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It's been 2 months & 12 days and I'm still struggling

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deja14289
deja14289

It's been 2 months since I found out I had herpes but it's been a month since I found I had type 1&2 . I still don't get that or understand it . I'm trying to Figure out how to cope with this . I still find myself crying more and I haven't had an outbreak yet but j think I'm having one now , but I'm not sure. I read on here how people manage and deal but I'm having s hard time doing both . I'm blaming myself everyday I'm constantly angry and upset it's getting the best of me . I'm scared to start talking and dating again . Any advice would be great sad

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  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus deja14289

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    Are you feeling physically better at least? That helps a lot with the emotional side, although it's normal to still get down about things when you're not busy or distracted, especially with your diagnosis still being quite new. How were you diagnosed with both types, by the way? But, yeah, it really does help to get out and do things, keep busy, do things you enjoy, etc. Maybe talk to a trusted friend or counsellor even? Trying to be healthy and knowing that you're doing things to look after your body helps, too.
    • deja14289
      deja14289 FelizCastus

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      I was thinking about going to see a therapist . I just relocated to a new city two days ago so I'm really down and depressed more and some days I'm physically better not all the time . Like today I woke up and I'm really itchy down there . I never had an outbreak and idk if it's another yeast infection Bc of so many meds I'm on or if I'm having an OB . I went to get a check up and tested and I was told I had a bacterial infection I really bad one and then she called back a week later and said u have herpes and then that was it she put me on meds I got sick and had an allergic reaction to the pills so I went to a new doctor and she tested me again to see which one I have and I have both she said I was expose to type 1 in the past and that they weren't active but I was exposed to it in the past . And I'm just trying to find ways to cope Bc in really losing my mind every day now I'm having a harder time waking up and getting my

      Day started since I moved in looking for a new job and it's hard . I have no motivation nothing left in me it just hurts and every one on here says it will get easier but I don't see it yet

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus deja14289

      Posted

      Might help to get a copy of your lab results. It sounds a little odd, plus you've never had a genital outbreak. You could be stressing more than is warranted by the situation! The lab report will tell you important things, like the testing method, your results or index values, etc. Some people here have reported incorrect info told to them by docs/nurses, so it is worth asking for a copy, imo.
    • deja14289
      deja14289 FelizCastus

      Posted

      You think so even when I got tested by two different doctors !?
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus deja14289

      Posted

      Which tests did they do and what were your index values, if by IgG? Some doctors still run IgM tests, which are inaccurate and useless for HSV. Others run pcr blood tests, which are even worse (completely useless). Plus a positive IgG score can be suspect under certain situations. The only thing definite is a positive swab, but you haven't had a typical first outbreak, so I'm guessing you weren't swab tested.
  • Cupidxo
    Cupidxo deja14289

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    If your on supressive therapy then you would be more in control of your outbreaks. I wouldn't like meet people and the first thing you tell them you have it. I'm depressed too. But nothing else u can do

    • deja14289
      deja14289 Cupidxo

      Posted

      Yeah part of me wants to just tell them I have it but I don't . And what's suppressive therapy ?? And yeah I csnt change it but in trying to control it . ;( I know how u feel
  • Alexinator
    Alexinator deja14289

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    Sh*t happens, plain and simple. I'd say we could've avoided this but sometimes we just can't. Its important to stay strong mentally and not break down every chance we get. I am single and don't even know if I want a relationship because I don't want to infect anyone. I know how you feel, the struggle is difficult. That doesn't mean you have to roll over and give up though, we can still live normal lives. Never forget that
  • m69715
    m69715 deja14289

    Posted

    Hello there. I also have type 1 and 2. I found out almost a year ago..When I first found out I felt really disgusted with myself..I was very mad for catching this virus. .im not gone lie there is not a day that goes past that I don't think about it..but as time goes past I start to see that my life is not that much different from when I didn't have it...im still a beautiful woman,im still smart , blessed and have a boyfriend that loves me the only difference is every once in a while I get a rash on my private area (2 outbreaks in 10 mths)and I'm on suppressive therapy. ..don't beat yourself up about this virus don't let it Rule your life. There is more to u than herpes!
    • Cupidxo
      Cupidxo m69715

