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Lately I Don't Think I Will Make It Through Perimenopause Alive!!!!!

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debbie_18471
debbie_18471

This has been the worst 3 weeks of my life with these perimenopause symptoms. I'm soon to be 49. I thought my symptoms were getting better. Then on March 8th started having bad stomach cramps and low back pain which lasted 2 1/2 weeks. Then the terrible indigestion started with heart palpitations and then of course major anxiety. My period which has been about every 18 days since December is now late. I live each day in fear and terror of heart palpitations and anxiety. I seriously feel like I might die everyday. This is absolutely no way to live. I feel bad for my poor husband and daughter. I am no wife and mother at this time. My daughter is 21 but I still feel horrible about the state I'm in. Sorry for the vent. Feeling hopeless like this journey will never ever end.

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  • brendababy
    brendababy debbie_18471

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    Debbie....this is a terrible time of life for some of us ladies, I can't believe how ill I've been feeling this past year

    My main symptoms are off balance/lightheadedness, feeling faint and woozy, anxiety, depression and not sleeping properly

    I've tried different HRTs but the side effects of some of them were intolerable

    I'm now on tibolone the side effects of this are milder, could you not try this?

    Try not to keep worrying, easier said than done I know but it really isn't helping you it's just making you miserable, try and carry on doing what your doing even when you have symptoms that way you'll become confident that you can cope, your fear will subside and your symptoms will be milder, it's worth trying

    I hope your posting soon that your feeling a bit better

    Take care

    Brenda x

    • debbie_18471
      debbie_18471 brendababy

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      Thanks for your reply Brenda. Your advice is very true. When I get certain symptoms I panic especially the heart palpitations. They always end up going away, next time I will try hard not to panic and like you said just try and continue to go about like everything is okay. I am going to also go to a doctor who specializes in bioidentical hormone creams. I need to balance these hormones so I can live again. Thanks again for encouragement and advice.

      Debbie ❤️

    • brendababy
      brendababy debbie_18471

      Posted

      Aww no Probs Debbie glad to help. My sister who is a year younger than me gets palps really bad and regular but she knows now that they're are just part of peri and she just gets on with what she's doing and keeps calm

      It's the same with any symptoms even the weird ones that are hard to explain like my head sometimes moves when I'm just sitting still it's weird but I know it's the hormones so just ignore it

      Good luck and let us know how things are going

      Brenda x

    • debbie_18471
      debbie_18471 brendababy

      Posted

      It really helped hearing about your sister too thank you. Yes I get that head movement thing when I'm just sitting watching TV. These symptoms are so weird. Thanks Brenda😊❤️
    • CCinCal
      CCinCal brendababy

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      Brenda

      Did you try bio identicals? I have same symptoms. The woozy off balance is awful isn't it? It messes with my mind to making me think all sorts of things like I'm gonna lose it. Then I have to remember it's peri. But my catastrophic thinking is getting best of me most days.

      CC

    • brendababy
      brendababy CCinCal

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      Ccincal....hi, I've tried a few HRTs but always gave up on them because of the side effects

      I was taking tibolone for a few months last year but my gyno changed it and said estradot 25 patch with natural progesterone - utrogestan 100, 1 X daily was better. I was taking that from 8th December last year but it never helped the balance woozy feeling at all

      Had a chat with my GP he said that tibolone was milder with less side effects so I decided to go back on it

      I've been on it for 11 days now, day 9 I started bleeding, not heavy but also brought on a migraine and terrible nausea, I think I'm messing my system up by changing HRT

      I've defo not been sleeping as well since I started the tibolone but I'm hoping that will change soon, I slept better with the patch and utrogestan but I'm sure that made me more off balance

      Like you I've developed a different way of thinking, I'm scared of everything, always questioning everything, the least little twinge or new symptom causes me to panic

      I dread mornings as I always awake with depressed feelings and dread

      I know as soon as I get up the off balance starts and woozy head. I don't want to be on my own and I have became very needy, my husband and sons are fed up listening to me

      I just feel claustrophobic and trapped, I've had the year from hell,had to resign from my job due to feeling ill all the time then my mum passed away in January this year. Due to tension and stress I've now got a stiff painful neck, accupuncture hasn't helped and physio have even gave up because I keep taking panic attacks when they try to move my neck cos I'm scared it makes my dizzy/off balance worse

      I've also got a history of ME so don't know if peri has caused a bit of a relapse with that

      Sorry for the long post but I just wanted to let you know a bit about me incase its of any help to you or any other ladies who may have similar symptoms

