Loneliness

         tian .in yorkshire

I know how u feel! I get really stressed with my husband.  He doesnt understand and he is selfish.  If I spend time with my kids he says u go around ur kids when u feel good and I get the worst of u.  I dont feel good around my kids either, but I deal with it.  When I am home I lay around a lot cause I m in pain and tired.  We have had separate rooms for 6 years.  It used to bother me cause I wanted the affection, but I dont care anymore.  I feel better in my own room.  He cant sleep with me cause I grind my teeth, have sleep apnea, and insomnia.  I usually watch tv or play on my ipad.  I get depressed sometimes but I think about my grandchildren, they r my life.

he treats you like its your fault, instead of trying to find ways you could do sexaul relationship like massage first and being more gentle he cant be bothered ,i no this because its a mirror image of my life,

i used to try and explain that i still wanted a sexual relationship but i need differant things along with it ,but he just used to say if your not happy you no where the door is , how can you move on with that kind of remark, i felt like a dried up prune and no good for nothing , my life was a drudge

i sleep alone and grind my teeth not surprizing really.

i v made a male friend thru you tube and its nice when someone says nice things to you ,like morning sweetheart , it will proberly remain just a friendship but its made all the differance to how i feel about my self .

and that i can still be attractive to men . myself estem has gone up a fair bit since talking to him. 

and now my husband is trying to impress me taking me out more and not moaning about it, doing more for me without mentioning it all the time, all because of some guy thats chatting me up by text , that i havnt even met and unlikely to .

suddenly he now sees me and not my illness first . but its to late his hurt me so much with his uncaring mannor and remarks ,i dont think we will continue for much longer but we will see what happens . . try to make the best of your self do something for you each day , find a friendship site. i dont me dating site and chat with others .in your age group . sorry i cant do anything but understand .

you take care . tian x north yorkshire xxx

Tanks for the understanding.  We have been together 20 yrs.  Kinda a bad habit u cant break.  We havent had sex since my Mother died 6 yrs ago and bf that 1 or 2 times in 4 yrs.  He says if u want sex u know what to do. He doesn't understand that I want to b held and caressed.  I used to cry in my bed cause I wanted to b held.  Its not let like I couldn't have sex with one of my coworkers where I was working.  Not what I , needed!  

Financially its hard to live alone.  Especially on disability income.  We have alwYs had our finances separate.  We share the bills and he owns the house.  Already pd!  I just deal with it. He is very tight with money!. 

my second is just selfish emotionly . so iv done well havnt i . two husbands two disaters .

i would be a lot happier on my own ,but like you i feel trapped by fianaces , and circumstances theres not much help out there and council probertys are hard to come by

, we cant sell and even if we did there wouldnt be a lot left being a seond marriage and taking out a mortgage in our late 30s .

so is it your husband who dosent want sex ,or have you just driffted apart . any how shattered . so will say goodnight .hope you feel a bit more positive tomorrow . i know its not easy i really do .

if we could afford to go our seperate ways we would have years ago .so we are trapped in bad marriage with no way out . just because its not violant dosent me its not cruel . tian x

My guy never mentions having sex, so I never mention it to him.  I think he would rather take care of himself.  No contact involved.  

My kids would love it if I left him.  They have developed a real good relationship with him.  He never had kids so he was jealous of my kids.  I put my kids first bf anyone.  They really want me to b happy.

My grandchildren really make me happy.  Eventhough they wear me down they keep me younger.  Because of them I get up in the morning.  Otherwise I would stay in bed.   

my middle daughter is 27 and has no intension of having kids , and my son has aspergers so it will never happen ,i have nothing to look forward to except death .

i have my two dogs  thats about it. my husband is pretty much the same DIY as long as his ok .. you sound so unhappy just like me except for you r grandkids . have you thought of leaving or is it to much to compreend . regards tian x

hoping things are getting better. I went on some anti depression meds and I feel so much better, mentally and physically. Even my partner has changed his attitude. 

Keep in touch . Always thinking about you. (( hugs)) HOPE 

iv just found a nutritionist in my local area that does consultations on the gaps diet .so i shall book an appointment and get some info and understanding on it .