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Is AUD heriditary ?

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vickylou
vickylou

This question really interests me. I've read articles where some experts claim it is, some say about predisposition and others say it's not.

The reason it interests me is I was adopted when I was six weeks old. My adopted parents hardly ever drank although there was always drink in the house as they did a lot of entertaining. I didn't grow up seeing people drinking heavily or being told alcohol was evil, the demon drink.

I was an only very happy child, no childhood traumas, all in all lots of friends and very confident.

I knew from a very young child that I was adopted and it was never an issue until I had my first child. How could anyone get rid of a baby, just hand it over because she didn't want it, some dirty secret, out of site out of mind.

I have three children, adults now, who I obviously adore and there's no way I'd have given them away. My confidence disappeared, I had low self esteem, thought I was useless at everything. After all my birth mother didn't want me, so there must be something wrong with me.

To cut a long story short, I tracked down my biological mother and contact was made through a social worker. I must stress that at any time did I want a relationship with her. I purely wanted to find my identity and to see this person who didn't want me.

She was Irish, married and I had 3 half sisters. Anyway a meeting was arranged and I met her, along with one sister. My biological father died from liver failure,due to alcohol. My biological mother had a brother and sister with AUD, along with several cousins.

Paul, if you read this, I'd love to hear your thoughts on the subject, and anyone else's 

thanks

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    Paper_fairy vickylou

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    My lovely friend Vickylou. I should have called myself insomnia rather paper fairy! I love Lanzarote..been there loads of times as parents have the property bond thing. It's the fastest, easiest and cheapest way to get some sun. Had some lovely hols there. 2 years ago, one of my worst alcoholic stories, I was going for a weeks hols with 2 of my kids, then 17 and 14, I was so ill then. I still am but I'm a lot better. I got myself in such a state on vodka I couldn't go. Ended up in a private hospital/rehab after trying to take my own life from the the guilt of it all, for 6 weeks. One of my worst crisis. There's more to this story but won't bore you! 

    Anyway, you enjoy this well deserved hols with your family...thanks for all your support, you're a lovely lady xxxxx

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      vickylou Paper_fairy

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      Paper

       not going to Lanzarote this time. We've got a villa at La  Manga, Spain , although love playa blanca .

      yet another similarity, my parents had a timeshare too, which I ended up with. Going with middle son Andy, his wife Shirley, Oliver 7 and baby Leo 5 months.

      I think the guilt will always stay with us. It's always there and I just wish I was normal, but my therapist always says "what's normal". I've spoken with all my three kids and they all said you were the best mum most of the time.

      thanks for your help too and get that form filled and see the list of questions and answers xx

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