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It's been 2 months & 12 days and I'm still struggling

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deja14289
deja14289

It's been 2 months since I found out I had herpes but it's been a month since I found I had type 1&2 . I still don't get that or understand it . I'm trying to Figure out how to cope with this . I still find myself crying more and I haven't had an outbreak yet but j think I'm having one now , but I'm not sure. I read on here how people manage and deal but I'm having s hard time doing both . I'm blaming myself everyday I'm constantly angry and upset it's getting the best of me . I'm scared to start talking and dating again . Any advice would be great sad

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  • anna03158
    anna03158 deja14289

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    Hi there,

    I was diagnosed at a similar time to you, I remember the exact moment I contracted HSV 2 and it was the day before New Years Eve 15/16.

    the second guy I've ever slept with and the first time I went unprotected. The worst part is when I think about how I am going to explain this when I meet someone I truly want to be with and have to explain that this is not at all a reflection of who I am or who I used to be. I was 22 when I lost my virginity and at 24 I am infected with a life-long virus. 

    Its traumatising, heart-breaking, utterly unfair that I have this, when my friends who have been having unprotected sex for the majority of their sex lives carry on with no shame.

    I'm lucky that the few friends I've told have been extremely supportive, and one who is a nurse in an oncologically department even had the heart to laugh at my situation as she recalled to me her day of dealing with 1 year olds with leukaemia, and young children who've spent all their lives in hospital with only weeks to live. It's true, it could be much worse. I think the worst part is knowing that this could have been prevented had I not been in such a carefree vacation mood, if I'd spent a bit more time getting to know him before jumping into bed because God forbid I make up for all those lost teenage years I spent being a virgin, if only I'd used protection...

    I'm trying not to beat myself up about it because now there is nothing anyone can do to change it, I just have to accept it as a part of me. I found watching YouTube videos about other with HSV-2 helped a bit. And certainly this forum has also been quite good.

    In terms of outbreaks, I have experienced several outbreaks since being diagnosed and they have been occurring around the two week mark as well. They have also ranged from tingling and itchiness to the actual development of a sporadic sore. Each time I've gone back to my valacyclovir and take it as prescribed twice a day for 5 days, and I will be pain free for a few days, maybe a week, and then I will start to feel the symptoms coming back on again sad

    It's now my 7th day of taking the men's (I.e. The second cycle of the 5 day period) because I feel like I may need to take daily suppressive so for my condition, and the area where my sore had developed and been treated previously has begun acting up again like I'm about to have another out break. 

    Can anyone offer some words of advice or consolation?

    • deja14289
      deja14289 anna03158

      Posted

      I'm so sorry that u have to experience that so many times I know it is painful & I'm sorry you going through that it really sucks and you right we csnt do

      Anything about it but not let it bring us down . I started my first treatment with the same exact pills u were on and had the most terrifying reacttoons any type of side effect it gave I had . My urine was pitch black , I developed skin rashes , I starting bleeding down there . If got worse not better and I took it for pretty much the whole 30 days that I was suppose to take it I was in and out of the hospital Bc I couldn't understand I was just diagnosed and a week later every thing was worse each day and I went to a new doctor and got my meds changed i was allergic. To those meds but now I'm on the acaylior ( how ever u spell it ) and it works for me until now idk what's going on down there .

    • anna03158
      anna03158 deja14289

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      Oh no, that is awful I'm so sorry to hear that. When I was discharged from hospital, they had me taking three different types of meds until the tests came back to confirm it was herpes. (I was in hospital because my first outbreak was so bad I could not deal with the pain and had to be drained via catheter for two days). I was taking Metronidazole and Doxycycline in case I also had gonorrhoea or chlamydia, on top of that I was taking Endone, Paracetomal and Ibuprofen to deal with the pain, and I think the combination of those drugs had a bad effect on me because I was literally immobilised for a week and could not keep any food down at all and my stool was also this hideous black colour.

      That's good that the new meds are working for you, I wonder if I may need something stronger as well or if I should just trial the valacyclovir daily and see if it clears up in a few months. 

    • deja14289
      deja14289 anna03158

      Posted

      Yeah I had to take metronidazole , I took like 5 different pills and I think they all clashed she thought I had PID & she just kept saying your insides are swollen and tender and she just put me on so many meds and then she tested me and it came back as herpes through my blood & idk but every time I have sex it hurts . I just give up
  • Miss_Take
    Miss_Take deja14289

    Posted

    Hello,

    I myself just recently diagnosed but I have not had a serious outbreak... but I do experience the tingling and itchiness.... I self prescribed myself valtrex twice a day for five day to help suppress anything. I am awaiting my pap smear results which I believe is useful for females since our vaginal canal on the inside could also be infected and we may not be able to detect it.

  • Miss_Take
    Miss_Take deja14289

    Posted

    Another option may be to look at your diet in particular .... in recent readings I have learnt that certain foods inhibit the the virus and others encourage its production. Do your research, look up lysine vs arganine foods as I found Valtrex was too expensive for daily suppressive therapy (being a single mother on a small budget) and decided to look at other natural treatment options.

    I too was devastated when this happened but I'm convinced that I am going to beat it ... one way or another. I took comfort in the fact that I was not the only person affected by this and thankful for the people, especially on this forum that share thier information and experiences. I also try to keep myself busy with school and and focusing on my daughter.

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus Miss_Take

      Posted

      Diet has not been clinically proven to have an impact either way, provided its already healthy and balanced, but some people swear by lysine. Just know that even if it seems to work, it does not reduce asymptomatic shedding or therefore transmission. Fyi, acyclovir is much cheaper than valacyclovir, but equally effective for many people, just that it requires more pills.
    • Miss_Take
      Miss_Take FelizCastus

      Posted

      I take the lovir ointment and acyclovir pills for HSV 1 outbreaks and they are usally effective. Not sure of the dosage for suppressive treatement of HSV 2.
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus

      Posted

      That dosage is for genital HSV-2.
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