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Just found out that my boyfriend has herpes after 9 months of us being together

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randomgirl
randomgirl

My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. He just decided that three weeks ago he was going to tell me he had herpes. I just went to the doctor and found out that he doesn't have to have an outbreak for me to contract this and that since we don't use protection that the chances of me getting this are highly likely. I don't know what to think or do. I have never been through something like this.

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  • Sunny6992
    Sunny6992 randomgirl

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    Just avoid sex when your partner has an outbreak, I read that 80% people who have herpes don't no they have it and a high percentage of people have the virus lying dormant in them anyway just take the right precautions when he has an outbreak X
  • michelle74200
    michelle74200 randomgirl

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    This is old but i am sure others like me will come across this.... your boyfriend lied by omission and put your health at risk in the process.

    I am in my 50's and just went through this. He told me 7 months into the relationship. We dated 2 months before we were intimate... initially I didn't freak out, it took a couple of weeks to settle in. He betrayed me and I could not trust him.

    He was on an antiviral medication. I am in the medical field and researched the drug studies extensively. Here is what i found out. Antiviral reduces the transmission by 50%. On medication and completely asymptomatic virus is shed 2-3 days a month on average.... so at some point you will probably get herpes from an infected partner.

    Some people are completely asymptomatic and others have frequent outbreaks...daily medication will control outbreaks. My ex shared the stress of the breakup caused his first outbreak in the 5 years he has been on medication( he's had herpes 28 years and gave it to his ex-wife)... he had outbreaks every few months before medication.

    Herpes is a life sentence..... not a big deal in a life long committed relationship.... But something you definitely do not want to explain in the future if you are single!

    I was lucky and tested negative... from now on I wont hesitate to ask for recent lab work! Our time together was fantastic, but I was deceived and he lost my trust.... from now on… I will show you my paperwork.... you show me yours.

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