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      You're right. I thought suppressive therapy was suppose to not let u get outbreaks sad the firsr outbreak was awful. I can't imagine it again. Almost been a month on the 4th since my firsr outbreak, still kinda itchy. Scared to do anything down there...
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus Cupidxo

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      Recurrences are usually much milder, and if you have genital Type 1, you'll barely get any. My recurrences (to date, at least) have literally just been a single sore spot that I only notice while wiping. Goes away by itself without treatment in a few days.
    • m69715
      m69715 Cupidxo

      Posted

      Suppressive therapy doesn't stop outbreaks 100% ..it just stops u from having them as often and long....I chose suppressive Therapy because I wanted to lower the chances of passing it on to my mate
    • Cupidxo
      Cupidxo deja14289

      Posted

      Try some zinc ointment. The itching is normal unfortunately. I'm done with my outbreak and its still itchy
    • Cupidxo
      Cupidxo FelizCastus

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      I hope mine is like that as well. I get so scared. I need to shave but scared like right where your hairline meets your vagina opening on the top, I have a sore. It's kinda itchy maybe this is the outvreak again. Hard to tell.
    • Cupidxo
      Cupidxo m69715

      Posted

      Well its still a win right? Better than nothing
    • deja14289
      deja14289 Cupidxo

      Posted

      Where can I get it from ? I'm itching like crazy it's like on fire I want to itch it so bad
    • Cupidxo
      Cupidxo deja14289

      Posted

      I got mine from Walgreens. It was 4 dollars. Also what works is hydrocortisone cream, a 1 or 2% it was the same price. A&D ointment wormed for me as well. I'm sorry! I know that is the most awful thing ever. Just try and keep it dry and take your meds.
    • deja14289
      deja14289 Cupidxo

      Posted

      But how can I put the cream

      On ? It's not on the outside its the inside that's burning and itching like hell I just wanna rip it out sad and I decided to start sleeping with out panties and get a towel with ice and put it there last night was the first night I did it and I actually slept through the night for once ! And I've been trying to keep it dry but that just doesn't work . I'm not even horny and I'm just wet and my panties are wet I just want it to all stop ! And I take my meds twice w day

    • Cupidxo
      Cupidxo deja14289

      Posted

      Oh goodness, I didn't know it was inside. Take those panties off let that air out. Mine did not like the air, burnt like hell. But it worked. Maybe ask ur doctor to up your meds to 3 times a day. That's the only thing that worked for me. I wish there was a cream you could put in a tampon dispenser and put up there. Wear gloves if you have any. I'm not sure what can be used in there tho. I just used the zinc ointment and I was fine. It went into my hole a bit. I'm not a doctor tho so don't quote me lol
    • Cupidxo
      Cupidxo deja14289

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      Oh goodness, I didn't know it was inside. Take those panties off let that air out. Mine did not like the air, burnt like hell. But it worked. Maybe ask ur doctor to up your meds to 3 times a day. That's the only thing that worked for me. I wish there was a cream you could put in a tampon dispenser and put up there. Wear gloves if you have any. I'm not sure what can be used in there tho. I just used the zinc ointment and I was fine. It went into my hole a bit. I'm not a doctor tho so don't quote me lol
    • deja14289
      deja14289 Cupidxo

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      Yes it's on the inside the outside is fine but my insides are killing me I'm ready to rip it off my body 😩😩😩I sit in the tub in really hot water and sorta eases it but when I get out no . I'm like u mines don't like the air lol burns but I wrap ice inside a towel and out it between
    • Cupidxo
      Cupidxo deja14289

      Posted

      Just keep doing that. It was awful for like a week ugghhhhh
    • deja14289
      deja14289 Cupidxo

      Posted

      I go to the doctors Tuesday 😩😩🙌🏽hopefully I make it
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus deja14289

      Posted

      Definitely get that looked at and swabbed asap, and not necessarily for herpes. It sounds like something else could be going on.
    • deja14289
      deja14289 FelizCastus

      Posted

      I am what do u think it could be ? Another bacterial infection ?
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus deja14289

      Posted

      Yeast, BV? I don't know, but herpes itching that bad with no lesions seems odd. If you're going to the same clinic where you tested for herpes, ask for a copy of your results.
    • deja14289
      deja14289 FelizCastus

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      No I moved to a new state so I'm going to a new doctor and yeah it's really really bad sad in not sure it hurts and it's burning and it itches Uncontrollably I just want it to stop
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