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Livelife
Livelife

Hey everyone

I remembered when I first got diagnosed and I had no help what so ever, no one told me anything even on this group I just had depressed people (obviously) but I had no one telling me how their life planned out 

So 

If you have just been diagnosed or if you are struggling 

Please message me and I’ll give you whatever advice I have 

I’ve had this a long time now

And my life has never been better, I met a new guy and I love him so much were talking about moving in together 

He’s never caught it off me and we have unprotected sex 

I’m okay now, I don’t think about this anymore I don’t even care that I have it anymore 

So if you feel like you can’t see your future or you just need a non judgemental talk

Then hit me up!!!

I’m a 22 year old girl from England x

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  • anonymous239710
    anonymous239710 Livelife

    Posted

    Hi everyone,

    I was diagnosed about 4 years ago with type 1 in the genital area. I was 17, had waited to have sex with someone I loved. Unfortunately I was unlucky enough to contract the virus after oral sex with my first boyfriend whom i loved very much. It wasn't until i had sex that my first outbreak occurred.

    So I was 17, had sex for the first time and woke up a week later with a shocking flu and an extremely painful outbreak in the lower region. I kept it to myself until my mum picked me up from the doctors balling my eyes out after being told my test had come back positive.

    Unfortunately at 17 you don't realise who you can and can't trust, i told my best friend of 5 years what had happened and a year later after a falling out she had told others whom had spread it across my whole cohort at school. I have been in and out of depressive spirals since that time.

    I have not slept around nor do I plan to, each time I am seeing someone new this issue is brought to me before I even get the chance to explain the situation to them.. how do you bring that up with someone new, when you don't even know if it will be long term? or without making them run for the hills?

    Im fortunate enough to have not had an outbreak since the my first, however, the fact that a lot of people have heard this 'rumour' about me has made it nearly impossible to move on from.. and the stigma associated with this has made my life more and more difficult..

    Recently someone I was seeing stopped talking to me out of the blue and they asked my friend about the herpes. 

    I just want to know how you would deal with this?

    thanks xxx

     

    • Livelife
      Livelife anonymous239710

      Posted

      Your friend is an arsehole who is jealous of you and uses your herpes to make sure other guys don’t want you

      Listen with herpes type 1 it’s almost impossible to pass on genital to genital

      Even doctors tell patients not to tell partners they have it because there is literally no need for it!! 

      You need to own it, just tell them from the get go

      Stop letting this rumour ruin your life

      Stop hiding away from something that you can’t change

      We have herpes

      So bloody what

      We’re also a human and we are someone’s daughter and friend and sister and we do not deserve to be treated like we are disgusting because we are not

      Next time tell the person straight up with the mindset if they don’t want this then screw them they don’t deserve me and they have missed out

      Because they will be missing out!!!

      Stop hiding, admit it

      You’re young and it’s nasty at that age but that stops I’m 22 and have nothing but support off people because of this

      Someone out their might even need your honestly

      Just be up front, not scared and not sad with the guy and let him know that if he wants you, you come with this

      Let them know the risks

      That it’s ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE 

      Seriously it’s less than 1% A YEAR without condoms to pass it on

      You literally have more chance of being struck by lightening!!!!

      Stop being embarrassed by yourself, you need to love yourself 

      Don’t let someone treat you like that

    • Livelife
      Livelife anonymous239710

      Posted

      If you don’t want to admit you have herpes as well (I mean this is to people who constantly ask) 

      You can say ‘yes I do? I have cold sores what’s the problem’ because that is THE EXACT TYPE YOU HAVE 

      Once they know it’s a cold sore they will be like oh crap I have herpes as well 

  • raindrops777
    raindrops777 Livelife

    Posted

    Hi everyone I’m trying to come to terms with it too and it’s been like 9 months sad I think about it literally every day sad even if it’s just a little itch or burn randomly that reminds me about it- do you all take anything for the herpes ? 
    • Livelife
      Livelife raindrops777

      Posted

      Hello my lovely 

      I hope you’re well, 

      Part of the reason I couldn’t get over was because of my symptoms, I got weekly outbreaks and it made me just constantly remind and they bring you down! 

      I take suppression therapy and now I do not get outbreaks what so ever and I suggest you do the same especially with feeling so low, it will make you feel human again and you’ll stop worrying xx

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