiancing outbreaks every 2 weeks?:(
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Im new to this site! Im 25 years old I caught genital herpes 3 years ago and only ever had my first outbreak..then for the past 3 months ive had the constantly every 2 weeks.doctor gave my supressive therapy but still ive experianced an outbreak now..does anyone else feel so down when they have outbreaks?
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Kaystar89
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I was diagnosed with Herpes in October 2012 and I'm getting outbreaks every 2 weeks as well, I can set my watch that by day 14 it'll start! In fact I am getting more outbreaks as time goes on compared to when I first
got it.
I'm still as devastated today as I was when I got the call. It came as a complete surprise, even the nurse
said she couldn't believe my test results as she was sure I just had thrush, and my first outbreak cleared up within a day of using thrush cream. It took the clinic 6 weeks to get back to me with my results, as they had already told me I was negative for everything, just a horrible phone call completely out of the blue one day. In that 6 weeks I did not have any outbreaks at all, but as soon as I find out I have it they're coming every 2 weeks
I take suppressive medication sometimes, but when it runs out I'm too ashamed to keep going to the chemist to pick up my prescription.
I am just so angry, disappointed and disgusted in myself, I didn't even want to have sex with the person that gave it to me, I just got stuck in a really horrible situation (I was not raped) I really don't see how I can ever meet anyone, get married or have kids. Especially as I'm suffering so much from it and I'm guaranteed to pass it on. I can never ever do that to someone. I can't even talk to men because I just feel guilty and I know they should stay away from me.
I told my friend everything, who says it's not a big deal, but then she got drunk and told me she thought I hhad ruined my life and she would never be with someone who had it. As soon as she was sober she said that's not what she meant, but it was. It's even more annoying because she sleeps around so much, unprocted and has never even had thrush, but the one time I do I get a disease for the rest of my life.
From reading, this amount of outbreaks isn't normal so I'm now panicked that I might have something much worse, which is stopping me from being able to control it. Everything I've read says outbreaks should get less and less and within a year your body should have a control on it.
Does this ever get better?
miamaria2 Kaystar89
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I got diagnosed with genital herpes end of May this year and finding out that these stupid little spots weren't an irritation or pimples, but instead a virus that will stay with me for the rest of my life absolutely destroyed me.
I have been living in the dark for the past 8 months, scared, worried and disgusted that I let this happen. I was 17 years old, almost 18 and it breaks me knowing that I truly didn't deserve this in any way. Second time sleeping with a guy and BAM I'm doomed for life.
Sorry I don't mean to poor out all my frustration onto you, I just felt like I could really relate to your post and because none of my close friends have any experience or knowledge of this virus, I feel awkward and ashamed to talk to them about it.
I have outbreaks every month, sometimes twice a month. My main triggers are my menstrual cycle I think as I usually have an outbreak during or afterwards.
Have you possibly for any sort of advise for me, I know it might sounds silly, but I think it's so much nicer talking to someone who knows exactly what you're going through...
Thanks in advance
theresa48911 miamaria2
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Words of advice; don't discuss your herpesvirus to anyone, including your friends. If they don't have it they won't understand it. You are judged. Living with the virus isn't as awful as we may initially believe. Outbreaks do become less infrequent. I've gone 2 years without an outbreak before. You will be able to notice signs quicker that way you can start suppressive therapy before it gets bad. Stress does seem to be the worst cause of outbreaks so pay attention to that and minimize stress in your life. Lastly, having herpesvirus does not end your love life. I've never spread the virus to a lover. You just need to be in very good tune with your body and refrain from sex at the first sign of a possible outbreak.
