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Just cancelled my husband's bank cards whilst on holiday with mistress

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Mutley
Mutley

Well he left me and took her on the holiday that I was supposed to be on. Whilst I'm stuck at home with depression taking my anti depressants and pain killers he's off with his child substitute. You've guessed it she 20 years younger and walked into my life. So whilst they are winging their way to The US of A he's gonna get a rude awakening upon touch down. No Cash, no cards. Shame really as she's after him for precisely that. Do I feel good - damn right I do.

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  • margaret21458
    margaret21458 Mutley

    Posted

    I'm so proud of you and the way you are handling this situation.

    Like they say...a zebra doesn't change his stripes!

    You sound like you have too much to offer someone to be taken for granted any longer.

    Like Pat says, I would tread lightly with that friend/ guy. Most only have one thing on their minds.

    Although you could use a friend to lean on.

    Your smart....you know what to do!

    God bless you,

    Maggie

  • margaret21458
    margaret21458 Mutley

    Posted

    That's right, You Take care of you girl!

    Take Care,

    Maggie

    Xo

    Ps.

    He's not going to let you go that easy, so stay strong!

  • lynne71295
    lynne71295 Mutley

    Posted

    Hi Mutley

    I am sorry I did not get chance to reply to your e mail I do not do late nights. So I heard you are going to stay with your sister 

    . But you had a long e mail from your Husband. Please keep in touch with all of us.

    We are here to support you.

  • lilly77723
    lilly77723 Mutley

    Posted

    I think this is very entertaining and it took a lot for you to do this, bravo. Now take yourself on a holiday, or as we say in the good ole US of A a loooong vacation.
  • jen30things
    jen30things Mutley

    Posted

    And dam right you should. I love you Mutley! :D

    I had a dad who ran off with a woman half his age (heed the word "had" it screwed up my life so badly I have nothing to do with him now). Must be a difficult time for you but the problem is 100% him and absolutley nothing to do with you and your personal problems did not cause this - it was all his actions. Try not to be depressed on how badly he treated you...be happy he's gone from your life...I wouldn't want to be with someone who treated me like that. Be strong! smile 

    • lynne71295
      lynne71295 jen30things

      Posted

      Hi Jen 

      Yes I agree  Mutley is a really lovely person. Who did not  need all of this  c   p in her life. I expect he said that old chesnut of my wife does not understand me.All of this really has got to Mutley I am not surprised she has been so ill.

      Men think they do what they like. They cannot see how much pain they are giving to their wives. Because they are trying to inpress other men. Oh look at me I have a young bird on my arm.She does everything for me. Yes as long as you have deep pockets it will be fine.

  • lynne71295
    lynne71295 Mutley

    Posted

    Hi Mutley

    I do hope you are alright you did say that you would make contact but not heard from you.How are things going? How is your health?.

    I am always thinking about you.

    Please get in touch.

    Take Care

    Lynne

  • betty47942
    betty47942 Mutley

    Posted

    This response is going to be a little different, Mutley. I've 'been there'...what you have gone through...so I can understand your anger. But this is one thing you will have to remember. I, too, was in the 'right' as far as I was concerned...and to all my friends and everyone that knew us. But being "right" does NOT ALLOW YOU TO HEAL. I am not saying 'forgive him.' But just please come to realize that, for whatever reasons, you BOTH were in this marriage. By giving up blame and just letting it go and 'learning from it'...you will WIN. Hopefully you are divorced by now.....and I hope things are going well for you.

    • lynne71295
      lynne71295 betty47942

      Posted

      Hi  Betty

      Thank you for your message. I have tried to contact Mutley many times.

      I just want to offer help and support.  I have been there as well.

      It is hard. Please keep in touch.

    • lynne71295
      lynne71295 betty47942

      Posted

      Hi Betty

      I do hope you read my reply. Please keep in touch

      Lynne

  • kelly45731
    kelly45731 Mutley

    Posted

    Wow your so strong how do you do it?

    I'm 29 suffered from depression for two years couldn't do my job and my boyfriend dumped me just recently before Christmas

    I'm scared I'm running out of time to turn my life around but you sound so strong

  • kary44809
    kary44809 Mutley

    Posted

    Hello Mutley:  It sounds to me that you are involved in an abusive relationship.  I'm assuming that this is not the first time that he has cheated on you.  Why are you still living with him? Get on with your life.  It does not sound like your husband cares about you very much.  Why would you want to be with a man that would dare to leave you during the holidays?

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