Like convincing my therapist to continue therapy

It´s often said that you should talk to the therapist about the relationship and if there are things that doesn´t feel good in therapy or if there is something to change.

So I did and I didn´t have any specific critique but wanting my T to express more understanding and to focus on things I tell her, not just rush into solutions or the "next step" in things.

I like talked and talked and of course she added some comments to it but now afterwards I just feel it was like convincing her to continue therapy. It was not that she had said we should quit but she earlier said she was a little hesitant about being the right therapist for me.

I did much of what she should have been doing, talking about alternatives, showing that I also appreciate what she´s doing, I tried to be considerate in what I told her and so on.

But afterwards I just feel she doesn´t care, she didn´t made any effort to show that she wants to adapt, even if she didn´t say she wouldn´t adapt. It was like convincing her to continue therapy by showing I can accept different things and put it in a perspective.

I really felt like e-mailing her today and say I quit, I´ve done what a client should do; bring things up, being honest and so on. I know I´d feel bad about waiting for an answer to my e-mail and then having to process it all on my own when she confirms we quit therapy. I wish I could just go on after ending it, not caring but unfortunately that´s not reality.

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