Just diagnosed

1 & the doctors were no help very non interested like they just told me i have a cold they didnt explain anything to me really. They just told me to go puck up my prescription & wen i asked could i come back to ask some questions because i want to know wat i can & cannot do they said no.

I'm guessing it's on your genitals? I have HSV-1 as well. It's not the end of the world. Many say it's better than getting the second one. It is also easier to explain to future partners. It takes time to process honestly..it's an emotional roller coaster at first. That will pass.

I dont want to live w/ this i been thru enuff in life. Why do i have to face this now. My brother who was living in my apartment has it. & i smoke with him often could it hsve come from that.

My ex boyfriend said he doesn't have it & i didnt believe him becus he wouldnt show me any papers but he just sent me a voice memo of the hospital calling him saying his results were negative. So i really need to know where this came from its making me depressed i dont want to live like this. Now he's back w/ the mother of his child & i have nobody .

If it's on your genitals then you didn't get it from your brother. I know it's hard. No one deserves it. I thought the very same thing but it is what it is. Your ex-boyfriend..I would demand a print out of his results. Did you have an outbreak after having sex with him?

Yes i did everytime after we've had sex since october my symptoms got wosre but i didnt think they were sexually related becus u never felt anything like that. Until the last time which was about 2 weeks ago. 2 days after we had sex i had burning while i was peeing & alot of irritation i thought it was just Bv because i get that all the time from the soaps i use. Til i seen a bump i went to the er the next day. But he keeps changing his story which makes me think he's lying 2 weeks ago when we had sex i noticed 2 small pimple looking bumps under the head of his penis & when i told him we just go get tested& why he just snapoed on me. First he said they were hair bumps but they were under the head of his penis no one shaves right there. I just keep catching him in lies & he's the only one i had sex w/ in months & i always get tested so wouldnt it have been come up? All of this is confusing me

But thats what i was telling him , even if some how i did get it first which i cannot see happening i only have unprotected sex w/ him even thou u can get it while using a condom . I only had sex w/ one other person than him since september & i did not give that person oral only person i've given oral to is him . & its in my mouth so if i was to get it first some how. How does he still not have it? Im confused.

Truth is he very well might be lying but you'll never really know unless he says it. If you did have it first it is possible for you not to have passed it to him. It's harder for women to give it to men and if you're not having an outbreak it makes it even harder. But the bumps under the head of his penis sounds suspicious. Stressing about whether he has it or not at this point is useless. It won't change anything and it might be just giving you extra stress.

Ok firget abt him . How do i know when this first outbreak is over. When do i know when i can have sex again? Can i kiss ppl while having an outbreak? How did u deal with your first outbreak? They gave me medicine that lasts a week but i've read stuff that says this can last for 20 days in sone cases becus this is my first out break. Im scared to toych down there so how do i know when its over? & how often do u have breakouts if u dont mund me askin? Do u have a partner? If so how did u explain to them that u have? How did? They react?

The meds will help slow up the outbreak..give it a week. If you have outbreaks in your mouth no do not kiss anyone during. If it's only on your genitals then kiss away. Wait atleast 3 months after your outbreak to have sex again. I would look at mine with a mirror or my phone to see the progress. You can also tell by the amount of pain and stuff. I'm on suppressive therapy so I haven't had another outbreak. My only complaint is around the time of my period I feel tingling where my initial outbreak was. I have someone I'm talking to and interested in having sex with (he isn't the person that gave it to me and does not have it). He has been very loving and patient. We have prior history so I was very very afraid to tell him. But when I told him he said it was okay and that he was still interested in being with me. He took it very well.I'm taking baby steps in the sex area. He's ready but I'm sometimes afraid to do so. But I'm getting there!

What type of supression meds do u take that make it stop like that. How long have you had it? & thats great im really happy for u i really hope everything works out with you guys. I've been talking to a boy for a couple montha now but i feel really blessed to have him in my life he has been nothing but there for me since he met me. But we stopped trying to be in a relationship becus the guy who i've been messing w/ for so long wasn't completely out of the picture. But i have really been stressing out like really bad & he knew something was wrong & after my ex texted me earlier beging disrespectful again i was getting depressed again i just told him & he was very understanding & said that he still looks at me in the way . Im scared to try to build something with him now becus im a little insecure . But are there any pointers u can give me to have clise to no breakouts at all for whatever relationship i have next.

I mean supressive therapy I read that wrong. Wat is that?

I've had mines since October so I'm still "new" I suppose. I take one valtrex a day. Some don't suggest it for HSV-1 because the outbreaks are less frequent but I decided it would be best for me to take it for a while then come off and see what happens. I know how the insecurity can eat you up..that began to happen to me. But remember you are the same beautiful woman you were before this whole thing happened. Your ex is a jerk. The other guy seems nice..I know it's scary but give it a shot. Stress isn't good for you! Everyone has different triggers. Some certain foods or activities might trigger an outbreak. Luckily the suppressive therapy has kept everything at bay. Also my doctor told me it lessens the chance of me giving it to a partner that doesn't have HSV-1..which was very reassuring.

Yea he seems like he's really for me but i dont want to get so attached to him becus im in a time of need. If u get wat im saying i dont want to lean on him & i really dont want to be w/ him like i know he's something i need but i have alot of emotions going on & i told him that too & he understood that too he's really being great . Really a blessing but we still havent rushed anything. & i still dont know 100% how he feels about everything u know like if we were to get in a relationship how would he feel wen it did come down to sex

Seems like you have a good head on your shoulders! Those were my same thoughts. I don't want to be with anyone simply because of what's going on..I want to know that I really want them for them. Take your time!