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Lately I Don't Think I Will Make It Through Perimenopause Alive!!!!!

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debbie_18471
debbie_18471

This has been the worst 3 weeks of my life with these perimenopause symptoms. I'm soon to be 49. I thought my symptoms were getting better. Then on March 8th started having bad stomach cramps and low back pain which lasted 2 1/2 weeks. Then the terrible indigestion started with heart palpitations and then of course major anxiety. My period which has been about every 18 days since December is now late. I live each day in fear and terror of heart palpitations and anxiety. I seriously feel like I might die everyday. This is absolutely no way to live. I feel bad for my poor husband and daughter. I am no wife and mother at this time. My daughter is 21 but I still feel horrible about the state I'm in. Sorry for the vent. Feeling hopeless like this journey will never ever end.

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  • michelle50768
    michelle50768 debbie_18471

    Posted

    Awww bless you. I could have written this myself!!!!!

    I feel exactly the same way.

    Ive been off my AD three weeks but seriously considering going bck on it.

    The palpitations are waking me out of my sleep and scaring the heck out of me.

    Add to that anxiety depression insomnia joint pain and everything else peri can throw at you.

    Im currently five months without a period.

    Sorry I cant offer you any advice but im sure some lovely lady on here will.

    Hoping you get some relief soon x

    • brendababy
      brendababy michelle50768

      Posted

      Hi Michelle have you not tried HRT or do you have a medical reason not to take it

      Love

      Brenda x

    • debbie_18471
      debbie_18471 michelle50768

      Posted

      Thank you for your reply Michelle. I have a prescription for Xanax from my doctor for my anxiety. Haven't had to take it yet but with these heart palpitations acting up I just might. Went to ER the other night because the heart palpitations scared me to death. They did EKG and kept me on heart and blood pressure monitors plus chest X-ray blood work etc. All okay. I think I have gotten an EKG once a month for the last 6 months due to my panic over these symptoms. I thought once periods stopped symptoms would stop. I guess I was wrong. Considering bioidentical hormone creams. I need my life and mind back. Take Care Michelle and thanks again for your response.

      Debbie ❤️

    • brendababy
      brendababy michelle50768

      Posted

      You should give it a try unless there is adverse medical reasons not to. It'll be the fluctuating hormones causing the anxiety and depression or making it much worse

      It would maybe stabilise your mood and give you a better quality of life

      Chin up

      Brenda x

    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 brendababy

      Posted

      Yes I am going to make an appointment to see my gp.

      Im just praying as ive gone five months with no period im nearing the end.

      But you just never know x

    • brendababy
      brendababy michelle50768

      Posted

      Michelle I hope you have a good GP who will listen to you. Everyone is different as you know, some woman have mild symptoms for s short duration, others can have symptoms for years even after the last period

      I don't think our bodies function right without a good level of our sex hormones, estrogen,progesterone, testosterone etc

      I hope you get good advice and something to help you have a better quality of life, let us know how you get on

      Love

      Brenda X

    • dtplus
      dtplus debbie_18471

      Posted

      Dear Debbie and all suffering women,

      I just joined this forum a few days ago and have found it interesting, so many different, but similar issues. My issue was different, but a nuisance. Have any of you considered Essential Oils, I've been using them for close to a year now and they have so many benefits?

      I encourage all of you to look up Clary Sage, it works wonders all all Essential oil options.

      Have fun searching,

      Bye for now!

    • debbie_18471
      debbie_18471 dtplus

      Posted

      Thank you for your reply. Yes I have essential oils. I am diffusing Wild orange and lavender right now. I also use clary sage too. I stopped using the clary sage for awhile that was probably not a good idea, take care and thanks again

      Debbie ❤️

  • marie25874
    marie25874 debbie_18471

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    Hi Debbie,

    I was just crying to my husband a few minutes ago about the very same thing!  I am not the same person I used to be - no energy, anxious all the time, feeling crappy whether its due to stomach pain or dizziness or reflux or whatever else comes my way.  I went back on birth control pills to help with the symptoms and they helped tremendously!  I felt pretty good again but the concern for causing blood clots and strokes made me go off them.  And the same feelings of doom and gloom and all the physical ailments came flooding back.  Honestly, it might be worth the increased risk because all of this is not "living".  My girls are 7 and 9 and I feel like I am missing out.  I try the "mind over matter" approach to remind myself this is hormonal and I am not dying but it doesn't always work because you just feel crappy. This site helps tremendously.  Hang in there Debbie! 

    • debbie_18471
      debbie_18471 marie25874

      Posted

      Hi Marie thanks for your reply. How precious to have a 7 and 9 year old. I'm so sorry you are feeling this way too. It is horrible. I have also tried mind over matter. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. When it doesn't it's really bad. I have tried to get through this all natural with supplements and acupuncture and homeopathic remedies. I'm missing out on life. Sometimes quality of life needs to win out. I am going to try bioidentical hormone cream. Take Care Marie. Hope you have much better days ahead

      Debbie ❤️

    • debbie75601
      debbie75601 marie25874

      Posted

      I'm having all these symptoms, and more. All of this came on so suddenly! I am in the process of going to specialists to rule out medical issues, as I can't believe all of these maladies can be from menopause or peri. I am taking vitamins and natural things to try and fight these symptoms off, but today has not been good! Just trying to hold on daily. Here's to better days, ladies!
    • debbie_18471
      debbie_18471 debbie75601

      Posted

      Hi Debbie, nice name😊. Yes I have tried the natural route too. Essential oils, acupuncture, supplements, changed diet. No sugar, gluten or caffeine. Eat small meals every two to three hours. Lost 20 pounds and try and take a walk everyday. Symptoms still debilitating. Had every test done. I'm healthy just don't feel like it. Will finally try bioidentical hormone cream. I need my life back. Good Luck and take care.

