Is my husband having some sort of breakdown

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I'm not one for airing my problem but I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do. Ive been with my husband for 17years and we have 2 children, he takes sertraline for depression and has been told he may have pts although that's not been diagnosed. We have a normal family life but every now and then he flies off the handle for the smallest things. Anyway on Monday early evening he just disappeared saying he was going for a smoke and that was that, he didn't take his phone so when he didn't return I had the police involved as I thought he had gone missing, he was found the next day at his sister's house (who we don't speak to ). He came home in a foul mood packed some belongings and said he was leaving us. I was taken by complete surprise, he went from saying his head was messed up and needed time, I've been probably texting him too much reassuring him how much we all love him to try and get him to come home so I can talk to him or get him to the doctors, but he just keeps saying he's not ready. Then this morning he txt me saying he doesn't love me anymore but has feelings for me still. This is a complete bolt out of the blue, I've been left feeling like I've been hit with a truck, and to be honest if it wasn't for my kids I'd want to die. I'm just posting my dirty laundry on here as I'm completely lost and wanted to see what other people make of this, he tells me everyday usually that he loves me. Is this now the end or is he having some sort of breakdown. I don't know whether I should try to lay off texting him reassuring how much we love him or leave him to dwell. I don't want him thinking I don't care I'm desperate to save my marriage but am I making things worse. I feel so degraded telling strangers this but that's how heartbroken I am😢😢😢. Thankyou

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