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Ashley7798
Ashley7798

I just found out at the beginiging of the week that i was diagnosed with herpes. Its very hard to cope with i've gotten better over the last couple of days because of my parents support. But i really have alot of questions to those of u who have that & have been living w/ it long term. Im a 20 year old female. Could someone please help.

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  • Koolredd
    Koolredd Ashley7798

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    I'm 20 years old also ..,

    Just found out no to long also ., so its taking time to adjust to this ..

    do you know how you got it ?

    • Ashley7798
      Ashley7798 Koolredd

      Posted

      I know it came from my ex boyfriend. He's only person I've had sex w/ in months & i get tested very frequently he doesn't & i knew he was having sex w/ other people but it was a complicated relationship we've been on & off since i was 16. How are u living w/ it i feel so disqusting & unwanted now. Ion know how to even look at another guy
    • Ashley7798
      Ashley7798

      Posted

      Its ruining my life i haven't been to work or school since i've found out. & he constantly texts me and tants me him & his baby's mother
    • Koolredd
      Koolredd Ashley7798

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      I feel the same way I just recently told my boyfriend about my diagnosis and It is really a challenge .. Like I don't want To be with Him no more because I feel like he can do so much better I want him to be able to be in a relationship where he can have sex whenever he wants to and not have to worry about outbreaks and all this .. Before I got diagnosed with this we were sex fanatics all the time and we rarely ever used a condom because I was and still am on birth control , but I don't want him to be with me .. And I'm trying to break it off . He doesn't get how different things are now that I have this virus , I just don't want to put him through this and I can't picture myself dating anyone else I refuse to go through that whole process again .,

      The person I got it from didn't even tell me and just like you were saying they tried to make it seem like it was all on me and my fault , even tho before I hooked up with em I wasn't having no type of issues ,

      I can just sense how tense he is and I don't know why he doesn't just break up with me and move on .. Call it quits

      I can honestly say my breakout (my one and only so far) was beyond horrible one of the worst pains I've ever experienced in my life.., but A&D ointment was my best friend . It last about a week and half I couldn't wash down there I couldn't wipe down there nothing it was horrible my boyfriend had to help me with it all , and you have to keep it really lubricated when you don't it can seem to be even more painful..

      I have many unanswered questions and I actually plan on going to planned parenthood tomorrow about it .. See whet information I can get

      The person that infected me hasn't texted me or nothing all day

      I mean how can you just infect someone with a disease and play like nothing happen . At the least I could've got an apology . I'm still beat up about it

      I'm considered tainted and damaged goods .. I don't know where to go from here

      But baby girl after everybody rainstorm there is a rainbow and karma is a b**** !!

    • Ashley7798
      Ashley7798 Koolredd

      Posted

      If your boyfriend still helps & is there for u thru this then dont push away from that i too feel like damaged goods. In fact i say just that becus I haven't had the best life before this happened. But i have a guy friend who ive been talkin to for a couple of months & i told him earlier becus my ex just kept textin me tanting me makin it seem like he doesnt have it & i just can't believe that . But they say god only puts you theu stuff when he know u can handle it so i guess thats how we have to look at this. At least u have some one who still wants to be your partner u dont have to start over . So dont give that up just yet. Becus i currently do t have that & it doesnt feel good. & yea it just amazes me how low down & dirty people are. & just dont care about their health but we cant make ppl think the way that we do. I would never do anything like this to anyone knowingly
  • mikarose
    mikarose Ashley7798

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    Ashley I think the first thing you should do is get rid of that guy from your life. Doesn't sound like he's very nice to you or smart about his health and others health. I would also tell the mother of his child to be careful as she might get it too.

    Have you read the post that is pinned on this forum? Lots of good info in there.

    You are lucky to have type 1. Do you only have the sores on your genitals not your mouth? If so then you can't give it to anyone through kissing only through sexual contact. And you still can give it to people even when you aren't having an outbreak.

    I have only had it, type 2, for less than a month and am still crying almost daily. I believe it will get easier I just don't know how yet.

    • Ashley7798
      Ashley7798 mikarose

      Posted

      No i have it in my mouth too but since i've started taking the medicine it has stopped. But no my leg is burning real bad & wen i sleep i have bad dreams. But im sorry u have to go thru this . I wish we all didn't have to go thru this.
    • Ashley7798
      Ashley7798 mikarose

      Posted

      I dont know how to work this website just yet i just keep checking back becus ive been having a long day so how do i see pinned forums
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