Good luck. Hope this helps
k490 theresa48911
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mike82336 Kaystar89
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tina40054 Kaystar89
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love00472 Kaystar89
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Trucker1 Kaystar89
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It does suck! I'm taking 1000mg/valtrex a day and I'm still having OB every week!!! One goes away and two days later bam...another! I wanna die! I'm gonna see an infectious disease Dr. Good luck
nicole76937 Trucker1
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emma73873 Trucker1
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Hi try natural things like 5 cups of redbush tea a day and use coconut oil in your diet and also use coconut oil on the area. I haven't broken out for nearly 2 years. Read up on the benefits of both it helps honestly
lindacv miamaria2
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Hello my darling!!! You have to start by changing your language!!! When you use words like "destroyed" "ashamed" "disgusted" "doomed" you are creating feelings of hopelessness in yourself, and it just isn't necessary. Try to use words that are less extreme and more loving to yourself. Nothing to be disgusted or feel guilty about, in the act of being human and vulnerable and passionate you contracted an inconvenient virus, nothing to be "ashamed" of or guilt ridden over. Many, many people have this annoying, not deadly, virus. It is not the end of your life. It is not the end of your sex life. It is not the end of your dreams and desires to have a family. I contracted the virus when I was 25 and now at age 57, I have had boyfriends, marriage, family, and live a rich and beautiful and sexually active life. I have NEVER infected anyone. The worst thing about this virus is the cultural stigmas.
I'm also a holistic health and nutrition coach. Diet and lifestyle are sueper important for minimizing outbreaks. In a nutshell, mind the following:
Get sufficient sleep (be protective of those 7-8 hours every night!!)
Maintain a solid fitness routine, preferably something you love, dance, yoga, hike, pilates, whatever gives you joy.
Be mindful of a healthy balanced diet, lots of veggies, some meat, good saturated fats (real butter, eggs, coconut, palm oil, etc.) and make most of your meals at home with good fresh ingredients!
Avoid processed foods, minimize sugars.
Research foods that are high in lysine and low in arginine, incorporate that into your diet.
Supplement with lysine and vitamin c and D3, research others if you like.
Minimize stress, take a Meditation Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) course and use mindfulness meditation every day to calm your mind.
LOVE YOURSELF UP!!!!! focus on your goals!!!! Know that you are ok!
And please.....if you can't get a handle on the negative thoughts, find yourself a good therapist and get the support you need. This just isn't the end of your life. It's only the beginning and your journey as a human being is SOOO much bigger than a pesky virus. Get this in perspective.
And good for you for expressing yourself here and beginning to be open for support.
Much love to you.
kevin-Canada miamaria2
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Growth Kaystar89
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It gets better when your mentalilty about it gets better. It sucks, trust me when I get them I feel so crazy. But after just living with it, taking my meds, seeing my doctor, I am actually able to go out and mingle with guys while I am having an outbreak. It's like I forget I have it and things are fine. Although the disease is a pain, it doesn't have to be the end of your dating life. The right man will understand because it is not your fault and it just a part of life. If he doesn't, he is not the one.
risse23172 k490
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Wow!!!Youre lucky guy ....thats so amazing she accpeted you for who you are despite the situation... I've been diagnosed with this going in three months and i think stress is my problem dat causes my outbreaks... Recently met a guy whos willing to spend the rest of his life despite my situation i myself was like wow dat alot to give up your everyday life ....i just hope dat our relationship can last like your wife and yours and dat he doesnt contract this HSPvirus ....
jessica79408 Kaystar89
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No mine change up some years are worse than others. Stress def is a key factor in our breaks. Have you learned your triggers. Your friend is a dick! You will get married have kids all that Herpes will not end that. Just gotta find Med's or supplements that make u comfortable and help the out breaks
blessed21582 theresa48911
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rick33581 lindacv
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Hey Linda, I've never responded to anyone on a forum or registered on one before. I've had this since i was in my early 40s, I'm 56 now. I just had to comment on your wonderful comment and advice to this young lady. It was very refreshing and so kind. Youre truly a wonderful person to take the time to give such good advice and comforting words. This can be so stressful and difficult for people so is nice for those of us who have lived with it for years and know it isn't the end of the world to share our experiences. I remember when i fist got it how tough it was but like you with the right attitude and healthy habits it's very manageable. Thanks..
blessed102 lindacv
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Thank you for this helpful uplifting information! I will take note of all that you mentioned and work towards creating a better environment for myself. I am a single mother of 4 and contracted the virus after 12 years of marriage and one long term relationship. During the stretch of being single over the past 4 years i contracted it and unsure when i actually got it but just found out earlier this year. The outbreaks are becoming more frequent and I have had negative thoughts about meeting someone new. I guess i still haven't accepted it.
lisa53847 tina40054
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tani66993 lindacv
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