      Debbie ❤️

    • debbie75601
      debbie75601 debbie_18471

      Edited

      Love the name!😄 I feel like you! This is debilitating, and certainly feels like I'm dying sometimes! I say that to the hubby, and he just rolls his eyes. Wish men could feel these symptoms, than there would be so much more help! You take care, and keep me posted, as to anything helping you please!
    • debbie_18471
      debbie_18471 debbie75601

      Posted

      I will let you know how bioidentical hormone creams work. I know I always say the same thing to my husband "if you could just live for one week in my body when the symptoms are the worst You would know why I always say I feel like I am going to die today" 😜Hoping and praying for the best with these creams. Hope you are having a good day

      Debbie ❤️

    • Zigangie
      Zigangie debbie_18471

      Posted

      I have also said that to my husband, it would be nice to swap places every so often so I get a break and you see what it feels like.

      He had a toothache the other day and straight to bed, the same if he has a cold.

      I've told him try having the feeling you're coming down with flu every day, I can't spend my whole life in bed as much as I'd like to, also can't sleep when I'm in bed anyway.

      I feel better now on HRT flu feeling is gone but energy still not brilliant, better but not what it used to be.

    • debbie75601
      debbie75601 debbie_18471

      Posted

      Yes, please keep me updated. Having bad back pains yesterday and today. Wondering if this is related too? Don't know how many more symptoms I could post get! Happy Easter!
    • Snowbell1975
      Snowbell1975 debbie75601

      Posted

      Happy Easter to you too Debbie! My back pains are terrible when trying to breathe in. Ill keep you posted
    • marie25874
      marie25874 debbie_18471

      Posted

      Hi Debbie

      I was wondering about the stomach cramps and indigestion you referred to. I started having a lot of discomfort in my stomach this whole week. Stomach is bloated as well. Did you have this? I had an intravaginal ultrasound done about 5 months ago and it was clear except for one fluid filled cyst on one ovary that he said would come and go. But with all this discomfort I'm wondering did he miss something or did something crop up. Anxiety kicks in! Is this a normal part of Peri - up until now I have had a lot of other crazy symptoms but not this persistent stomach ache. Thanks!

    • debbie_18471
      debbie_18471 marie25874

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      Hi Marie,

      Yes I had horrible indigestion and bloated stomach. Could only eat tiny tiny meals at a time and even that would set off my stomach bloat and terrible indigestion. It was bad. I also have been developing ovarian cysts on my ovaries as well. They do eventually work themselves out but my goodness they create so many sympyoms because our ovaries produce the hormones and a cyst disturbs the balance. Headaches nauseous dizziness indigestion stomach cramps anxiety heart palpitations are all sympyoms of ovarian cysts. I can't wait to balance my hormones with bioidenticals. Hopefully my fibroids cysts crazy crazy symptoms aches and pains will get better. Take care marie I hope you are able to feel better and enjoy Easter😊

      Debbie ❤️

    • Snowbell1975
      Snowbell1975 debbie_18471

      Posted

      Debbie, I didn't know cysts could do all that. I have a bad one and they are scheduled to take my whole ovary out with it next month. Do you think its possible one the ovary is out that these symptoms may resolve and become more bearable?
    • debbie_18471
      debbie_18471 Snowbell1975

      Edited

      Yes Paige I think it's possible. I know my worst sympyoms have been just before I pass the cysts in my cycle. So having a very large cyst removed will only help with your hormones I think. Good luck with your surgery. Prayers for you 🙏🙏, I am such a chicken when it comes to surgery. I have an enlarged retroflexed uterus sitting on my lower spine filling up with fibroids. I am trying to avoid removing my uterus. Will try bio identical creams for a few months to see if it helps balance my hormones in hopes my fibroids shrink. If not I am going to have to bite the bullet and have my uterus removed. Hope you are having a symptom free day and can enjoy your Easter. I already had my morning cry when I woke up this morning and slept for a whole 2 hours last night.😂😂. These symptoms I tell you .

      Debbie ❤️

    • Snowbell1975
      Snowbell1975 debbie_18471

      Posted

      Oh thank you Debbie! You gave me some hope! I have a retroflexed uterus as well but dont want to remove it. I read its one of the main blood suppliers to the remaining ovary and some women never regain that remaining ovarys use after the uterus is out. Im like you and scared of surgery as well. Maybe thats why my anxiety is aggravated right now, subconsciously having the fear of the upcoming surgery in the back of my head.
    • marie25874
      marie25874 debbie_18471

      Posted

      Thank you Debbie. My husband doesn't always understand why writing to and reading other people's posts helps so much. But it does. I can easily convince myself that I have a deadly disease. This bloating and feeling of fullness came on so suddenly. It's crazy. You think you can't possibly have another negative feeling or ache and here comes another one that leads to such anxiety...it's all consuming. Happy Easter to you and I hope the creams work well...would love to hear how it goes for you. ❤️Marie
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