      I hope this passes soon cos I'm at the end of my tether with it all

      I hope someone may read this who can offer some reassurance that the balance problem does eventually settle and life can get back to some kind of normality

      All the best to you

      Love

      Brenda X

    • CCinCal
      CCinCal brendababy

      Posted

      Oh I hope it works for you. I don't think Tibolone is available in U.S. I didn't realize there were side effects with HRT. I had my blinders on thinking that's the cure. my mornings are the same and I'm having depression and anxiety. Thank God I found this forum. I really thought I was going insane. Some days I still do. Just can't believe this.
    • jenni70
      jenni70 brendababy

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      This is one wild roller coaster without any of the fun. I'm with you on many of your symptoms, except for medication related ones (only because I'm such a chicken to take anything), and this past year has been my worst as well (almost 46yrs - problems started at 40 and have just continued to layer on and make me worry about nearly every system/organ in my body).

      Perhaps it would help if your hubby could read what other women are saying about just how dreadful this can feel. My husband has been very supportive, but I know that he is confused by all of the symptoms that keep cropping up with me (just as I am). I think that it must be just as hard for others to understand, as it is for us. Since I found this thread a few nights ago (searching for answers yet again), I have since read some of the posts to my husband and he was gobsmacked that others were saying the same things that I have been saying at home here. I have seen my doctor more in the past 5 years than I have in the past 40 yrs combined prior.

      I have always had anxiety, however I am also a very practical, level headed person, so it has been challenging for me to "get on with life" while I sometimes truly feel like I won't see another year. A big statement, but sometimes I feel just that terrible and hopeless! I wouldn't say I'm depressed, though I wouldn't rule out depression as a byproduct of the constant anxiety, but managing this anxiety over the physical symptoms is extremely exhausting and sometimes downright terrifying.

      I have a feeling that I'm going to be on this message board alot over the next few months (hows that for positive thinking that it won't be years!)I was stopped in my tracks reading your post as you mentioned that your mother passed in January - my sympathy to you - and I truly believe that not enough can be said about the difficulties of handling stress as the body is undergoing this hormonal upheaval. I used to be able to handle my anxiety and stress responses, and even though I feel that I can handle things mentally/emotionally etc. now, my body tells me, "um, no...I think we're going to go in another direction". It's as though my body cannot manage much these days, which really brings the anxiety to the forefront. I hope that you can find ways to release this heavy stress load, as I'm sure that it is a contributor to your terrible year. There is alot to be said for the level of stress and the sadness that you are coping with right now. My heart really goes out to you. Take care.

  • Zigangie
    Zigangie debbie_18471

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    Hi debbie,

    Look into bio identical HRT, if you are able to use it.

    It's made a big difference for me. My youngest daughter is a year older than yours and I feel the same, I was not the same mother for her as I was to the older 2.

    Now she's emigrating to Canada in June and I've missed so much of the last 10 years being wrapped up in all this meno stuff.

    Now feeling a bit more like myself.

    The HRT stopped heart palpitations and aches and pains and a lot of other stuff too.

    I only wish someone had offered it years ago.

    • debbie_18471
      debbie_18471 Zigangie

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      Hi Zigangie thank you for your reply. Yes I have tried so hard to go through this naturally but it is just not working. I have all the symptoms plus my uterus is filling up with fibroids and getting bigger. I know my hormones are all out of whack. I do feel so bad about my daughter. I have missed out on her last two years. It really saddens me. I need to get my life back. I am going to go to doctor who specializes in bioidentical hormone creams. Praying this works. Take Care and enjoy your wonderful children.

      Debbie ❤️

    • CCinCal
      CCinCal Zigangie

      Posted

      Zigangie

      Did you have to try different ones before you found the ones that worked for you?

      CC

    • Zigangie
      Zigangie CCinCal

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      I was offered premarin and after reading about it I threw it straight in the bin. At the time I thought it was all that was available.

      Then I tried tibolone and got awful breathing problems 3 weeks in, can't say it was that for sure.

      I then was trying to find the cheapest way of seeing a specialist when I found out that one recommend oestrogel and Utrogestan googled it found out you can get it on NHS and went from there.

    • CCinCal
      CCinCal Zigangie

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      I can't believe they are still prescribing Premarin. It pays to do your research. Glad the bio identicals are working for you. Cross my fingers I can get them to. The doctors appointments are a month or more wait so it's so frustrating.
    • Zigangie
      Zigangie CCinCal

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      I know I think because there's more money in the horse urine ones.

      They can't patent estradiol only the delivery method.

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